Intimate waxing

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A friend of mine keeps telling me to get this done but I just don't have the confidence. I like the idea of being hair free down there and the bits I can't quite reach with my razor but I still can't bring myself to book it. Do a lot of women do this and how did you get over the initial embarrassment?

God, if you’ve never been waxed before, DO NOT start with a Hollywood! The first time I had my legs waxed, I left with only one done, and I wouldn’t have let them anywhere NEAR my nethers! It hurts, you need to work up to intimate waxing I think.
Plus, you need to suss out if your therapist is any good. I have had some dreadful ones (I always try them on legs first) and I wouldn’t let a bad therapist anywhere near more painful areas.

haha this made me laugh!! I agree 100%! I don't like wading in the thicket of a forest trying to insert a tampon so, sometimes, the forest gets razed. No one is doing it for any sicko reasons. I just don't have a comb or the patience for that kind of thing so it gets whizzed off.

Luckily, I don’t get embarrassed.

However I have only done it once because I wasn’t particularly pleased with the results. The woman doing seemed embarrassed to be doing it and she just wanted it over and done with as quickly as possible.

I honestly can’t believe you didn’t see this response coming. Her mum is old. Lots of old people need personal care from loved ones who are kind enough to provide it.

I prefer to be waxed for sex - I find foreplay feels nicer. I don’t shave. Ever. I made a pact with myself many years ago, it doesn’t work for me.

if I’m not sexually active I still prefer it but I accept that might be the patriarchy in my head.

its not embarrassing / I did it once a months for about 20 years

I have monthly Hollywood waxes. It is more comfortable in the warm weather and makes life easier during periods. Looking at myself in a mirror, l prefer my hair-free appearance too; my choice.

The first couple of times are uncomfortable, take a couple of pain killers first, but l don’t feel the need for those any more, l find the body tends to get use to it. It’s certainly better than the dentist. And more or less like “hairdresser chat” while it’s being done.

Yes OP, l have close friendships with those l discuss everything with too. That’s the difference between being in a friendship with someone and being friends with someone. But only go for it if it is what you want.

As for those raising the old pre-pubescent chestnut (again), for starters l look nothing like a child when seen naked, l’m a 36F and my vulva does not resemble a child in anyway. But l assume those raising this argument all have hairy armpits and hairy legs? It is also offensive to those who have lost hair because of medical procedures such as chemo.

Finally, those saying it’s all for men, some lesbian women sport all off too.

First off OP, it's your choice not anyone else's.

I have regular tidy ups where I keep underwear on, but have a Hollywood when I am going on holiday and will be in swimwear. Strip wax is fine for my tidy up but I always choose Lycon hot wax for anything more. I go to a local salon that specialises in waxing and they are great. The therapists are quick, friendly and matter of fact and it's all over and done with (and relatively painless) before you know it. Interestingly they are all Eastern European and in fact the best waxes I have had in various salons before my current one have all been done by Eastern European ladies. I don't know whether they are trained differently.

The pre -pubescent thing......over some hair

So....any man who shaves his face is now pre-pubescent, or trying to be?

And presumably the same goes for under arm hair, and leg hair - if you remove those you are also looking or trying to look pre-pubescent, right?

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Unfortunately it's linked to the porn industry in a way that shaving your underarms isn't - child on the bottom, woman on the top type thing. It's is fucking grim, so I don't even want to go there - but it is a thing.

I apologise - my comment was poorly worded and I wasn’t intending to imply anything negative about women who choose to remove their public hair - as I said above, to each their own. It’s the assumption this is part of being “well-groomed” I have issue with.

After puberty boys and men can choose to shave their beards or not. For the most part, the default is for them to keep hair that develops elsewhere (underarms, legs) where it naturally appears.

This isn’t the case for girls, who just as they’re coping with periods and breasts and all the other challenging stuff of puberty must also start to maintain smooth underarms, legs and bikini lines to be considered ‘well-groomed’.

When I was young (long ago) this generally stopped at the bikini line. But, likely related to the advent of ubiquitous online porn and sexting, there are now new expectations about grooming intimate areas as well. And they again involve girls / women removing hair that naturally emerges as we mature.

I’ve learned a lot about what women themselves value about hair removal from this thread - comfort, better sex, etc. And I have no negative opinions whatsoever of women doing whatever they want to and with their bodies. (And I’m also not implying online porn and sexting are ‘bad’, just that they increase aesthetic focus on intimate areas.)

But I don’t agree that what you choose to do with your intimate areas should have any bearing on whether you consider yourself ‘well-groomed’. And I do resent the difference in expectation for men and women in this regard - and yes, that extends to underarms and legs.

No need to be embarrassed they've seen loads of fannies.

Just do that! I got my first one done at 25 which seems late. Encouraged by my best friend.

Hollywoods are great but you have to factor in regrowth. Brazilians better imo.

The only thing I would say for more intimate waxing you may want to take painkillers before it, also time of month (period) might be painful. And watch out for ingrowing hairs. The beautician will apply moisturiser to soothe afterwards maybe aloe based.

I don’t get one done much but got a plain Brazilian recently. Mostly for swimsuits, bikinis at the pool/beach.

How nice to someone on here apologise ❤️ for what was probably clumsy wording; most of us have done that at times.

Hair removal goes back to the days of ancient Roman bathouses, it is nothing new. Yes, teenage girls have a hell of a lot to go through in “finding themselves” (my wording, probably poor). What is important is their choices are theirs alone, accepting though that we are all influenced to a degree.

In addition though an increasing number of men are removing underarm hair at least. Personally, l don’t understand how deodorant can be as effect on a hairy arm pit.

As for wording, l think expressions like “well groomed” are a figure of speech. Just as much as “clean shaven” is used to imply a man without a beard, it is not suggesting he is actually cleaner.

As far as the porn industry goes, it is difficult to ascertain whether society has influenced porn or porn has influenced society with regard to body hair. I have recently read though that “hairy” is a commonly searched porn term. Trafficking and treatment of people is a bigger issue here in my view.

And along the way l have come across several people when seeing me naked for the first time have expressed shock rather than surprise at seeing me hair free. I have even been asked to grow it.

Do you shave your armpits? Do women who do look like children?

Agreed. Having watched Naked Attraction I am firmly convinced that it looks better with hair on. I'm told it's more about how it feels but given that when I've tried leg waxing I looked like a spotty plucked chicken for a month afterwards with an epic number of I grown hairs I doubt it would make anything feel good for me.

After getting a few ingrown spots/cysts I now only wax this area like I said occasionally. I used to get it done loads. You can buy a Wilkinson sword intuition bikini wax trimmer (there are other brands) which I use more often now. That’s great for trimming the bikini line hair there. Less undignified than waxing. Though you do get used to showing your undercarriage to the waxer (beauty tech). For eg a standard bikini wax you keep your knickers on or wear paper ones and you pull to the side where you want the wax on and the hair off. For Hollywood or Brazilian of course knickers are removed.

Your OP answer though, yes lots of women do it and the beauty tech does it all the time, tell her if it’s your first time. They’ve seen it all before. No need to be embarrassed.

Work your way up, bikini, high bikini, Brazilian, Hollywood. If they offer the service then they will have seen it many times before. Always book hot wax for intimate waxing though it’s much less stingy and recovers quicker than the strip wax/warm wax.