Too white for a wedding guest dress?

[EndlessCupsofSugaryTea]

I have my eye on this for a spring wedding. I love prints, it’s silk and is in the sale - perfect combination.

However, I showed it to my mother and she said “But it’s white!” in a horrified way. I was bewildered. I don’t believe most people’s first thought on looking at this would be “white”. To me, it’s all about the print - and in any case, the background looks more cream to me.

I love it, but not for the first time, my mother has created a nagging doubt. Would anyone really think I was trying to look remotely bridal in this?

Nope.....it's not your day to wear white!
Lovely dress though.

Thank you ☺️ That was a very kind post.

I have absolutely no problem with people saying they don’t think the dress is suitable. That’s why I asked. But sadly one or two people have decided to be completely toxic.

I really don’t understand why people are saying it looks like a wedding dress.

I wouldn't. Approximately 75 percent here think it's bridal looking, so that will translate to approximately 75 percent of the guests with you. Why not just choose a dress where you don't have to worry about that?

The cream/white point is irrelevant, lots of brides go for cream rather than a bright white.

Beautiful dress but not for a wedding sorry. It has Aunt Sarah vibes.

There are lots of hobbs silk dresses less predominantly white - why not pick one of those

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Also it’s a cream background, not white. My MIl wore cream to my wedding, she looked very nice. I was in white full length and she was in a cream dress to the knee with gold hat , technically an appropriate outfit if she had been getting married herself for the second time, but it was totally fine for my wedding.

In the photos the main colour will be white. It doesn’t matter that there are a few flowers on it 😅

I really wouldn’t OP! By all means buy it and wear it to some other event.

There are a million other dresses.

Choose one of those.

I don’t think it looks bridal . But I think the common thought is only the bride should be in white.

Absolutely not

That’s a beautiful dress.

I don’t immediately look at it and say white tbh I see the flowers. But others see too much white.

Perhaps teamed with a dark bold colour shoe and accessories and maybe pashmina it would look less white?

Personally I wouldn’t have a problem but if you’re good friends and close to the bride just ask her what she thinks.

But you were one of only three people who responded in a nasty way. No one else needed to temper their response - they just behaved like decent people.

Its beautiful but screams bridal. Dont do it!

I am sorry but it's not ok for a wedding guest.

On the John Lewis website the dress definitely looks cream, not white. I think it will be fine to wear to a wedding. Match shoes and bag with the colours in the fabric.

I'm another who cannot understand the nastiness some posters have shown towards you OP.

It's gorgeous. BUT if someone said they wanted to look for a non wedding dress that was still bridal for their wedding, I think it would be a really good alternative, I could see a bride in it at a low key/second/alternative wedding.
So for that reason it's a no from me to wear as a guest.

Please post my supposed “nasty” response?

Genuinely never met anyone who cares about this sort of thing. Dress is lovely.

I already commented on it. How many times do you need to be told?

It’s beautiful. And entirely suitable… for an older bride / second marriage / less formal wedding.

Not suitable for a guest.

100% NO. I would be really annoyed if I was getting married, and a female guest turned up in this. It's giving main character vibes.

NO @EndlessCupsofSugaryTea

Wear it if you want people to think you wish you were the bride.

If you have to ask…is a fairly good bar. Sorry OP it’s too white and bridal. I wouldn’t risk it when there are so many other options out there.

I agree. I also thought that particular comment was ambiguous.
I’m not neurodivergent either.