Get a tattoo but hide it from husband

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I know this is impossible. I'm pretty sure that sounds stupid. I don't have tattoos, maybe I wasn't ready for them. But now I have a great desire to get a tattoo. Perhaps this is a surge of emotions after childbirth.
My husband thinks I might make a mistake that I will regret. I can't convince him otherwise, but I have an idea to show him some cute tattoos and maybe he'll approve of my decision.
I know a lot of moms get tattoos of their kids' names or something like that. Share your sketches. I'll be so grateful😍

You must have a very weak constitution if tattoos make you feel sick.

I hate tattoos and know so many who’ve regretted what they have had and had to have them removed or covered up. However, you don’t need anyone’s approval to do what you want to your body. If you want one, go and get one today!

I went through a phase of strongly wanting a tattoo. I have never wanted one at all before but suddenly was obsessed. I’m glad I didn’t go out and get one because I’ve completely changed my mind. I would strongly urge you to wait on this decision for a while and see if you still want one.

As for your DH, it’s not his decision at all and you don’t need his approval. Neither DH or I have tattoos but we would never stop the other if they wanted one.

I understand that, my husband was exactly the same when I first wanted one. He doesn’t really like tattoos and wasn’t supportive of me getting one. I’d been thinking about it for at least a year, I knew roughly exactly what I wanted (I knew I wanted a certain flower in watercolour style, but I couldn’t quite picture it). I had the money, I booked a consultation with an artist and we went over what design I wanted and she said she’d sketch something up and we booked my appointment. I turned up on the day, she showed me the sketch and it was exactly what I’d hoped for. I sent a pic to my husband and he was like “Oh I don’t know, you should come home and think about it some more, maybe go back in a few weeks to get it done.” Bear in mind that I was at the actual tattooing appointment and I’m sure if I’d just left they’d have charged me for it. He kept trying to persuade me to go back home and we’d discuss it 🙄 as if I’d not been thinking about it for a year and was just doing it on a whim.

Anyway I ignored him and got it done as planned.

Hmm very ott reaction. I've not smeared shit on my arms.

Don't do it until your baby is at least 12 months old! I never wanted tattoos, when my eldest was 3 months old I got a tattoo it was the worst decision I ever made it was tacky and horrible. Since then I've had 8 more tattoos 1 of which is a cover up that my son designed to replace it with another one with his name.

My other 2 children I waited until they were a year old, designed the tattoos and loved them. (I also designed some when they were about 3 months old which I quickly realised were hideous)

I have this for me and my son! (It looks wonky, it isn't - just the way I've positioned my arm to take the photo)
I have lots of tattoos, big and small.

I would recommend doing your research on a tattooist and make sure you have really thought about placement. I work on a professional setting and I don't have any that I can't cover up if required! I also would take into account what your husband thinks however ultimately it's your body so it's your choice!

All the questions “why do you need this”, “what will you do with it later” make me nervous.

Err, what?

What will you do with it later?? Later when?

Your body your choice. Nothing to do with husband. Go get that tattoo

One on the right is quite nice, simple and quite classy as tats go. Think the one on the left is a bit chavvy.

Congrats on your baby, OP, and by the way, the first picture is just so lovely.

i didn’t get a tattoo til I was 58, I wanted it but didn’t want it where it was obvious, so it’s in the nape of my neck. You have to lift my hair to see it. It was just a plain “pencil” drawing when I had it done, but last year I had it coloured in.

From my personal experience, it didn’t really hurt when it was drawn but some of the colouring in was a bit of a bastard… I had tears of pain rolling down my face😳
As others have said, it’s your body, your choice!

I’ve wanted one for years but couldn’t decide what or where. In the end I bit the bullet and went for it, I got something that means a lot to me and represents my kids and losses so I figure surely I will never hate it if it means something!

It rather depends on the man, I once had a complete hairstyle change (very drastic) and my husband took 3 days to notice!

Get the tattoo! I have 3. You don't need his permission, it's your body!

I would wait until you’ve finished having children. If you have the first one, then have more kids, you’ll have to have one for all of them and that could be more than you ideally want.

I have never liked tattoos and have basically never seen any I would want on my skin. I believe people are free to do what they like with their bodies and I'm free to feel as I do.

But having survived a major illness there is a part of my brain that contemplates a tattoo that references what I've been through.

My husband understands and respects it's my choice.

I'm not rushing into it, my feelings may change.

I like the idea of printing it out and seeing how you feel a year from now. Is a year really so long in a lifetime of motherhood?

If you’re wanting a tattoo I don’t think you’ll regret it if you pick one you really like! I really wanted a tattoo when I was in my 20s but I couldn’t decide on what and I was scared it would hurt too much 🤦🏽‍♀️😆 Fast forward to my 30s and 2 boys later, I thought if I can give birth to 2 babies then I can get a tattoo! So I got my first tattoo end of last year and my 2nd one earlier on this year and I don’t regret them at all (nor did they hurt much)! If anything it’s just made me want some more 🤭 These are my 2. My newest one with the boys names needs going over the names, just waiting to get booked in once the lady is back to work!
I say go for it!!

It’s your body. You pushed a human out of it! You don’t need your husband’s approval. If you want unobtrusive that you can choose to show or not, I’ve seen women with tats on back of neck (so covered by their hair) and on small of back.

As others have said its your body so your choice. If you're thinking of maybe getting a facial tattoo or a design that is insensitive to someone elses belief system - particualarly if you live with them - then maybe not.
But it sounds like you've given it a lot of thought already so why not start with something small & meaningful, maybe discreet too, then see how you feel about any others.
Im mid-60s & got my first ink done just a few years ago - an Unalome design that is on my centre upper back. My own little secret - unless I wear something to show it & share it :)

Your choice not his but if he’s worrying you’ll change your mind, that’s not a foolish worry. I wouldn’t suggest doing this until your baby is a year old. I understand that feeling of wanting to mark that everything has changed but there are ways to do this other than a tattoo. So give it some time. If you still want it in 6-9 months then go for it and don’t try to hide it.

There are lots of people on Etsy who will turn a tattoo design into a temporary transfer so you can give it a trial run.