Immature for a 40yr old?

[NoOrdinaryMorning]

This is my first ever thread on Mumsnet so forgive me if I've done this wrong.
Not very exciting I know but I've been trying to find a nice cardigan that would cut it warmth-wise from now right up until late summer nights on holiday. I really like the colours on this but I'm 40 now! I can't help thinking that it'd be better suited to a pretty 20-something?! Also it looks very similar to one belonging to my DC
I don't really trust my own judgement anymore after years in an abusive relationship. Those of you 40+, would you wear it?

It's only clothes. It's a nice cardigan. Not to everyone's tastes, which is fine, but it is a sweet cardigan. I could see any age make it work depending on how styled. I don't get the ageism on here. Any age can wear what they want and make it look stylish. Don't have to follow trends just because fashion tells you to. If everyone did, they would look the same, like a uniform. And what is cheap looking, as a pp said? Bet they wear clothes which look cheap too. But so what? Is it supposed to be an insult? Or what is the point of such a statement? If everyone just followed one fashion style, say "neutral", fashion wouldn't evolve, and it would all be the all same stuff everywhere. I certainly wouldn't walk past you and think anything negative about you, but then I wouldn't to anyone. We are all on this planet for a very short period of time. Make it fun and enjoy your life now you have managed to get out of a toxic relationship. Well done you.

Is this a bit more youthful in similar colours ?

https://www.boohoo.com/soft-knit-ombre-slouchy-cardigan/FZZ23026-155-30.html?gadsource=1&gbraid=0AAAAADlwhrXQyoqoAAZ4XHvJOQ3xOFx6z&gclid=CjwKCAiAk9itBhASEiwA1my65CfYx1W6O05BHxw5vlXpa6xw13SS7m57P6abDh9xUdKL7QiYN-RBoCh-kQAvDD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

I honestly don't think anyone was being unpleasant, OP?

Anyway, I don't think the cardy is too young in the slightest; it looks much more middle-aged to me (though not the sort of thing I'd wear personally). Also, now that someone has pointed out that the stripes don't match up, I wouldn't be able to un-see that!

For what you have it in mind for, have you considered a nice long cashmere wrap? I absolutely adore mine. It looks great with any outfit (jeans, nice dress, anything), and you can wear it in a single layer or double it up for more warmth. So soft and cosy, but also looks classy and is very versatile. Plus they're great quality and will last you for years.

Pure Cashmere Maxi Wrap | MaisonCashmere

For goodness sake the Op has, in effect, asked for help in building up self esteem after abuse, not a pile on. It is not dull therefore not going to be everyone’s cup of tea, fine say if you don’t like it but don’t be offensive.
what is more important is to trust yourself, style can be about attitude. Self confidence makes things look sylish.
OP your post post abuse life. Your life, your style, believe that and you will rock it!

I’m the same age as you and think long line cardigans are ageing. I thought you were going to post a crop top 😂

Sezane do beautiful stylish knitwear, that’s the kind of knits I buy and I’m also 40.

Thank you 🙏

I can’t afford things like that.

I've worn long line cardigans since my early 20s. I'm 39 now and still wear them. They certainly don't make me look older. It depends what you wear with it.

£117 for a granny shawl in the previous post! I'd say that's more granny in my opinion.

@Aixellency You were being unnecessarily nasty and you know it

Wear what you like!!

LOL! I guess it's all how you wear it? I wear mine with jeans, boots, and lots of bold jewellery. Absolutely love it on cool summer nights.

I wish they did my size 😞

Yes because we should all start wearing beige at 40. Fuck off OP wear what you want this is absolutely fine what a load of bollocks is the suggestion you have to wear one colour or neutral. Ffs

Exactly

@NoOrdinaryMorning - ad hominem attacks are not allowed on MN, but you may not know that if you haven’t posted here before.

I refer you to the title of your thread …

If you like it then buy it. I would if colours were bolder and i am 20 years older than you.

It's not to my taste, sorry. But not because it would look better on a 20 year old.

Of course the OP should wear it they like it. But, they were concerned about it looking too young, and people have reassured her that it looks the opposite of young so not to worry. People look good at all ages, seems very ageist to suggest that just because it’s more likely to be bought some someone older then it’s not worthwhile wearing.

I’m in my 40s, l wouldn’t wear those colours because l don’t like anything purple. But no other reason, I’d wear the style.

What exactly are humans meant to wear on top of their clothing? It seems every cardigan type thing is wrong.

It’s definitely not a young person’s style, not that it matters. If you like it get it.

I am looking for a jumper/sweater at the moment.

I suit deep shades of green, ochre and blue/navy. I am struggling as there are so many cream, ecru and pale grey clothes at the moment.

If I wear any of the neutral shades I don't get compliments on my clothes but anxious enquiries about my health. I look so washed out.

I am thinking of trying the lovely yellow or cornflower blue that I have seen recently but I am a mucky pup 🤷🏼‍♀️

That cardigan is pretty and if you try it on and like it, well, you wear it.

I like to people watch in cafes etc and pick ideas of the styles i like. give it a try, look at some blogs and you will get there.

There’s no objective ‘wrong’ in clothing, @bradpittsbathwater!

S&B deals in subjective opinions - but no one needs permission to wear whatever they like.

I'm in my late 50's and I would wear it but that doesn't matter. What matters is you like it and want to have it, so have it and wear it. I get that after years of having your self-esteem knocked out of you it is hard to get the confidence back to trust your own decision making but it's ok to just go for it and to not care what anybody else thinks now. Dress how you want as the only opinion that matters from now on is yours.