Immature for a 40yr old?

[NoOrdinaryMorning]

This is my first ever thread on Mumsnet so forgive me if I've done this wrong.
Not very exciting I know but I've been trying to find a nice cardigan that would cut it warmth-wise from now right up until late summer nights on holiday. I really like the colours on this but I'm 40 now! I can't help thinking that it'd be better suited to a pretty 20-something?! Also it looks very similar to one belonging to my DC
I don't really trust my own judgement anymore after years in an abusive relationship. Those of you 40+, would you wear it?

Think it's great you're doing some self-care after having a tough time! It might be worth checking out the free John Lewis personal shopper service:

https://www.johnlewis.com/our-services/personal-styling

I have a big birthday coming up and am thinking about getting a colour analysis done (I'm not sure if JL do this). That might be worth a go to - good luck!

*IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle · Yesterday 23:51

I don't generally go in for "too old/ too young" notions but I'm 64 and I wouldn't wear that because tbh, I think it would be better suited to my mother in-law (if she were still alive).

If you like it wear it. It's certainly not "too young" for you*

Similar age and definitely think it is for someone much older

I would not bother getting anything for now but take yourself off to the shops at every opportunity and try on lots of clothes of different colours, styles, designs and sizes.

When you look in the mirror at some point you will suddenly see what colours and styles and designs suit you and what you feel comfortable in.
Look at seasonal colour palettes on line and try and workout what you are which will cut out mistakes with colours

Although over the years I have tried on many long sleeved/turtle or high necked clothes. Which do look good. All I want to do is rip them off as they make me feel claustrophobic
Be aware how the clothes make you feel.

Know your own style and colours before making any significant purchase

@Clothesdonkey Only one of the recommendations I referred to came before OP shared her link. The rest were after. And the comments about beautiful clothes, etc, still came from the person who shared the first link AFTER OP shared her link so timing wise, it doesn’t look any better.

Yes, perfectly nice

Definitely not teenagery!
I’m way older than you and would think this is too old for me.

But wear whatever you like!

I agree it feels both childish and sort of granny at the same time LOL, the cardi itself looks nice though, maybe in a plain solid color? oxblood or navy

I also find it quite dated. My young adult daughter wouldn’t wear it. I don’t see it as a young persons garment at all

It’s a perfectly nice cardigan. If you like it, buy it and make sure you wear it!

No random on MN knows you and your look better than you know yourself. Trust your judgement missus

I'm early 40's and this would be my kind of thing after I saw it originally in a magazine, I LOVE it!
I'd try and read any reviews if there were any? For example people writing reviews for this are upwards of 65! 💗

It's not that you are the wrong age, it's more the colours are a bit unsubtle. It would probably be better to get one in a more singular or neutral shade to wear with more stuff? I'm in my 40s and still wear some stuff I wore in my 20s. So it's nothing to do with age.

Hey OP,

I don’t think anyone is being mean they’re just letting you know that the cardi looks dated and younger people are wearing short block coloured cardigans right now like attached - long cardigans are out and not fashionable.

One thing I do is head to vogue and find out what’s in then charity shop and find my own pre-loved version https://www.vogue.com/slideshow/best-cardigans-for-fall

That being said I have a few things I’ve purchased which are 100% not to others taste and I style them really great - You are you and if you love this cardigan you need to get it! :)

I think the word "dated" should be banned on here given how often it is misused. Long cardigans are not "dated". 2 seconds on the websites for Cos or Raey would dispel that.

What "younger people" are wearing is irrelevant. The OP thinks she's too old at 40 to wear this- she isn't. If that's all the OP wants to know, end of story.

If OP wants to know if people like this particular long cardigan -that's another matter.

@IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle it's not irrelevant to say this is not the kind of thing young people wear - it entirely answers the OPs question.

Is the cardigan 'immature'? No, because young people wouldn't wear it.

Thanks @yadayadayep this is what I was trying to get across by showing OP what young fashionable girls are wearing now.

I think it helps OP to see that the cardigan she likes isn’t a young look. I do think it’s out of fashion/dated but if OP loves it she should 100% buy it. Also trends change so quickly nowadays with micro trends, who knows what will be in next week!

Why is a long cardigan dated? Should we be wearing bolero circa 2009? I thought baggier stuff was more on trend now

French girl fashion is very in at the moment with little cardigans - the colour red is trending massively now too

"Younger people" aren't a homogeneous mass "Older people" aren't either.

I'm "older" and I'm far more likely to wear a short, boxy cardigan than a long one. I wouldn't wear the cardigan the OP picked but that's nothing to do with my age.

And that doesn't make Long cardigans "dated"
If I needed to be told what was current or not I think I'd pay more attention to the design teams at Cos , Raey and Anthropologie than a random poster on here
Raey
Raey 2
Cos
Anthropologie
Anthropologie 2

Definitely not. Definitely, definitely not.

Go for it if you like it!

I'm 41 and I wouldn't wear it but I'd prob buy it for my mum. I've sisters/ nieces in their late early and 20's and I've not seen them wear anything like this.

I just wanted to quote this because it's the best reply on this thread. I don't know what's happened to mumsnet over the last few years, but so many on here have become absolutely tone deaf. Try actually reading a posters question and engaging the brain a bit before answering. A bit of empathy maybe?
Lots of mother's just want some basic nice everyday clothing and lacking in confidence maybe need others opinions first. Linking to expensive impractical items seems to have become the norm on here now. That's fine on the right thread but it was clear this wasn't it.

Op, if you like it and it makes you feel nice then please buy it.

I’m 60 and don’t think I’d wear it - however, the reason why is that it’s not very exciting and those pastel colour are ageing

At 40 are we supposed to suddenly go in for crimplene and beige twin sets? No we fucking are not. If you like it, bloody well get it.

40 is not old. I’m only a few years off and despite my senior position at work in London I skateboard from the tube. (That is SO outing I’m off to name change).

Just to say, it’s so depressing that the spite of AIBU is creeping into every corner of Mumsnet. And it’s often done, as it has been here, with faux innocence and ‘helpfulness’ over the top, and clearly to make the poster feel superior. Posting links to cashmere wraps for hundreds of pounds, and banging on about how versatile they are and how long they last… come on.

Incredibly overpriced suggestions and obscure, pointless, oneupmanship arguments about the deeper meaning of clothes are why I rarely dip into S and B these days.

There are a lot of posts where the poster is clearly looking for high street, basics, but all the responses are some hugely expensive high fashion suggestions. Again, fine on the right thread, as pp said, but does the OP strike you as wanting a £1200 Raey cardie from Matches? (No offence intended, OP. I don't want it either) I realise many of these high fashion picks be found on Vinted, but I can;t be the only one who doesn't want to sift through Vinted.