Would you wear black on your bottom half with a light coloured top for a more casual wedding?

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Yes it's another wedding one! I've bought a lovely taupe linen jacket and have taupe and black sandals, would a black skirt be OK bearing in mind a lot of people dont think black should be worn at weddings? I'd wear something white or light coloured under the jacket.

It's a second wedding in an outdoor setting so I dont feel like normal rules apply but dont want to look out of place.

I wore black trousers with a fancy light coloured top to an autumn wedding last year. I thought it looked ok on the day, but when I saw the photos, I think I I made a mistake and wouldn’t do it again.

Not unless I was a waitress or celebrant or photographer working there

I don't think a bride having a preference as to colours worn at her wedding is being a control freak or bridezilla. For goodness sake its not like specifying a handful of shops guests are allowed to shop at or must wear high heels or something ridiculous. If a bride asked men to wear suits and ladies, pastels and/or florals that helps guests to choose. If you feel a bride should not have some preference over her guests not dressing as though it's an office party or a funeral I think its best to politely turn the invitation down. Personally I think the black trousers/top says out for drinks after work. You've nipped into the toilet to change your top. It says to me I'm not in the mood for a wedding but I came anyway. Just don't go. You aren't obliged to go.

I love the shape of your skirt and like the sandals. I would go for a top along the lines of @EleanorMc67 's suggestions with black, cream/taupe, maybe gold in it? I would think more about the top as you might only wear the jacket when it gets cooler. Your big beaded earrings, maybe a big chunky wooden and gold beaded necklace? Red lips and toenails.

Sounds great to me!

And I fully approve of wearing clothes you already own and like instead of getting something new for the sake of it.

The bride and groom are alternative, on their second marriage, and have opted for a relaxed outdoor setting, so they are extremely unlikely to have these rigid and old fashioned ideas about the colour black.

On the other hand, it would probably also be fine to wear the same outfit as you will wear to the other wedding later in the summer?

Wow. I know S&B has a reputation for unkindness (to put it mildly). But wow all the same.

I’ve given this a lot of thought and decided that while I don’t mind wearing (some) black and can’t see anyone else having an issue, it does all feel a bit lacking in ‘wow’ and I would like to feel nice.

I went shopping yesterday and got some ideas, I noticed several red items styled with that warm taupe colour of my jacket and I thought it looked lovely so I’m now thinking some combination of taupe, red, cream or gold and less black. I’m also tempted by a mesh or satin skirt but not sure how that would sit with a linen jacket.

I don’t want to wear the outfit I’ve got for the second wedding as a) it’s a different sort of event and b) it’s a very close family member so I want everything to feel new and special.

This place can be very harsh but it does make you think sometimes.

I'm not usually harsh but I thought your comment about it being a second wedding gave the impression that you don't see the event as a big deal. I saw that as very sad and thought that if the Bride and Groom knew that they would find it hurtful. Following that comment I felt perhaps you were quite apathetic about the event.

No not so much that although I do think generally second weddings can be a bit more low key especially when you’ve attended the first. It’s more that I can’t afford to splash out too much because I’ve got one that’s a bit more personal later in the year.

Glad that you're veering more towards the red/taupe/cream/gold colourway, OP - I think it will look a little less plain/sombre & more summery. Was the Mango top & skirt I posted an option?

I don't think a bride having a preference as to colours worn at her wedding is being a control freak or bridezilla. For goodness sake its not like specifying a handful of shops guests are allowed to shop at or must wear high heels or something ridiculous. If a bride asked men to wear suits and ladies, pastels and/or florals that helps guests to choose.

Telling people what colour they have to wear to your wedding is the absolute definition of being a bridezilla. A wedding is not about the photos, it's about making a lifetime legal and financial commitment in front of your families and friends. Your guests should wear clothes they feel comfortable in, that they know they will wear again, not a one off outfit that fits your colour scheme.

How is that telling people what to wear? Its called a dress code. FruiAaschild have you never been asked to follow a dress code? Its a pretty standard thing. Its not like a school uniform.

Of course it is telling people what to wear. And very Bridezilla behaviour
A wedding should be a time of celebration and families friends coming together not an opportunity for a photo shoot. It's not a work event .
Some colours don't suit some people , some people only feel comfortable in certain types of clothes.Some people can't afford to buy a new outfit to fit the code/colour scheme
Couples should focus on giving their guests a good time and making them feel comfortable. If
The people I invited to my wedding are people who mattered to me. I wanted them to be with me when I got married I didn't care what they wore.

A dress code for a wedding that stipulates what colours and patterns people should wear, is absolutely not standard in my world. Thank goodness.

Couples are allowed to stipulate this and I would comply, but I am also allowed to judge the hell out of them.

Yep. Same here.

It isn't. School uniform has a purpose and school children will wear it every school day until they grow out of it.

Red sounds good OP. I don’t think I’d put satin or mesh with the linen though, probably stick to cotton