AIBU to ask bridesmaid to hide her tattoos

[Carolinesyear]

My best friend is getting married in the summer and it's to be the dream wedding, she is taking it all very seriously. She is to have 4 bridesmaids one of whom is her fiancé's sister, said sister loves body art and they have been getting progressively larger and more over the top, the latest one is HUGE, takes up her entire arm, it is a coloured one of a celebrity (I attach a photo of a similar tattoo but not the same, just for scale)
My friend wants to ask her future SIL to cover her arms for the wedding as she thinks they'll ruin the photos, ie with a sleeved dress or belero. I feel this is a bit bride-zilla of her but kind of get her point about the photos. I thought this would be an interesting Mumsnet question
Is she being unreasonable?
Hehe let rip!

@AosSi

I'm really amused by all the "ooh doctors think tattoos are classless" comments. What does it matter what doctors think? They aren't some rarified breed of human, superior to us. What they think doesn't matter any more than what baristas or binmen or hairdressers think.

Literally 😂

Like, oh well if a DOCTOR said it then ... 🤷🏻‍♀️ must be right.

Really you want a man to have a word with the little woman and see if she can be told what to do

No, maybe the groom could ask his sister how she’d feel about covering up.

The SIL hasn’t been asked to be a bridesmaid because she’s such good friends with the bride, OP doesn’t refer to them as friends at all. She’s been asked because she’s the groom’s sibling. Totally different dynamic.

@Doomscrolling doesnt matter.
In any other circumstances everyone on here would be up in arms over a man asking a women to change something about herself.

This is no different.

@BorderlineHappy

Is it possible for the fiance to have a quiet word with his sister? *@sashh* Really you want a man to have a word with the little woman and see if she can be told what to do.

I really dont get the judgement of tattoos.Im sure the sil is a lovely,kind woman.Thats why @Carolinesyear asked her to be BM.

@Babdoc i was in hospital recetnly and the amount of drs and nurses with tattoos was great to see.
And if you think people with tattoos are criminals.
Well i would rahter be that than an old sanctimonious two faced witch like you.

Nope I think siblings often know each other quite well and can often approach things in a way that is sensitive to the sibling.

If it was the bride's sister I would have suggested the bride spoke to the sister.

Mr (Sean) Bean

Completely the bride's choice in my opinion. It is her wedding. The bride/family is paying out for a special day and everything from the guest list down to the finest detail should accord with their wishes. This includes the appearance of the bridesmaids. Whilst we can respect each other's personal choices to have tattoos it is perfectly acceptable for someone not to like their tattoos and for that to inform their bridesmaid decisions, irrespective of how they otherwise view that person.

I however have a similar dilemma with my recently tattooed step daughter - we had hoped she would wait until after the wedding but accept it is her life. We love our (step) daughter to bits, but all of our family strongly dislike large, visible tattoos and wouldn't want them to feature on the photos so I have to decide what to do here as we have other daughters (discretely tattooed) and certainly wouldn't leave any one of them out. It might be we don't have bridesmaids as it is a low key, second wedding.

The thread is a year old, probably not a huge issue now.

easiest thing to do is to tell everyone to wear sleeves

Surely bridesmaids are chose because they're significant people to the couple, not because of how they look.

I'm not a fan of tattoos, but I really can't imagine asking anyone to change their appearance for the sake of a photograph in any circumstances.