Get a tattoo but hide it from husband

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I know this is impossible. I'm pretty sure that sounds stupid. I don't have tattoos, maybe I wasn't ready for them. But now I have a great desire to get a tattoo. Perhaps this is a surge of emotions after childbirth.
My husband thinks I might make a mistake that I will regret. I can't convince him otherwise, but I have an idea to show him some cute tattoos and maybe he'll approve of my decision.
I know a lot of moms get tattoos of their kids' names or something like that. Share your sketches. I'll be so grateful😍

Though I understand what your husband is saying, it's completely up to you what you put on your body so if you are completely sure then go for it 😁

I really thought about these tattoo design 🤗

Ooh the first one is beautiful. Simple but lovely 😍

Do you not remove clothes / be naked around your DH?

There's something more at play here OP, you're coming across as being scared.of him or his reaction

My DH doesn't like tattoos, doesn't have any, would never have any
I have several. They're on MY body, and, FWIW, I had them all when we met. I haven't had more because I haven't seen anything I love, not because of his opinion, judgement or inclination.

How do you actually intend on him not seeing the tattoo? Why do you feel the need to be so secretive about it?

Exactly. It melted my heart. Maybe it will work the same way with my husband 😂

Fingers crossed for you 🤣

first, congratulations on your baby. As with everything else, don't make a decision that cannot (easily) be changed within a year of childbirth/a death/big trauma.

but. if you want a tattoo - your body, your choice. Your DH can express a preference but the decision is yours. If you get one, don't try to hide it, don't lie, don't evade. Just do it, tell him and then show him. Especially if it's coming out of family money. (but even if it isn't)

It doesn't matter whether your husband likes it or not, it's on your body, not his. And if you do make a mistake with a design you change your mind on then that's on you, and just one of those things. Tbh most people past teenagers tend to think more carefully about what they have done, it's not usually an impulse decision.

To a greater extent, I would like to achieve my husband's approval. Or at least understanding that this is not an emotional act that I will regret. All the questions “why do you need this”, “what will you do with it later” make me nervous. This will be my first tattoo. Perhaps this is normal. What do you think?

@MermaidEyes Thank you very much. Your last sentence inspired me. And it's true! I'm not a child. And I am able to think everything over and do the right webor. This is simply wonderful!

How against them is your husband?

It's your body and your choice but my husband and I are completely against having them and it would be very difficult if one of us changed our minds and wanted one.

I would feel sick if my husband had a tattoo.

My exh hated tattoos.. I got 2.. He turned purple and declared he could never sleep with a tattooed woman.. Win bloody win people!!
Your body your choice op.

This is your husband, the person you have had a child with. He's going to notice.

It's similar to cutting your hair - it's your hair/your body but it is likely that he will have his own feelings about it.

He has stated his feelings. He doesn't like it. It's up to you whether you are happy to disregard this because you do like it, and you like it enough to make the choice for yourself.

Why now? You say you've had a 'surge of emotions' - maybe give it a few months and see if you still feel the same way.

Whatever happens, talk to him about it. It's not his decision to make, but that doesn't mean he can't have an opinion.

Exactly this. The tattoo idea is fine, the design is up to you, but don’t do it until your baby is 1!

To be honest, my husband and I, like your family, had similar opinions. No tattoos, they have no meaning. But something has changed... Can I really upset him so much with my changes in my mind?

I have a lot of tattoos. I really DAGF if people (anyone at all) likes or approves of them or not. I have thought long and hard about each one, if i can live with it, if it sends a message about me (negative or positive) and so on. And i have never thought of a tattoo that i want that i haven't actually got on me.

I am happy that my football team one is small, but i am still happy i have it.

Tattoos, like any body modifications, are very personal. You have to be fully committed. If you are going to be second-guessing your husband's reaction, or waiting (in vain, by the sound of it) for his approval - don't get the tattoo.

How long have you wanted this specific tattoo? The advice I've seen in lots of places is to wait 6 months, then if you still like the design you're unlikely to regret it. And it would give your dh time to come around to the idea too, so there'd be no need to try to hide it.

Do what you want. It's your body. But I do say with tattoos, once you know what you want....wait six months. Then see if you still want it

Your husband doesn’t have a say in what you do with YOUR body.
If you want one, get one!

we both dislike them so it’s unlikely to ever come up. If he changed his mind in years to come it’s got nothing to do with me.

@TheChosenTwo @Comedycook @RiaOverTheRainbow I thank you for the advice. Indeed, waiting 6 months would be correct.
Let's just say that I will have a lot of time to choose a design for a tattoo or change my mind.
Or I hope that I will have more confidence to get a tattoo. And I will be able to see in my husband that he can accept my change of mind. Otherwise, what to do next? We will always want to change..and if we don't support each other it can be difficult.

Absolutely it is your body and your choice. But would a tattoo change your dhs attraction to you? Some people are completely put off by them.
For eg how would you feel if your dh got loads of piercings including those big ones that stretch your ear lobes?
Of course it is your decision, but there may be consequences to it that I would consider before jumping in.

Do you think that my husband can gently hint to me about his reluctance to see a tattoo on me? After all, we lived for many years without tattoos and we were not interested in creating them on our bodies.

I had mine done in my 20s and 30s. I haven't regretted any of them. If I'd had them done at 18 I know I would have. DH waited until 50 for his first one to be sure!

Why do you need his approval?

I dont know your husband and how frank he is. Perhaps he is hinting in a roundabout way. Why else would he be reluctant and questioning you doing it?