Is this dress too white for a wedding guest?

[PrincessPeachy]

As the title says really. I was hoping to wear it for a nieces weddings next weekend. DH thinks it’s fine, I’m having doubts! I would wear it with black accessories.
https://www.next.co.uk/style/su702748/h16243

Did the bride mind? Genuine question.

The Princess of Wales wore cream / very pale yellow to the wedding of Harry and Megan.

Ive had a think and the last five weddings I’ve been to the women who were getting married wore:

pink dungarees and trainers
a white suit and a black dress
a crushed velvet green dress
a red and gold Tudor style dress
a light blue very short dress with a tutu frill

In case anyone thinks that’s a modern phenomenon,

My great grandmother wore a grey suit and a nice hat. My grandmother wore a brown suit and a blouse and had a small posy of flowers. My mother wore a very tight emerald green dress and had a daisy chain on her head.

So based on that I can’t wear pink, white, black, green, red, gold, blue, grey, or brown to weddings?

Not at all suitable.

It would be great for a wedding guest.

I don't understand the "stand out in photos" objection. If I were looking at photos then something like every single dress on here
https://karolinaozolinsiute.com/collections/dresses

or here
https://sisterjane.com/

are the dresses which would catch my eye (because they're fabulous)

Too white. It will draw attention to you rather than the bride in any photos.

It’s going back years, so no idea. The bride married at 16 to leave home and go into married quarters.

Love the dress so much but no you’d have the drama makers in a tizz over it😉

It looks great and I'd wear it to a wedding. But I had at least four women wear pure white dresses to my wedding and no one cared or was confused as to who the bride was. I think we were less obsessed with this kind of stuff in the 90's though. I can see female wedding guests being made to wear sack cloth soon just so they don't accidentally outshine the bride.

Lovely dress and personally I think it's fine for a wedding. If it was all white then probably not but the polka dots make it completely non bridal. Silly spending money on a new dress if you don't have too.

In no way is it bridal at all ,it's a lovely summer dress and absolutely fine.

A child took the focus of the bride? Really? A friend's child wore white to my wedding. She looked entirely appropriate and just like a child in a nice dress given that that's what she was.

Fgs, your niece is presumably a child? How on earth does that take the focus off the bride?

It's too white so I'm glad to see you've decided against it OP. It's a lovely dress on you though, just not for a wedding.

Do all the people saying "it's fine, wear it" realise that a significant number of guests will be judging OP if she wears it? And the bride may not be thrilled about it. So it's just better all round to pick one of the many other colours available.

The only time I've ever heard anyone judge anything any guest is wearing is when one bride's sister wore her own wedding dress she'd had altered. Because that was batshit. No other guest's outfit, of any colour, has invited even a second of gossip at any of the 25 or so weddings I've been to. Because really nobody cares.

There wasn’t much of an age gap.

Nothing wrong with it, and you looked lovely by the way.

No, they don’t interestingly, no matter how bright. If you flick through someone’s wedding album you really can see that in all the pics there’s one person in white and she stands out. All the other guests in their different colours provide the foil for that one white dress. You can see it at the actual wedding too if you look around.

Really?

At any wedding I've ever been at the only "judging" of what other guests were wearing was thinking, but not saying "fab, damn it, better than mine"/nice/bland/ good, grief that's awful"

I don't like this dress but I can't see why OP can't wear it.

When I got married my 5 year old bridesmaid had a white bridesmaid dress and she looked gorgeous.

Just because you didn't hear it, or someone thought it and didn't verbalise it, doesn't mean nobody noticed.

Half the respondents to this poll think the dress is inappropriate for a wedding so you can be sure a reasonable number of people at the wedding would think it too.

Exactly; I couldn't care less about people wearing white to my wedding, but these days you see surreptitious snaps of people wearing white at weddings taken by other guests and posted on the internet with "she wore this to a wedding" - I doubt anyone says anything to the subject of these photographs but it's pretty likely there will be people there who see it as a faux pas to titter over.

You look amazing in that dress op I love it. I wore a similar one to my nephew’s wedding (with all black accessories) and because of the polka dots and the midi length it never occurred to me it would inappropriate. I’m middle aged and fat so I’m pretty sure I won’t have taken any shine off his beautiful bride. If anyone had thought less of me for that I would assume that says more about their petty small minded judgey attitude than me wearing a bit of white on a very clearly non-bridal dress!

Generally I think if you have to ask, don’t wear it. Because if you’re worrying now, you will be walking into the wedding worrying that people will be thinking “jeez that’s very white!”.