Cold turkey- help me when I'm tempted

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I'm about to go cold turkey from cocaine.
It's time to! Definitely
My weak points are when I'm tempted to buy some (usually evenings)

Can I message on here when I'm tempted for a pep talk on why I shouldn't & reassurance that it's ok?
I think it would really help me

Do you reckon we can do this?

Tried surfing the waves, flat but then thought it was working better if I just didn't think about it at all. A sort of head in the sand technique.
Why are you in Soho? !

Just driving through on way to Suffolk.....it was all so pretty and glamorous, made want to jump out and spend the evening there,

Oh yes I forgot it was a Long Way Away.
Hope it goes well. Decided not to go out tonight, not in the right frame of mind.
Just ignoring any thoughts and going to have another ruddy bath!

I'd happily scrub Russell down! Flat, have a lovely weekend going on holiday by mistake! And you too Clean! Me and lost will mope around having baths and going to bed early!!

You could imagine Russell in the bath with you, just to spice things up a bit!

Well done lost on changing your plans, think you did the right thing there

Nice one Ilost!

Looks like we're heading for a clean Friday all round

There's a thread on aibu about what mumsnet the musical would look like and apparently all are welcome so I propose a bath tub and a large slab of granite

I have said no to a line!! Am home and going to bed. THREE WEEKS!!!

Well done serial!! Happy clean weekend all

Good morning from sunny sober Suffolk!! Serial you are amaze! How does three weeks feel?

Ilostit how are you this morning?

I feel pretty good tbh! Have a great Saturday everyone!

serial you're a star. I'm not sure I could ever refuse a line if I was offered it on a plate. Now we can start tackling the bath addiction

Flat this must be your first sober weekend for a while. It's an achievement so hope you're walking round Suffolk feeling smug this morning! Enjoy the country air and that feeling of waking up with a clear head.
Clean Hope you're still feeling focused.

Resisted last night but need to do something about my apparent inability to go out socially without being overwhelmed with an urge to use . Any tips welcome.

Hi can I join too please. Have name changed for this for obvious reasons. My problem is my husband and alcohol!

I could easily sit in the house and have a drink without it but he is the one who makes the contact with someone to get some once he's had a drink and then once I have had a drink my resolve goes. We don't take it every week and have cut down loads. Last summer it was mostly every weekend we'd have a drink and end up with it. His best pal usually comes and has a drink with us and if we say no we can't afford it he says he will get it.

Ended up taking it Xmas night with a load of people who came to ours to a party then never slept and kept going until 3am on the 27th!!! I was totally disgusted with myself. Had a night out with friends on the 29th (this is a friend of my husband who deals it on the side so just provides it for free when with him, he's a major problem) although I promised myself I wasn't sitting at theirs till seven am and did leave at 3 and then came home and sat up till six thirty here!! New Year's Eve came and we were going to my sisters and I said I absolutlry wasn't taking anything. Never even wanted to go. I kind of know if we drink we will end up with stuff and I will despise myself for the next three days. Anyway they did end up getting it. I had three ciders refused taking stuff and left after the bells and left them to it. Dh got in about half four. I went back at 12 pm on the first to get my bag I'd left and they were all still sitting up and I felt so glad id left early.

Didn't touch it from the 29th until my husband came in from work last Saturday with drink. Basically out fate was sealed.

I need to stay off drink. If it weren't for him I know I'd easily avoid it. I don't get cravings for it or anything when not drinking or Day to day. He was away working for 20 weeks last year and I never wanted it once. The one girls night out I had my friend messaged me in advance saying she had organised it between the four of us and i messaged back I'm not interested, don't want it and she was raging cause she had already organised it. Even though I was never asked.

There won't be any risk this weekend of taking it. But next Friday we are going to cinema and then out so need to be strong and say just drink.

I agree re: alcohol. I'm pretty much tee total now which has helped massively.

We used to be on it about 5 nights a week but are resolved to staying clean now. Still feeling ultra focussed. In fact, we saw a movie on TV last night that mentioned coke and didn't bat an eyelid.

