Help me dress for posh Denmark summer wedding

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I’m lucky to have been invited to the summer wedding of an old friend. Without giving too many outing details, she’s Danish, a top professional in her field, no kids, and is marrying into aristocracy (the wedding is at their family house in the Danish countryside, which resembles a stately home). She’s always been incredibly elegant, wafer thin with a capsule of beautifully chosen clothes in quality fabrics. Amazing hair, teeth, skin, very very little makeup.

Im usually found in jeans and boots but like to think I scrub up well. Stumped as to what to wear though. Don’t want to feel like a dumpy English broad among tall willowy athletic Danes. I definitely don’t want to look like I’ve tried too hard - ideally want to look like I dress up and go to insanely posh weddings all the time!

I also have no idea about what’s customary to wear for a wedding there, does anyone know?

Can anyone recommend where to start with an appropriate outfit for the event?

Sorry - just re-read your post. The Wise dress is probably too bright. Shame they don't seem to do it in more muted neutral colours....

I rather like that. I prefer the shade in the seascape that looks more watermelony, but the dress has quite a lot to recommend it I think.

I love that dress & the colour. Unfortunately that colour doesn't love me back ...

Yes I agree - it looks quite different in each photo...

Another suggestion - different to the Wyse raspberry dress, and more whimsical, but muted colour could fit the bill:

sea-ny.com/products/ethel-midi-dress?variant=52719289696620

I really like the dresses from AYM, they look very flattering and comfortable, can be dressed up or down and definitely re-worn again in the future.

https://www.aym-studio.com/collections/wedding-wardrobe

Not sure if anyones mentions Saloni, but they are worth a look

Haven't RTFT but often Scandinavian weddings are white tie. Presumably this has already been mentioned.

Beautiful! But what happens when you need a wee and the floor in the loo is suspiciously wet??

Have a look at the outfits worn by Queen Mary on her recent trip home to Australia, very relaxed and down to earth.

In my fairly limited experience of northern European posh weddings, you want to find a midaxi dress that looks dressier to you than you'd normally wear but which someone somewhere on an MN thread would say "Oh that's far too casual". Then wear it with biggish earrings and a subtle/uninteresting but quality bag, and low-heeled or flat sandals. This seems to be the sweet spot 😁

Well that’s thrown a spanner in the works!

In summary, drop your mate a WhatsApp and ask her what the dress code is if it wasn’t already on the invite, and check if you should hedge for “unexpected boating” (this has sent me 😂), gravel, croquet lawn drinks, or other nuptial obstacle courses.

Unexpected boating is hopefully not on the agenda! The location is near the sea though so you never know.

White tie ! Horrors. I don’t even know what that would entail.

The ones we've been to you could get away with a dinner jacket etc for men but with a white bow tie. And women it would be long dresses. Those are for weddings in Norway and Sweden though not Denmark. OP you said the wedding was potentially quite smart. I'm assuming your friend will let all her UK guests know what the form is? Or when you get the actual physical invitation.