Help. No clothes for funeral

[Lieandcheerios]

Im short and fat so usually just hide in leggings and loose shirts. Usually avoid any occasion which involves dressing up but I really have to atttend a funeral soon.

I have a black skirt and black shoes but need a loose white shirt and preferably a smartish coat too (only possess waterproof and Parker coat)

Please help with some suggestions. I’m only 5 foot 1 and 80kg so everything looks horrendous on me. So I just need something which will fit and help me blend into the background.

That would look awful on an obese person

I was at a funeral a few weeks back I just wore a plain black dress, thick black tights & black ankle boots (I’m around your size) I also had a white jacket for after but left it in the car for the service but wore it at the wake.

I have to agree!

Wear your black skirt and shoes.

Asda has several black-based blouses in the sale right now for around £6-18. Long sleeves, high necked (so respectable for funerals) but with a bit of print or texture on them so they don't look too sombre and you could wear them again.

Amazon has long black blazers from £16 and black trenchcoats and single breasted smart coasts from around £20. They are often made in China so fit shorter women really well - just check the fit in the reviews and go up a size or two as the cut can come up small.

Thanks, that might be an option for me too. What style of dress did you wear?

I had to go to a funeral in the summer and I bought a (used) dress from Ebay as I don't wear black normally (I looked for black/white gingham as I'm very fair and unrelieved black doesn't suit me) I wore it with grey trainers and had a grey bag and I felt very suitably dressed. There was only one other female mourner wearing all black (t-shirt with a midi skirt) and the widow wore brown. I felt like other women just wore whatever bits of black they already had and paired it with something darkish. No coats, as it was a hot day, but I think, in the cold weather that's coming soon, your normal coat would be fine with your black skirt, black shoes and a plain dark top (maybe grey or charcoal grey if you don't like black much) If it's not something you'd want to wear often I'd go for charity shop (or even better Primark, if you have one near you, which is often cheaper than second hand) And a plain black scarf (or maybe black and grey if you wear a grey top) I'm suggesting a scarf as it will probably be cold! Personally, I'd spend as little as possible if it's basically a one off occasion.

Just a plain black loose fitting, if I can find a pick I’ll upload it.

Thanks for all the suggestions, please keep them coming. It is helping so much as I do now have hope of finding something acceptable.

Have a look on Vinted for inspiration and low prices.

Thirty quid black dress from Marks/Amazon, black tights, black shoes, coat as it's colder now. Completely inoffensive, smart, appropriate and comfortable.

All sorted - and sorry for your bereavement.

I'd go for a dress as well. I know you're short so length can be tricky (I am too), but something like this might be suitable and it's cheap enough https://www.roman.co.uk/textured-a-line-stretch-midi-dress-14661008?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=17418966397&gclid=CjwKCAiA_dDIBhB6EiwAvzc1cJB7C_theaCJWNl_GsCnEF3gSFUEp2sKxViaKsKQgTY81I8uBjlz2BoCzOQQAvD_BwE

Probably be slated for this but I couldn’t wear secondhand clothes. Budget isn’t too much of an issue if I can find something that I don’t feel totally hideous in.

Of course you can wear leggings to a funeral.

Ah, I'd thought you wanted something cheap and cheerless. Sorry, I don't know why I thought that. That dress I shared is definitely not the best option then.

Thanks, sounds easy when you say it quickly. Any suggestions for a particular dress and coat?

£40

https://www.marksandspencer.com/cotton-rich-cosy-midi-column-dress/p/clp60762862?color=BLACK#intid=pid_pg1pip48g4r11c4%7Cprodflag_plp_ts_QP_100+

Would that work for a complete porkster?

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Then there's this if you have a few days for delivery on Amazon

Amazon Essentials Women's Regular-Fit Matte Jersey Midi-Length Dress

https://amzn.eu/d/7ZIB8AL

It might be a bit long, but it covers everything and is quite warm and soft (and nobody's judging you for dress length once it's past your knees).

Any black coat does as you'll take it off once you're inside.

I thought that too. I suggested Amazon and Asda because if it's for clothes you might not want to wear often or again, why spend a fortune?

@Lieandcheerios it's really horrible hearing the way you refer to yourself. I'm very large myself, so I do get it, but please be a bit nicer about yourself.

At a funeral no one minds what you wear, it's not all black necessarily - indeed, we didn't wear black for my FIL, just toned down clothes. Don't stress yourself out.

Obviously, cheaper would be better as everything looks awful on me but my priority is to find something that fits and hides my shape really.

Yes, I agree with all of this.

I don't know. Maybe? A plain black dress that isn't especially clingy seems like a sensible choice for anyone of any size to wear to a funeral.

Grey and navy are colours I have seen recently at funerals. There are always dark coats in charity shops. I agree with other people though that the colour of coat is not so important. Attending is the most important aspect. I am sorry for you loss OP.