Intimate waxing

[ToadRage]

A friend of mine keeps telling me to get this done but I just don't have the confidence. I like the idea of being hair free down there and the bits I can't quite reach with my razor but I still can't bring myself to book it. Do a lot of women do this and how did you get over the initial embarrassment?

If you have tiktok, look at an account called @ thebrazilianwaxcompany (sorry Mumsnet won't let me post the account name without a space after the @). She's so nice and her account is all about answering 'embarrassing' questions and dispelling fears around intimate waxing

My friend does it - she says she has as many vulvas as a gynaecologist 😂

Hair removal cream or foam
put on
leave
wash off
job done

if you are really that bothered!

I’m a recent convert to Hollywood waxing. The lady I went to said I could leave knickers on if I wanted to but that I’d get a better result without. She said she does so many in a day that it takes more than a vulva or bum hole to shock her!

I just stripped off, she was vey good at putting me at ease. Not hugely painful, and I’m very happy with the result.

Why do you assume women do it for men?

I get waxed for me, because I prefer it and feel cleaner. DD16 (not even sexually active) is the same.

I used to have regular waxes but I really hate the whole process. Yes, I know they see the same thing all day everyday and all that. I have had children too but obviously not one every 5 - 8 weeks or so!

So if you don't want to do it, you should definitely not feel pressured at all. It is fine to take care of it at home with a bikini trimmer or whatever. I actually prefer that to waxing. It is also fine to not get rid of it at all!

Do what You want to do
Don’t let your ‘friend’ bully you into something your not comfortable with
fur or no fur it’s your body

My mum had lost all her pubic hair by the time she was 75 and definitely didn't look pre-pubescent as a result!

Honestly can’t see why any friend would be remotely bothered about whether someone else has their public hair removed. It’s beyond bizarre.

You looked?!!

I have a Hollywood every few weeks, the first one felt awkward but after that it was fine, and not painful either. Definitely advise getting a recommendation if you go for it, I went with a lady who was really highly recommended and she’s brilliant and has become a good friend. I find the regrowth much better than it was from shaving

I saw when I helped her wash and dress.

I've had it all lasered off apart from a strip at the front - love how it looks and feels, did it for me, not a man.

OP, it's ultimately your choice - if you don't want to do it, don't, but if you do there's definitely no reason to feel embarrassed - the beautician does this all the time!

i’ve been thinking the same!!! but like you i’m a bit nervous! not so much of the pain but the idea of getting my bits out

I now do my own with a stripless hot wax kit (similar to Lycon), highly recommend if you’ve had it done a few times and therefore know what you’re doing. It’s scary at first but once you get over the initial fear of pulling it’s no different to when the professional does it.

Oh goshhh yes to this! So much changes inside and out during puberty. Pre-pubescent and full adult genitals look very different regardless of hair.

Just do whatever YOU'RE most comfortable with, it has f-all too do with your friends, your partner, or random people on mumsnet 😂

OP - to answer your actual question... it is a strange position to be in, but totally normal for the beautician so any embarrassment you feel is all in your head, it's on you too negotiate that - if the embarrassment would make the whole thing toomuch for you, don't do it, it you think you can get over it and get through it, give it a try.

It is painful and depending on what your regrowth is like, you might not like the feel of it anyway. Honestly you'll only know if I'd for you if you try it once. I tried it, and decided to just continue with other methods as the results just weren't worth the discomfort, cost, etc.

I wear underwear and get an extended bikini wax done which means it’s the shape of your underwear and in a little. Solely done for when I’m going to be in a swimsuit and not even always then, otherwise I leave it, it’s all down to what you want, nobody really cares

I’ve been having a very minimal Brazilian landing strip for years now, but I’ve no idea if this is a popular style or not!

I have had it done for over 10 years now. I am 36! I love getting a Hollywood (so all off). Trust me, the embarrassment goes after a while and you get used to it. You get into all sorts of positions. We even have a giggle about it! It doesn’t take long. The more you get it done, the finer the hair becomes and the less there is to wax :)

Wow, the things women will do to themselves to alter their body is wild. It’s never occurred to me that you’d need to lie there like a smear test. I think if you feel embarrassed op, it’s because your instinct is telling you this is an intimate area and you’re about to show it to a stranger for an (imo) completely unnecessary reason.

You missed out a word there! Otherwise the answer is one (or zero, if the gynae is a man…)

This is what I do too.

I love having a fresh wax. My advice is go to a salon specialising in waxing, not just a massage place that does occasional waxes. The one I go to you have nothing on the bottom half at all and lie in a butterfly position. I can absolutely see this is embarrassing but it becomes less. And it feels so nice after.

To those of you saying how can you talk about that, we have been friends for years, we are close and talk about pretty much everything. I wouldn't just do it cos she told me, I have been considering it for a long while. I have investigated some local places online, maybe i will treat myself to a full leg and bikini line for my next holiday before I go for a full Hollywood.

@ToadRage i honestly find shins more painful than bikini and I have a Brazilian.