Help. No clothes for funeral

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Im short and fat so usually just hide in leggings and loose shirts. Usually avoid any occasion which involves dressing up but I really have to atttend a funeral soon.

I have a black skirt and black shoes but need a loose white shirt and preferably a smartish coat too (only possess waterproof and Parker coat)

Please help with some suggestions. I’m only 5 foot 1 and 80kg so everything looks horrendous on me. So I just need something which will fit and help me blend into the background.

check out Yours, lots of nice dresses, you can pair with some black tights and boots.
There are some nice coats in this site too.
https://www.yoursclothing.co.uk/dresses/casual
be confident in yourself, I’m sure you’ll look lovely!

I think if you have the budget buy something that makes you feel nice and you can wear again for funerals, job interviews, kids graduation, and other such occasions.

Always good to have this type of thing in the wardrobe

https://www.marksandspencer.com/ruffle-v-neck-long-sleeve-blouse/p/clp60746447?color=CREAM&extid=ps_ps-pla-pmax_ggl_ww_ch__-UK-_-_bau&cq_src=google_ads&cq_cmp=20011577753&cq_con=&cq_term=&cq_med=pla&cq_plac=&cq_net=x&cq_plt=gp&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20014443268&gclid=CjwKCAiA_dDIBhB6EiwAvzc1cK5I8geymiOLJ5P3ejDBHOM5SABY2pzMnGho55FhQ0LtJF1QUIhNjxoCUQsQAvD_BwE

This looks to be a loose sort of shirt.

I went to a funeral this week and there were plenty of people wearing black including me. We did not "stand out", we looked smart and appropriate. I thought the one that stood out was a carer from a care home who brought someone in a wheelchair, he turned up in trainers, jogging bottoms, a crumpled t shirt and a brown ill-fitting fleece.

How about this

https://www.marksandspencer.com/tie-neck-ruffle-mini-relaxed-dress/p/clp60748232?intid=mobile_app_pdp_share

Or
https://www.marksandspencer.com/v-neck-tie-detail-midi-waisted-dress/p/clp60737247?intid=mobile_app_pdp_share
Both reasonably priced and could be worn again

How close are you to the person whose funeral it is. I think a charity shop trawl would be a good idea. I bought a gorgeous dress for my Miles funeral and two years on i still can't bring myself to wear it

Have a look on FatFace, im same height and weight and love the clothes especially the dresses, they are very flattering. Alternatively some wide leg pants (halara petite are a good length) and a nice top (i find peplum hide tummy bulge)

Thanks, that’s really helpful. What size are you as I don’t have a clue where to start.

80 kg isn’t too bad actually at your height. Go and hold your head high and pay your respects x

I have not had this experience at all - people wear black, maybe navy.

OP - keep is simple. Black trousers - next or M&S does well priced short trousers and a back sweater. Dark coat - can you borrow one?

no need for a skirt unless you regularly wear them. You at least will wear plain back trousers again.

Something like this. Very simple - wide size range and trousers some in extra short

I have worn navy to a funeral before now. One of my cousin's (now deceased) used to wear a black skirt, tights and black shoes with a cream blouse and pearl necklace with a black jacket for funerals. My friend wore a beige suit to her husbands funeral. It all depends on what you feel comfortable with. Some funerals state no mourning colours. Check with the family of the deceased to see what they are wanting or check the obituary notice.

We've just had my Mum's funeral and I was very happy for people simply to be there - whatever they were wearing. When asked if there was a dress code, I just said to people "I'd rather you didn't turn up in your jim-jams."

Wear your black skirt and shoes and your favourite shirt/woolly and just be comfortable. I wouldn't worry too much about the coat unless the funeral is going to be held in an old church which won't be very warm. Modern crems are well heated and at Mum's funeral, people who were wearing coats took them off.

At the wake, our postman had come straight from work so he was in his Royal Mail gear. It was absolutely fine. The main thing is that you are going to be at the funeral, so don't worry too much.

What about this sort of thing?

https://www.newlook.com/uk/womens/clothing/dresses/curves-black-crinkled-jersey-midi-dress/p/913916601

https://www.newlook.com/uk/womens/clothing/dresses/curves-black-pleated-shirt-dress/p/906823001

https://www.newlook.com/uk/womens/clothing/dresses/curves-floral-print-short-sleeve-crepe-midi-dress/p/932594809

https://www.yoursclothing.co.uk/yours-curve-black-ribbed-maxi-dress-p

Thanks, they all look possible

Most people don't wear black at funerals nowadays. I went to the funeral of a CofE vicar and people did not wear black, including his family. Some people specifically ask for bright colours.
I don't think it matters what colour you wear just not wearing very casual wear such as leggings or joggers. Any coat will do as you can take it off for the service.

In Ireland funerals are still very much wear black or dark colours unless the family specifically requests colour/celebration of life.

Are you one England? I must remember no one wears black to funerals in England now! It’s been a few years but any funeral in England or Scotland I have been too everyone worse back or navy! I am starting to feel old if even my funeral attire is out of date!

Most people DO wear black to funerals 'these days'.

They do. I've been to far more funerals than the average person, and the vast majority of people wear black.

My head is going to explode looking at all the options

Most people still wear mostly black. Some wear dark grey or navy but most will primarily in black.

It seems other people have different experiences than I have had. I would usually wear dark, plain trousers and jacket with maybe a white/cream top, but an increasing number of people ask for informal or coloured outfits for funerals I have attended. I think the age of the deceased can make a difference as well.

Please just go to one of the supermarkets and find a black top and black coat,

I’ve ordered this in 3 sizes so I’ll see how that goes

https://www.roman.co.uk/a-line-pocket-detail-swing-dress-14125308

It's so hard to imagine what something looks like when it's online, so fingers crossed 🤞🏼 you like it when it arrives. Let us know how you get on