Too white for a wedding guest dress?

[EndlessCupsofSugaryTea]

I have my eye on this for a spring wedding. I love prints, it’s silk and is in the sale - perfect combination.

However, I showed it to my mother and she said “But it’s white!” in a horrified way. I was bewildered. I don’t believe most people’s first thought on looking at this would be “white”. To me, it’s all about the print - and in any case, the background looks more cream to me.

I love it, but not for the first time, my mother has created a nagging doubt. Would anyone really think I was trying to look remotely bridal in this?

Yes but you didn’t think it was a “shitty” thing to say did you?

Ah, I see - you’re just a bored little girl. Nothing good on Netflix?

It’s a lovely dress, and for any other occasion it would be fine, but in my opinion it just tips over into a bride who doesn’t want traditional, or maid of honour who doesn’t want to be in chiffon territory.

Although wedding guests in white don't bother me, I have been to several weddings over the years where there is a female guest in white and other guests are quite vocal about it. I would not want people pointing and talking about me at a wedding.

Is a beautiful dress but too bridal in my opinion OP.
I’m with your mom

My first reaction was absolutely not, and I’m generally pretty chill about wedding dress codes, I’ve no issues with reds or blacks or dresses with some white/ cream in there.

To me the dress is white (cream?) with a bit of floral, rather than floral with a white/ cream background. It’s also got a slightly bridal vibe to it just in the style/ detailing.

I wouldn’t, white is the dominant colour

I think it’s absolutely fine.
I can’t imagine anyone being mistaken for the bride in that dress. It would have to be a very low key wedding to be any confusion and surely, if you are invited to a wedding then you know exactly who the bride is.

Team mum too stunning dress tho

Are you always so rude and judgemental?

Fgs my son is ND

the op didn’t understand what “come on now” meant

What’s “particularly ignorant” is you accusing me of being nasty. I asked a simple question about a dress and have received toxic comments questioning my mental capacity. And you’re trying to call ME the nasty one?!

What’s your POINT?

Have you made your decision @EndlessCupsofSugaryTea ?

It is absolutely perfect for a bride, perhaps one who is older or for whom it is a second wedding, who wants something bridal without wearing a full wedding dress. It is not suitable as a wedding guest dress. Sorry OP.

Its white enough to be too white I'm afraid.

No I didn’t think it was a shitty thing to say in and of itself, it just wasn’t particularly clear what the poster was getting at, the comment afterwards about faux confusion was pretty passive aggressive though when all the OP had done was ask for clarification. Such pettiness.

I meant your ND comment was a shitty thing to say.

Have you seen the dress in the flesh? It looks a really yellowy dark cream on the JL website: https://www.johnlewis.com/hobbs-petite-eva-placement-floral-pure-silk-dress-cream-multi/p113496580
Team it up with shoes and bag in a flower colour and it would be fine, especially with dangly (no bridal) earrings.
This would be better: https://www.johnlewis.com/hobbs-carly-placement-floral-dress-pale-pink-multi/p114588551
Or this one: https://www.johnlewis.com/hobbs-petite-kim-watercolour-floral-pure-silk-dress-cream-multi/p113889120

Looks just like my wedding dress! If you have to ask, don’t wear it. Why bother with the niggling doubt if you haven’t even bought it yet? The bride might not mind, but there’s a decent chance she will, whether she says so or not. Why risk it?

Neurodivergence is a neurological difference, not a judgement on cognitive capacity. It was a nasty comment and you have every right to criticise that poster but please don't do it in an ableist way.

I'm relaxed about colour codes for weddings, funerals and the like but on this occasion I'm with your mum and others on this thread. It's a lovely dress, but white is the dominant colour and looks more suitable for a second or informal wedding or another event than as a wedding guest..

People always say this, like being mistaken for the bride is the issue.

I think it’s weird to rock up to a wedding in a white dress that could be a wedding dress (albeit an informal one). Nobody would mistake you for the bride but you’d look like you were attention seeking or were actually hoping that someone MIGHT mistake you for either the bride or a bridesmaid. That might be the furthest thing from the truth, but it’s what a decent proportion of the guests are going to think. Why bother, when you can find a beautiful dress in a non bridal colour?

There’s also the argument about the bride wanting to be the one that stands out in the photos, white/ light colours draw focus in group shots. It’s not something I’d have particularly cared about, but I’ve seen it given as a reason to avoid white and cream before and I can see it might upset some. Why risk it? Just pick a different colour.

Because it might have tempered responses

for your sake

Its gorgeous bit I wouldn’t wear it to a wedding. Perfect dress for a bride at a town hall style wedding.