Too white for a wedding guest dress?

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I have my eye on this for a spring wedding. I love prints, it’s silk and is in the sale - perfect combination.

However, I showed it to my mother and she said “But it’s white!” in a horrified way. I was bewildered. I don’t believe most people’s first thought on looking at this would be “white”. To me, it’s all about the print - and in any case, the background looks more cream to me.

I love it, but not for the first time, my mother has created a nagging doubt. Would anyone really think I was trying to look remotely bridal in this?

So let me see if I understand this. On this thread I have been told that:

I must have a neurological condition for even asking this question.

I must hate the bride.

I must be an old girlfriend of the groom out for revenge.

I am a crazed attention-seeker who EVERYONE will be talking about and “upset” by.

I deserve to have red wine thrown over me.

And… I’M the “incredibly rude” one?!

Do you know what IS incredibly rude? Commenting without reading all the OP’s responses. To want to talk etiquette? That’s Mumsnet etiquette. You can do it with a single click - and if you had, you’d have read that I’m reconsidering the dress. Have said it more than once. And you wouldn’t have made a massive tit of yourself. And not the good kind of massive tit.

Agree op. It’s all got completely bonkers and yes, rude. Hope you’re not bothered by it

No, I’m starting to find them amusing now 😄

Lol

Honestly, it’s threads like these that make me glad we chose a registry office.
People get very strange around weddings 😂

I think it's a gorgeous dress, and nothing like a wedding dress!

I think it’s perfect … pick out the strongest colour for accessories and you will look fab …

It's bridal. Honestly, it's not that difficult to avoid wearing white at someone else's wedding. Everyone knows that wearing white (even if the dress has another colour included) is considered to be inappropriate - why risk it? People will talk about you and not in a good way, which will ruin the day for you.

To me personally this does look like the kind of dress some brides would wear for a civil ceremony wedding, as a 2nd dress or simply for a non-traditional bridal look.

I would not wear this to a wedding (as a guest).

If I was very close to the bride and absolutely desperate to wear this dress for some reason, I would simply ask the bride but (also tell her explicitly) that I wouldn’t be surprised if she didn’t want me to wear white…

But even if the bride said yes, I’d be a little worried about other guests judging me, tbh. But that’s just me 😅

I think it has enough colour and would be fine, especially if accessorised with a bright colour - picking out the brighter pink or darker green.

Ffs just don’t wear one colour. That’s all you have to do. It’s not hard!

And since the OP’s dress is not that colour, not bridal in shape, and has a gloriously bright floral pattern, it’s fine.

It's mostly white @bridgetreilly
Even if the bride wears something floor length and traditional, people would still side eye and gossip about a guest who chose to wear a largely white dress to a wedding. Why would a guest expose themselves to that? It would ruin the day for them.

And there's always the chance that the bride isn't traditional and turns up in something similar. I wouldn't risk it. As gorgeous as that dress is, there are lots of other equally gorgeous dresses out there, which won't draw negative attention.

It isn’t, though. There is no white on it, or even ivory. It’s a yellowish-cream. If people want to gossip, that’s on them. If the bride chooses a dress like that, she knows it could be similar to what guests are wearing. It is a completely normal dress for a guest.

If this looks white on your screen, that’s an issue with your screen, not the dress.

If there is any doubt, don’t wear it. I’ve been to a couple of weddings where there’s been someone in white/ ivory/ whatever and they’ve spent the day explaining why it isn’t a bridal dress. I doubt the bride even noticed but other guests thought they were attention-seeking pricks.

There are a million other dresses to choose from. Pick one of them instead of being the day’s dickhead.

I wouldn’t wear this to a wedding, nice though it is

Honestly that doesn't look yellowish cream to me. But even if it did, cream/ivory/white are all bridal and to be avoided imo.

🙄

https://assets.hobbs.com/i/hobbs/0224-5417-3793L00-EMMA-SILK-DRESS-YELLOW-MULTI_02?$hi-res$

Update! I managed to get one of the last available of this one, which is very similar, but distinctly yellow rather than cream, which solves the problem. Thank you for your help everyone!

Oops, didn’t mean to add it as a link:

Perfect.
Although I thought the original one was!
Beautiful dress.

This is gorgeous. Good choice.

That looks lovely. Well done. I'm sure you will look beautiful in it and I hope you enjoy the wedding.

Good choice and beautiful dress

Beautiful choice OP.