Too white for a wedding guest dress?

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I have my eye on this for a spring wedding. I love prints, it’s silk and is in the sale - perfect combination.

However, I showed it to my mother and she said “But it’s white!” in a horrified way. I was bewildered. I don’t believe most people’s first thought on looking at this would be “white”. To me, it’s all about the print - and in any case, the background looks more cream to me.

I love it, but not for the first time, my mother has created a nagging doubt. Would anyone really think I was trying to look remotely bridal in this?

Omg! You CANNOT wear that to a wedding.

Genuine question

Are you ND?

No no no no no no no.

Get a hobby.

It's borderline. I think you need to give the Bride herself a veto opportunity because clearly for some people it's fine and for others it's really not, and hers is the only opinion that matters

You really thought that was an appropriate comment?

I absolutely don’t get the “no white at all” and I also think that if brides are wearing something with coloured flowers on it, then that’s on them. They can own the big white dress but they can’t own floral dresses. However, I wouldn’t wear this to a wedding simply because I wouldn’t want guests like these posters to be judging me.

I asked because

a) your op
b) you struggled to grasp what the Pp meant by “come on now”

And by the mixed responses on here you'd def be the centre of attention and conversation as other guests discuss the lack of appropriateness-
It is the Bride's day to be the main character-not yours.

Don't wear the dress.

Absolutely not.

It is a nice dress, but I wouldn't wear it to a wedding, I see the colour first and the pattern second.

You could always check with the bride if she cares or not?

It's a beautiful dress but maybe a bit too bridal for a wedding.

No way

Get a boyfriend as this is clearly an "i havent got over my ex is it okay to wear this to his wedding" vibe

As long as its not an informal style wedding id say theres nothing wrong with it! My guitar reaction was that it was perfect for the races or Garden party at Buckingham Palace (wish id seen this when I went)

I would choose something else as I would be a bit worried about it and that would ruin my day.

Don’t do that, it then puts the bride in the position that if she doesn’t like it, she’ll feel awkward.

Just don’t wear white/cream to weddings. It’s very easy.

Because it was ambiguous. Jesus, it’s not that bloody hard. And it was a shitty thing to say.

I really cannot fathom why posters of threads come onto mumsnet asking a question and then are nasty to posters responding who fail to agree with them. Why bother? It seems particularly ignorant . . .

Nope - if it was available in a different colour then yes, but most people know that you don’t wear white unless you’re the bride. Apart from it being poor etiquette it looks like you’re trying to upstage her.

So sorry as it’s a lovely dress (for Ascot) but just a smidge to bridal - sorry 😔

I really don’t agree with this. It’s not fair on the bride to have the veto on everyones outfits!

A christening
A smart family celebration such as a milestone birthday or anniversary
A summer graduation
A formal garden party
Royal Ascot
Henley Regatta

It really wasn’t

if you’re that sensitive, then 100% don’t wear the dress. All eyes will be on you.

To be fair to OP, I too thought the come on now comment could have been meant either way. I’m not ND so not sure what that’s got to do with it. Quite why a S&B thread is descending into such unnecessary nastiness is beyond me, maybe head to AIBU if you’re not able to play nice.