Would you wear black on your bottom half with a light coloured top for a more casual wedding?

[LeopardPrintFleece]

Yes it's another wedding one! I've bought a lovely taupe linen jacket and have taupe and black sandals, would a black skirt be OK bearing in mind a lot of people dont think black should be worn at weddings? I'd wear something white or light coloured under the jacket.

It's a second wedding in an outdoor setting so I dont feel like normal rules apply but dont want to look out of place.

Not half as odd as your ridiculous comment about black being a sign of disapproval.

Why all the anger and aggression, it’s just a superstition, you can google it. You don’t need to attack on everything,

Love the jacket and that will dominate the look so you won't look like you're 'wearing black'. Like the shape of the skirt too. I think it's a stylish choice! So what if some people would wear that to work (I might but only if I had an important meeting - would feel over dressed otherwise but my office is quite casual too).

If you like it, OP, then I don't think there's any need to question it or find an alternative. To the pp saying it's 'drab', not everyone wants to wear bright colours or more daring styles - it just wouldn't feel comfortable. There's a difference between drab and smart or classic. And at a wedding you might prefer not to stand out.

You've said what I was trying to say above - but better!

I honestly feel embarrassed by posters who post superstitious rubbish about the colours that you supposedly can't wear to a wedding. The no red, green or black brigade. I wonder how adult women can give headroom to it. I think I even saw yellow getting a veto.

It's especially silly when a poster asked for reassurance that it's OK to wear black (yes it is) to wade in with "ooh it means disapproval"

Honestly the skirt and jacket wouldn't get a second look in my office. It's not "flouncy" and they are absolutely suitable for wearing in an office.

If that doesn't bother the OP there's no reason why she can't wear them to the wedding.

I like the skirt. It's a skirt I'd wear as an every day skirt.

I agree. I'm a teacher, and that's standard women's teachers' clothing, a midi skirt, shirt and jacket, comfy footwear, neutral tones. If she wants to wear that outfit, it's absolutely fine. It is completely appropriate, if not particularly "wedding outfit", but maybe she feels comfortable like that.

I’m not going to respond to you any further, you can keep going if you wish, but coming onto threads like this, lashing out and attacking, being abusive is incredibly odd behaviour and not something I wish to engage with.

Rules about what tink wear make no sense to me. Why does it matter? Also. Many men wear black suits to weddings. And I'm sure many people wear black shoes.
OP I think your outfit is fine I would be very suprised if anyone was offended because you wore a black skirt it's just so petty! There are much more important things to get annoyed or offended by.

I wore black and taupe at my last wedding as a guest, and so (or similar) did some of our other friends - black and white, black and grey, whatever. It's fine!

I agree: it's all in the accessories.

When people talk about not wearing white, I think they really mean don't dress like a bride. I don;t think it means you couldn't have a white jacket with a floral skirt or similar.Beyond that, I think its about looking like you have made an effort.

I think the same goes for black: head to toe with a black veil like you are off to a funeral would be a problem, but not if you accessorise and just look generally smart. Have a look at Carrie in Four Weddings and a Funeral: great hat!

Why on earth would you conclude that?

I don’t understand some of these comments… can’t wear beige with black ? . Black showing disapproval of the union? 🥴. Maybe if you appeared with a huge black veil over your face like Queen Victoria. I can see that if everyone wore black it might look like a funeral ( although people don’t all wear black to funerals now ) but the odd outfit isn’t going to stand out. I don’t think you have to worry about causing offence

It’s fine. A lot depends on the top you put under the jacket though. I’d avoid white or cream. A beige and black pattern would tie the outfit together.

Same 😂 I had a black and white dress, black chiffon type ‘over jacket’ and a black hat for my DDs wedding. It looked fabulous and, more importantly, I felt fabulous! I still have the dress 10 years on…and hope to fit back into it one day 😂

OP your outfit is great…I would, however, caution against animal print sandals. Maybe plain black sandals would work better, but if you love them, go for it 👌🏻

No. To black at a wedding. In any shape or form. It is not whether you want to wear it that matters. Not on someone else’s wedding day. It is the unknown impact on the wedding couple or any of their family that may take offence. That is what should matter. And because you don’t know how they might mind, you don’t wear it. It is too associated with death and funerals.

