Is this dress too white for a wedding guest?

[PrincessPeachy]

As the title says really. I was hoping to wear it for a nieces weddings next weekend. DH thinks it’s fine, I’m having doubts! I would wear it with black accessories.
https://www.next.co.uk/style/su702748/h16243

You are conflating 2 completely different things. A specific question was asked here.

I honestly can't imagine a bunch of people getting together at or after a wedding to point out and discuss the fact that one woman wore a white dress. What a dull wedding it must have been.

Unless of course it was this, then fair enough

https://www.ohpolly.com/products/sofija-ruched-halterneck-mini-dress-white?_gl=115ycxkg_upMQ.._gs*MQ..&gclid=Cj0KCQjwvajDBhCNARIsAEE29WrdFoCsrRMtKOZ2zR8cnFkRtd3bCd8h0P4KDI5fnfVvpANvugkM0L0aAi3vEALw_wcB

I couldn't remember if anyone wore anything with a white background to my wedding so out of interest I just went on Facebook to look at the photos I put up there 14 years ago. Lo and behold my SIL is wearing a white and black dress. I had no memory of this. Certainly nobody commented on it or suggested to me I was meant to cross about it.

It's about the same amount of white as OP's. Cropped for anonymisation.

No. The white will pop out in photos and only the bride's should do that

Too white so definitely no

So? Why does anyone’s opinion except the bride’s matter?

What a dull wedding it must have been

What a nasty comment to make about someone’s wedding, when all she has done is given the OP answer to her question using personal experience of other peoples actions.

‘The norm’? ‘Unwritten rule’? For some/many, maybe, but not everyone is hidebound or governed by convention in this way. It didn’t even occur to me on my wedding day to care what colour clothes my guests were wearing, I was simply happy to have them there. I completely disagree that anyone is under any obligation to abide by this so-called ‘rule’ unless the bride herself has stipulated it.

She said herself her friends are boring. As other pps have pointed out what small minded people they must be actually trying to wind up a bride on her wedding day by telling her their pointless opinions on something that if the bride had any sense wouldn't bother her

Why not just enjoy the wedding? What were they hoping to achieve? They must have been very bored to do this or rather spiteful.

What an ironic statement given we are all literally being asked to give an opinion on this very thread and therefore by default comment on what other people might think of the OPs dress.
The fact is, the etiquette is not to wear white a wedding and many guests and brides will judge it.
Visit any wedding forum and you will see it’s full of brides specifying no white on their invite dress codes.

I had no idea that people weren't meant to wear white to weddings. Perhaps I have been hiding under a rock.

Because it really doesn’t suit me, I have never worn yellow clothing, I think it’s because of my hair and skin tone.

Well that couldn’t be further from the truth, he doesn’t give a shit what I spend on clothes!

But given this, why on earth should anyone waste headspace trying to win the subconscious approval of a diverse crowd of attendees whose judgements will all be subjective and different anyway? Sounds like a fools’ game…

The dress is fine to me. No-one will think you coul be the bride, and as for taking focus from the bride in photos, I find the fact that the bride is generally deliberately placed in the centre of them means that’s not an issue. 😀

How does the groom “pop out” and do they send a long list of colours and styles that can’t be worn to their male guests?

The only person whose opinion matters is the bride. I would ask her. It’s a lovely stress but have a backup plan in case she says it’s too white

It's nice in the yellow

I can’t believe people are saying ask the bride! Thanks, but I won’t be bothering my niece 5 days before her wedding about what her aunt might wear, now that would make me a pretentious prick! I will be wearing green, job done!

There is literally ONE colour you aren’t supposed to wear to a wedding… If you are questioning if something is wedding appropriate, it isn’t.

Jesus it's really not that difficult, just wear any other colour than white. There are thousands of other dresses out there that would be appropriate.

Guests not wearing white is well established etiquette going back many years, only on MN would people claim that they've never heard of it.

Exactly, this place is mental sometimes 😂

Enjoy the wedding!

There isn't though. People will tell you that red, green, black, pale yellow that is too close to white, any colour that the invitations give a hint about bridesmaids' dress colour are all not acceptable due to a load of made-up "rules" and superstitions.

It's ridiculous worrying about any of it. OP's dress isn't even all white. It has a white background completely broken up by polka dots.

The yellow version would be nice

Yes, I have read the posts, thanks.

Including the one where OP said it didn’t bother her. So why you then felt the need to continue on and tell her that her wedding must have been boring, I cannot fathom.

It definitely wouldn't have bothered me if someone had worn this at my wedding (I wore white)!

You look lovely btw!

I think it's lovely - nothing of the wedding dress about it