Would you wear black on your bottom half with a light coloured top for a more casual wedding?

[LeopardPrintFleece]

Yes it's another wedding one! I've bought a lovely taupe linen jacket and have taupe and black sandals, would a black skirt be OK bearing in mind a lot of people dont think black should be worn at weddings? I'd wear something white or light coloured under the jacket.

It's a second wedding in an outdoor setting so I dont feel like normal rules apply but dont want to look out of place.

I wore this outfit last year to a laid back wedding with a brightly coloured linen jacket for when it got chilly in the evening. For context, I'm only 5ft tall, so the trousers were full length & floaty on me. I added some fab black shoes from Boden.

It was a small family & friends wedding in a garden with no formal photos. The groom had a Man From Del Monte look. The bride was in a jewel coloured dress and another guest crocheted her own dress. We all looked perfect for the day!

What about a couple of coulourful waist skinny / narrow scarfy things hanging down one side i can see it in my head and I bet you know what I mean...?

Why on earth would I be asking if I didn’t care?! I literally wanted to know about the black, I wasn’t looking for style advice - although there have been some helpful suggestions - and definitely not looking for mean, unhelpful comments.

I’m really struggling to see how my suggested outfit is officey but I work in a very casual environment where nobody would notice if I turned up in my pyjamas!

I think the outfit sounds fine. Black has been acceptable at weddings for decades. The jacket looks as though it would work well with that sort of skirt.

I’ve worn black to the last three weddings I’ve been to. Same outfit every time- a smart, wide legged black jumpsuit with a button-back crossover v neck top half, and long waist belt. In summer I’ve worn it with bright handbag/ platform shoes / long beaded earrings and a massive linen scarf for the evening. In winter I pop a fun fake fur jacket over the top and gold jewellery. Always a red lip and tonnes of eyeliner - but that’s been my look for 20 years, occasion be damned.

Had loads of compliments from guests and no complaints from the couples.

im only sad that the jumpsuit looks a bit tired and it’s time to retire it for weddings now.

@LeopardPrintFleece, I am sorry if I hurt your feelings. But, for all your saying that you didn't want style advice, this is the Style and Beauty board.
As I stated in my post - black is inoffensive - you can wear it and no-one would complain. But, you could do so much better than this outfit.
Don't you want to wear something that feels more special or even celebratory?
This outfit is officey at best.

Wear what you like!
and rules are meant to be broken

@LeopardPrintFleece are you asking about the black because you already have it or because you are looking for something to buy you can wear again?

If you are looking for advice on something you already have then I think you've answered your own question over the course of your replies - this is an unconventional wedding so you don't need to worry about conventional "rules" of what one where's when. You feel comfortable and happy with the outfit. You are good to go!

I- personally - don't like black with neutrals so would pick a different colour bottom but if black is what you've got, it's not an issue to wear it.

(I would see the shoe pattern as a neutral. Although it has black in it, the overall pattern is neutral and you don't need to "pick out" the black.)

I was taught that you wear black to a wedding to indicate disapproval of the marriage. I wore a black plunge maxi dress to DHs best mates wedding. DH was best man 🙈 We all hated the bride and the feeling was mutual though.

Love the jacket! I think that brightens the whole outfit up. I can't remember a single outfit people wore to my wedding, I just wanted everyone to enjoy the day with me. Your outfit looks smart and it's what you're comfortable in then brilliant! Hope you have a wonderful time !

You don't want style advice? Ok, but as pp have said, that's what this board is about, to be fair.
If you want to wear that outfit, go for it. I personally wouldn't wear black, but it's fine if you want to, it's certainly not taboo. Neutrals with black suit some people, you're probably one of them.

I would decide on the day depending on the weather with it being outside as black attracts heat so if it's not too warm go ahead with the black but have a light option prepared as well in case it's a really hot day

30 years ago I was an aupair in a French aristocratic family. One day I was chatting with the woman in the family while she was organising her wardrobe. She pulled out two evening gowns, one red and one black, and the story was that she went to a wedding in England (sic), and had brought a black dress. Once there she heard that in England NOBODY wears black to weddings, it's very rude, funeral bla bla bla, so she panic bought this red dress instead. Turns up to the wedding and there are at least five other women wearing black and no-one bats an eyelid and she was seething in her not-as-well-fitting red dress.

The rule has never been no black, as a PP said, the rule is no funeral attire. I would take a look in the mirror and consider how it looks in that respect.

Surprised no one has had a go at you for wearing a cream jacket, because that's almost white, and then obviously you're outshining the bride (nvm that it's obviously not a wedding dress).

Have a good time!

I find on wedding threads most mumsnetters only go to terribly formal weddings.

In my family guests do make an effort but aren't really formally dressed. If your clothes choice suits the venue and the feel of the wedding that is fine.

@LeopardPrintFleece , wow the responses on here!

When you mentored a black shirt and cookies top in your thread title, I assumed a fitted shorter skirt, so my mine immediately went to office attire. The skirt you've linked to is wonderful, very pretty. Paired with a floaty, maybe sleeveless top, your jacket, and your cute sandals, it will be perfect. And it's all stuff to can wear again. I like it and think it's appropriate.

Black doesn’t go with many colours. The beige and black clashes.
Dark brown jumpsuit or matching loose trousers and top , would look good with the colour and you could wear them casually or dressed up for other occasions.

I virtually live in black so would not hesitate to wear it to a wedding.

However, that skirt, jacket and sandals combo is extremely informal. It’s office wear; I think you’d feel very dowdy in that outfit at a wedding.

I’d assume you were wearing your work clothes. And black is seen as bad luck for a wedding or a sign of disapproval, many won’t know or believe that, but others will,

ultimatly wear what you wish, but yes I’d assume you couldn’t be arsed or couldn’t afford someone weddingy and just wore your work clothes.

To be honest I’m not sure if she’s asking if it will be memorable for the bride after the wedding,

Awfully drab and low effort combo for a wedding, but at least you’ll be able to wear it to work afterwards.

And black is seen as bad luck for a wedding or a sign of disapproval, many won’t know or believe that, but others will,

What a load of nonsense.

What an odd response, 😂

And black is seen as bad luck for a wedding or a sign of disapproval, many won’t know or believe that, but others will

This is utter bullshit. Honestly, some of the wedding attire comments on MN are hilarious. It’s like it’s the 1800s.

All the comments here and on another thread recently about wedding outfits being like work/office wear - there must be a lot of flouncy offices full of summer dresses and skirts these days. Not that there is anything wrong with that and enjoying feminine clothes with personality for work but that does not make these clothes 'office wear'. I'm not sure if the point being made is the clothes aren't festive enough, or if the woman is not trussed up enough.

On the other hand, why should a wedding outfit not have cross over to work clothes and vice versa? The classic men's wedding outfit of a lounge suit does (or did, when offices were smarter) - and so does the smart shirt and trousers which men will wear to a more informal wedding. In other words, can't a woman just look smart and well presented in something she is comfortable and suits her - you can be stylish without a 'wow' factor.