Is this dress too white for a wedding guest?

[PrincessPeachy]

As the title says really. I was hoping to wear it for a nieces weddings next weekend. DH thinks it’s fine, I’m having doubts! I would wear it with black accessories.
https://www.next.co.uk/style/su702748/h16243

I couldn't give a shit what others thought about what I was wearing. It will say more about them as people than it will ever say about me.

Your dress is lovely & if you'd wore that to my wedding it would have been fine!
At my wedding I had a guest in a cream trouser suit but with coloured accessories & one guest in jeans (but he told me that he'd bought them new especially for my wedding)
I couldn't have cared less as I just wanted everyone to have a great time, which we did.

If you're that worried about your dress check with the bride.

I think I'd titter about the sad little person who has such a sad little life that they've got nothing better to do.

People who say you should be able to wear white as a guest, can you not just let the bride be the only one in white/ cream? There are SO many colours to choose from, why choose the same colour the bride will be wearing?

Yes exactly
I think the only thing I personally would worry about is if you feel a bit awkward in the Church and suddenly regret wearing it for whatever reason (that happened to me at a funeral where everyone was in black apart from me). But you'll soon get over it! Just don't think about it.

1. The dress is not white, and is not a bridal dress. It’s a polka dot dress.
2. it is a nice dress, semi formal I’d say. it is not a statement dress or a dress that shouts out hey I want to steal the bride’s thunder.
3. unless the bride is planning to wear a beach dress to her own wedding, this dress will never compete with what the Bride will be wearing.

So a couple who host a £20K wedding and invite you - and your only requirement is to NOT wear white - why would you wear white?

And the lady saying ‘no one tells me what to ware’ just wow!! Have some manners.

IF you have to ask ‘is it too white, then it’s too white’

People are only paranoid about wearing white because of threads like this. It's self-perpetuating.

The concept of not wearing white does not, to any rational mind, extend to a dress that has a white background but is also covered in large black polka dots

Yes it does, everyone here is saying don’t wear white, if you wear white, you will feel self conscious and uncomfortable - why risk it?

These threads are always 50-50 “as long as it doesn’t look like a wedding dress it is fine” and “no you can’t wear a predominantly white outfit to a wedding regardless of whether it looks at all bridal”.

Personally I think the former is more correct, but I wouldn’t wear a predominantly white dress because of the risk that the bride/their family are in the latter camp.

Unless there’s a good reason to wear it (can’t afford a new outfit for example) I would just find something less white to wear.

Here’s a thought - assuming the bride herself hasn’t vetoed white/pale clothing (in which case it’s different of course) maybe some of us wouldn’t feel self-conscious or uncomfortable?

You could have worn white to my wedding. I couldn’t have cared less what guests wore other than that they were comfortable and felt good. I would not wear it as there are too many bridezillas around but it makes my eyes roll so much.

I don’t know if I am particularly perceptive but at every wedding I have been to, I have always known who the bride was and never got her confused with the wedding guests.

The lemon colour is lovely.

It’s. A. Polka. Dot. Dress.

It’s not a Schitts Creek-esque ‘floor length white gown with matching veil’!

Here’s a thought - assuming the bride herself hasn’t vetoed white/pale clothing (in which case it’s different of course)

Bit it is the norm to avoid white at wedding. The bride should not have to explain that you don’t wear white - it’s an unwritten rule.

Why would you set out to upset the hosts? You just don’t.

You pick a dress other than white. It’s no different than avoiding wearing your PJs to a wedding, but as the bride hasn’t specified not to ….

DH thinks it’s fine as he doesn’t see the need to buy a new dress and accessories ie doesn’t want to spend the money

My SIL wore a similar dress to my wedding. It was noted (and judged- rightly or wrongly) by many of the guests.

I cannot imagine a wedding where many guests would note and judge a dress worn by another guest. What small minded people they must be.

lol you would be very surprised at how much humans judge, it’s incredibly rare to not judge- whether people admit it or not. We judge constantly, we have made our mind up about whether we like someone based on hundreds of tiny conscious and subconscious judgements within the first few minutes of meeting them.

How do you know? Do you really have friends boring enough to tell you at or after your wedding that they thought your SIL's dress was too white? Did you not respond to that pointing out you don't care because you're not a bridezilla.

It says way more about your friends than your SIL

Yes I do have friends ‘boring enough’ to point it out. That is literally what this thread is asking- is this dress too white, and over half the respondents have ‘boringly’ pointed out that they think it is.

Did you not respond to that pointing out you don't care because you're not a bridezilla

Interesting that you are the 2nd or 3rd person who states the bride must be a Bridezilla for objecting to a guest wearing white - it’s blaming the bridge for the guests poor choices.

How to behave badly and blame someone else.

If you are invited to we’d surely you like the bride? Or it’s your intention to be centre of gossip? Or you’re choosing to be obtuse?

Bit different anonymously commentating online than actually trying to wind up a bride on her wedding day by telling her their pointless opinions on something that if the bride had any sense wouldn't bother her

Why is making a judgement anonymously online acceptable but in real life it isn’t? It’s judging either way. It neither sound me up nor bothered me by the way. You are making a far bigger thing of it than any of my guests did, I simply shared the info as it might be helpful to the OP in making her decision.

Why don’t you just get in yellow?