To be honest, I’m not sure the issue is the black skirt, yes some might side eye it, but for me I think the issue is it is very much a basic office outfit and it’s definitely not very coherent, especially if it’s worn with a white shirt.

I think you could get away with it with a top to pull it together, something like this, I have tried ti look at low cost, hence the shein link, but also added Roman, which is till lower end. But something in both black and beige may make it look less work outfit,

but honestly I’m really not sure, it’s fine, it’s just it’s more basic office attire for most.

https://www.shein.co.uk/goods-p-32334849.html?goods_id=32334849&test=5051&url_from=adhub48297283&scene=1&pf=google&ad_type=DPA&language=en&siteuid=uk&version_bid=102311026,102310816,102353676,102310681,102310801&version_eid=100902896&landing_page_id=1510&ad_test_id=49150&requestId=olw-5o2u8x7c66tz&cid=22632658953&gad_source=4&network=g&gad_campaignid=22632658953&adid=756395153237&tv_b=2&activity_id=5051&currency=GBP&lang=en&skucode=I71wuepx36s1&product_set_id=323&onelink=0/google_feed_uk&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIo9SXzZuVlAMVijoGAB0zeyv2EAQYBCABEgI97vD_BwE&ismg=4be66d6d1088e2731442fcb3144e1a7e59070a4337a29014ff0b6dcc22e6bf62_01_1777461541&geoid=1006661&gbraid=0AAAAADm0yO6S9_b5s_XHVgVegi64PXF2Y&setid=181000344176&kwd=pla-2434726969900

or this, still low cost.

https://www.roman.co.uk/mono-abstract-print-shell-top-20221738?gad_source=4&gad_campaignid=17418966397&gbraid=0AAAAACsLkkLGr3cOpIPfsOnaVybSaqXAX&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI2bn2ipyVlAMV7oZQBh2ZiCskEAQYBCABEgKksvD_BwE

If I was wearing the jacket and black skirt I'd probably wear a black top. But you could wear a few differant coloured tops, a gold silky fabric could dress it up maybe? Suit your shoe colours too.

These responses have really confused me! I was so pleased with my outfit but it’s been called dowdy, unstylish and office wear 😳 Honestly I thought neutral colours, clean lines and natural fabrics were all good. With some nicer jewellery to make it a bit more ‘occasion’. I get not everyone likes animal print but to me it adds a bit of interest and is pretty much a classic.

Honestly I think I live in a different world from most posters on here. I would never dress this smartly for work, it’s just not required - I might wear the jacket with jeans or wide trousers for a meeting but I’d be extremely OTT in anything more. And some of the S&B approved suggestions for wedding attire on here are not my style at all - it seems to be either weird unflattering shapes (Cos etc) or generic long floral frocks, neither of which would suit me at all.

i appreciate this is S&B so I’m grateful for the pointers but I really don’t think any of my friends or family will think anything of my outfit choice, I was literally just concerned about the black which I may now rethink - or not 😊

Not even that really, since in the 1800:s most people would have worn their best and that might well have been black. Granted, I have a scandinavian outlook - up here brides wore black into the 1910:s I think unless v wealthy.

Black is fine and I personally like animal print.

It's a skirt not a funeral outfit.

@LeopardPrintFleece Could you contact the bride and ask if she has any objections to your black skirt?

When one of my friends married for the second time her teenage daughter wore a black bridesmaid'a dress. She loved her stepfather and no-one batted an eyelid. Not everyone holds outdated superstitious views about weddings.

I'm wearing full black for a wedding this weekend. I checked with the bride and she was confused as to why I'd even asked and perfectly happy for guests to wear whatever they want.

Hate these stupid traditions and think you should wear what you want...nobody will care, they should be looking at the bride.

...and if they do care? Well, sod 'em.

I was just suggesting that some people might be offended by it. That what other people might think will matter more than what she fancies doing.

My own views to it I have not given.

Sorry, I misunderstood. TBH if the bride is OK with it other people's views don't matter.