Have you spoken to your dh Get? I hashed it out with mine the other day and turned a massive corner.

Get, that sounds difficult. However I am that you are having it thrust at you from every direction! Not sure how I'd cope with that. My use is secret and involves a very limited circle of friends so is easy to avoid.

Ilostit thanks for the encouragement! Just had a massive fry up and off to see the sea!! Feels good! I think you are doing great, don't rush your recovery, there will be a time where you will forget the feeling coke gives you and going out won't be associated with use.

Get really glad you have joined us, I too am you can get it for free. But totally appreciate your dilemma. I definitely do way more than I would because of DH. Have a chat with him for sure.....

Omg have definitely turned a corner! Dh had a mate who owed him 50 quid from ages ago (we'd both forgotten) dh had the cash in his hand and neither one of suggested making a call.

We can do this ladies!!

Hi, GotTo welcome to our support thread . I agree, alcohol definitely destroys your resolve and also of course being surrounded by friends or partner that use.

Cleaning's advice is brilliant. You need to bite the bullet, sit dh down and tell him how you feel about cocaine and how he can help you stay off it.
For now, it sounds extreme but have a break from alcohol and that circle of friends and concentrate on getting yourself feeling better. It's boring but basically involves staying in a lot! That can change when you're stronger.

In the nicest possible way, I would say try not to blame everyone else around you, and try to look at your cocaine use as your choice, if that makes any sense? That will help you to take back some control.

Let us know how you're getting on.

Thanks for the encouragement flat you're right, I'm probably trying to rush things. Back to baby steps. I think I will go out in the near future some of the mums are meeting in the pub for a few drinks so that feels fairly "safe".
I know you like surfing but don't go doing it in the actual sea now! Bbbrrrrr

Go Cleaning ! Waves pom poms.

Thanks for the pom poms Ilost!

Yy to baby steps and looking to oneself re: choices that we make.

I have spoke to my dh loads. He loves us taking it because it makes sex so explosive I definitely take full responsibility for myself and taking it. Everyone in my whole town practically takes it socially when drinking. People that don't are in the minority. My husband has one friend who has never touched it. I have quite a few. If you are at a party no matter what it's for or whose it is, it's guaranteed there will be people there taking it openly. Even weddings and baby showers and stuff!!

We have decided for every night we have a drink we will put fifty quid away in savings. Then go more holidays this year with what we save.

We have quite a lot of people who are happy to pay for it and come socialise with us. My husbands cousin who is a single guy and earns a fortune so he kind of use to pay for our company. We'd say no cash, sorry not up for it. Hed reply I will bring the vodka and stuff. Then my husbands friend I mentioned earlier and his other friend who deals.

It's rife round here, and it's a well off town we are in so not what you'd imagine. Far too easy to get and too hard to avoid but Iv proven to myself I can avoid it, it's just whether I want to on any given night once I get a drink in me. Wish I'd never touched the stuff. It's definitely psychological. My husbands cousin we started avoiding as he was becoming a bit of a pest and so he started taking it himself and is now going to ca groups as he was taking up to 14-20grams on a Friday and Saturday.

It starts off a social drug but changes conpletely if it gets a hold of you. I know a few guys who are addicted in secret.

Decided just to avoid alcohol next Friday. Going to go a local shopping centre about forty minutes drive away and will have dinner and then go to the cinema there rather than the local one and pub.

Now if only I could find some energy to do some cleaning 😂

Avoidance strategies sound like a good plan, Got and see how you go from there.

Far too easy to get, and hard to avoid yes I feel like that sometimes! It's great you have friends that don't touch it. Perhaps aim to do things socially with them more. Certain situations and friend groups where it's rife normalise it too much and like you say, it's a slippery slope.

Please tell me 20 g was a typo?! Your Dh's cousin is really into heart attack/serious mental health problems territory. I hope he's getting the help he needs. It's very easy to develop an insatiable appetite for the bastard coke.