Get a tattoo but hide it from husband

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I know this is impossible. I'm pretty sure that sounds stupid. I don't have tattoos, maybe I wasn't ready for them. But now I have a great desire to get a tattoo. Perhaps this is a surge of emotions after childbirth.
My husband thinks I might make a mistake that I will regret. I can't convince him otherwise, but I have an idea to show him some cute tattoos and maybe he'll approve of my decision.
I know a lot of moms get tattoos of their kids' names or something like that. Share your sketches. I'll be so grateful😍

It's not about approval it's about considering your partners feelings and taking them into account. It doesn't mean you have to obey them.

The fact it's a tattoo is no different from say a man who wanted to suddenly put those stretch things ing his ears or a ring through his cock, his wife may hate those things.

What if one of them wanted to become a goth or a punk or any other kind of themed appearance?

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Op, why not print out the design you like and have it as a framed picture and then if in a years time you still want it on your body, make a decision then.

I don't know how you'd hide it. And surely he'd react badly if he found out later. If you've had a baby recently, I'd be inclined to wait a bit - it's a massive change. Keep track of tattoo ideas you like, and see how you feel in 6 months.

I think it's your body and up to you what you do with it. You don't need anyone's permission. I've got lots of piercings and I just go and get one when I want, I've never even mentioned it to DH until afterwards a lot of the time. I don't think he likes them but I don't really care. That said, they don't actually alter my appearance.

I don't like tattoos, but my ex husband had lots and it was fine with me, it didn't make me less attracted to him or anything (it was his personality that did that...) and I didn't notice them after a while. If my now DH wanted one I wouldn't try and stop him unless it was going to be on his face or neck, or it was offensive in some way.

He would probably get used to it to be honest, and it's your own body at the end of the day. But I wouldn't hide it, and the fact that you are considering this makes me feel like there must be other stuff going on in your relationship.

How about getting a henna or inkbox type tattoo first . It will give you a better idea of what you want , particularly regarding the size and placement.

Inkbox link

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Feeling sick about a little bit of ink on your husband's skin seems an over reaction.

You can't hide it man. They need care afterwards and ice packs for any itching.

My husband hates them, he grumbles when I plan my next one. But ultimately it's my skin. He hasn't murmured at the memorial one I'm planning after losing one of my kids. I don't think he would dare

I like the sketches you've posted. Simple, easy on the eye and won't take that long to do.

as a retired tattoo artist both are beautiful as, a mom and a woman
they are beautiful..mom tattoos are so cool.i had a lady that came to me in1980 she had 4 girls and she let each one pick a flower.see her every year and still make sure the colors clear.go it
your body

Not a fan of tattoos, and my partner knows it. I think it's put him off getting one. However, if he did get one, that's his choice. I wouldn't stop him or give him a hard time.

While it is your body and your choice, when you are married kind of the point is that you consider the other person. And tattoos are divisive.

I know my DH doesn't like them and would find it unattractive. I'd like him to carry on finding me attractive so although it's my body, I would be seriously considering his reaction.

@cardibach

'Feeling sick about a little bit of ink on your husband's skin seems an over reaction.'

I'm repulsed by tattoos as is my husband and my family.

I can admire the artwork of some of the top tattoo artists but having it permanently inked on skin is just revolting.

thanks for calling those of us with tattoos revolting.

Absolutely it’s your skin and you can do what you want with it.

it’s also understandable if a partner doesn’t like them and is up front that having one would impact how attractive they find you

its then your call as to what to do with that information

You are absolutely entitled to have a tattoo. Just as he is absolutely entitled to say he doesn’t fancy you afterwards (or whatever). He has warned you and it’s up to you. Decide what is Important and do what’s best for you.
FWIW, I’m triggered negatively by tattoos (long story) and if my husband got one my vagina would instantly close up permanently.

I get not liking it. But ‘sick’ and ‘repulsed’ seem very violent reactions. I’m just trying to understand why it would get you like that - none of my business I realise. Just musing.

Bloody hell that's a strong reaction! I see a lot of tattoos because of my work in health. Most are pretty shite but I could never say I felt anything other than mild interest in them tbh.

@cardibach i can’t speak for the author of the post, but for me I was violently raped by someone covered in tattoos - one was a swastika, seriously.
hy second guess or doubt why someone may hate them?

Your body, your choice and all that.

But...You can’t expect your husband to like it though. I dislike tattoos, I’ve never seen one that I think looks good and if my partner had one, I’d hate it, especially if it was something to do with our children. As we both have always disliked them, it would feel like a shift in his thinking which would feel a bit unsettling. I think it would put me off him a bit as tattoos are an ick for me.

My question was to the OP, who clearly communicated that they would like their husband to approve.

It's your body, your decision 🤷🏻‍♀️

Do it - you won't regret it but do be prepared for the addiction 🤣

I always say I'm having no more - I now have 8 and about 10 planned 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣

YOU can do whatever you want with YOUR body

You shouldn’t need to convince him it’s your body.

In your situation I think I would bide my time a bit and see how you feel when the hormones are settled.

I wouldnt try to hide it from him, he will likely see it eventually and probably be more upset that you hid it. But ultimately its your body and your choice whether he likes it or not. Most people are either in the pro tattoo camp or firmly against them. I had loads of tattoos when I met DH and he had none, he has loads now too. MIL hated him getting tattoos but now 13 years later she even has one herself 🤣 people can change their minds about them. Choose something tasteful and meaningful, im sure youll win him over. But if not, do it anyway and he will survive. It doesn't affect him in any way