Jive Bishop and The Surfettes: Surfing on

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Welcome to our support thread for anyone struggling with cocaine. Whether you want to quit, cut down or are someone whose life is affected, all welcome.
We offer non judgemental advice, tips, some absurd chat and most importantly lots of support and encouragement.
Come and join and we'll hopefully all help each other to surf the urges!

Thank you. We have 10 month old twins as well as 2 older kids so it's insanely hard going it alone. Good luck to all of you, keep fighting for your lives and your loved ones x

Good luck to you too. You're being really brave and brilliant and you definitely have the right MN name! Wishing you well

I'll just add, it's nothing short of amazing that you have kind words for us exhausted after all you're going through. I wouldn't blame you for calling us all selfish twats and bad parents! .
The fact that you can be understanding is quite remarkable so thanks.

I can see how hard you're all trying. I think my H is a fuckwit because he's not even tried to kick it, plus he's stolen money off us and deliberately left me without, and is blaming me for all his problems. You guys on here are taking responsibility and doing your best to stop. I have lots of respect for that.

God that sounds hard to deal with. The denial when you're in the grips of an addiction is just ridiculous. I suppose it'll dawn on him and he'll change or he'll sink further into self destruct? Thank goodness he can't drag you down with him.

Come on here and vent anytime. x

I just wanted to say, exhausted, I hope you are getting practical help/advice and haven't had to leave your home. Stay strong and don't give in he if says he'll change!

Thanks, no I don't have any support, I've kicked him out though, I'm not going anywhere. He's living above a bar he co-owns 🙄. He thinks he can manage to work in that environment while battling a coke addiction! I'm seeing a solicitor this week to get legal advice. I don't believe a word he says, I'm only interested in actions now and all his actions tell me that using is the only thing that matters to him now. Showed up this morning to collect the kids all glazed eyes and stuffed up nose.

Mumsnet is brilliant for supporting women in your situation. Especially the legal or financial threads for advice and us lot'll be cheering you on!

It's really sad that your husband has chosen a shitty pub flat and drugs over his lovely family. I'm sure he doesn't see it as his choice at the moment but I hope he one day realises that actually it is.

Off to bed. Surfboards at the ready tomorrow all x

Evening surfer dudes.
All set here for a clean week. I'm feeling all virtuous after running home from work and doing loads of housework when I got in.

Dusty hope you had a good festival! I watch festivals on the tele these days..

Having some wine and an early night tonight.

Hello lovely Lost, well done on your running, very impressive. I can't run at all at moment, it makes my legs and back hurt Final day of prep for holiday tomorrow, I get so stressed about it all, silly really I should be getting excited but I'm such an anxious soul. I'm sure it will be fab once we are there. We'll done on your surfing, doing really well! xx

Hope you have a great holiday Hooch.
I'm the same! I get all stressed and start dreading holidays. It's a pleasant surprise when I get there though . It helps if I write loads of lists.

Happy Tuesday all

Hello chaps. Still surfing. Enjoy your hols Hooch! Good work with the running lost!

I'm actually starting to feel in a good mood on the whole after some exercise. Get me, high on life. I have had a lot of coffee today though

Haha! That's good though lost - well done you!!

Festival was good, wet and muddy though. It went a bit like this:
Find interesting place to hang out. Preferably under cover. Get drink from cold bag. Give to Mr D to look after. Queue for portaloo. Go in, check lock. Remove rain soaked poncho, hang on door, thank god for hook. Try to dry hands on loo paper. Dry face and hair. Pee. Close lid. Do the do without getting anything wet or dropping anything into the inch deep mud on floor. Put everything away in bag/ pockets. Replace poncho. Flush. Hand sanitise. Go back out into the mud and rain trying not to slip en route. Find MrD talking to random "character". Drink up. Repeat.

Oh Dusty that sounds like hard work but it made me laugh . The rain ruins everything! At least you're home now

Next time have yourself catheterised first dusty!

All this stuff in the news about drug deaths and the train spotting generation is a bit worrying!

Just saw that in The Guardian Serial. Apparently us 40-49 year-olds are the high risk group.
We better start choosing life, choosing a big fucking television, choosing DIY and wondering who the fuck we are on a Sunday morning.

Today is dragging, it's pissing with rain and I'm not high on life today.
I might watch Trainspotting when I get home.

I've got a big fucking television.

I like choosing getting fucked up. Ps, I'm begbie, you can be sick boy!!

After a long rubbish day yesterday instead of going home, relaxing and having an early night like any sane person, I bought a couple of grams and got high as a kite.
Really regretting it now. My life feels like a sham.

Never mind lost. You feeling ok?

I'm still standing but annoyed with myself and a bit low..the usual self inflicted downer! If I could pinpoint the triggers maybe that would help but there seems to be a different excuse reason every time.
I'm just going to put it behind me and get back on my surfboard (again).

Thanks for asking ya wee radge

Sounds like Trainspotting was your trigger, Lost!