Immature for a 40yr old?

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This is my first ever thread on Mumsnet so forgive me if I've done this wrong.
Not very exciting I know but I've been trying to find a nice cardigan that would cut it warmth-wise from now right up until late summer nights on holiday. I really like the colours on this but I'm 40 now! I can't help thinking that it'd be better suited to a pretty 20-something?! Also it looks very similar to one belonging to my DC
I don't really trust my own judgement anymore after years in an abusive relationship. Those of you 40+, would you wear it?

It's not my colours, but if it was the same style in darker jewel tones, I would wear it for sure. If you like and it suits you then go for it, it doesn't scream 20 something to me at all.

I wouldn't call it "young fashion". To me it looks like something someone older would wear.

The pattern doesn't match up, the lines are at different heights around the cardi. On that point I wouldn't buy it as it would irritate me.

I would wear similar in a colour or colours that suit me though.

I've two teen DDs, one would wear that and love the colours, one wears only neutrals.

There hasn't been a pile on and I don't see any offensive replies. OP has taken any reply which wasn't enthusiastic as being offensive. I answered very neutrally that I wouldn't wear it and it's not "too young".

That wasn't a fully honest reply. I see clothes on here which aren't my thing but which I still think are good looking, interesting clothes. I don't think this cardigan is. And despite the multi colours, to me eyes it is dull. If OP likes those colours the Boohoo one someone posted is, to my eyes, a better looking shape.

It's not helping the OP if everyone pretends it's a fantastic piece of clothing. It's more confidence building to be honest about it and leave it up to OP to make her own decision.

Get it, OP! It wouldn’t suit me because I’m short and fat so all long cardigans look like dressing gowns on me, but they don’t have an age limit, and I think that cardi would look great with a pair of jeans and a white T shirt, regardless of how old you might be. I’m 55. If it suits me and I like it then I don’t care if someone else thinks I’m too old for it. Their opinion has nothing to do with me.

It's personally not my style, but I don't see why you couldn't wear it at 40.

I'm 41 and went for a drink last night wearing a skintight silver bodysuit, thigh high boots and hotpants! (Also a suit jacket and huge scarf/shawl, I didn't look 'not decent' but who cares? Wear what bloody hell you want

Or alternatively, don’t do that at all, and just get the cardigan that you actually like and will enjoy wearing.

OP, if you like the cardigan, buy it. Would I wear it? No, but that’s because I’ve got very dark hair and very pale skin and I basically only wear black and leopard print. But there is absolutely no reason whatsoever why you shouldn’t buy it.

If you are asking yourself “Is this too young for me?” about any item of clothing, the answer is always no.

The colours are pretty but it is definitely not too young! I am 45 and would reject this for being too mumsy and middle aged looking.

I'm 40+ and dress like a CBeebies presenter The more colour the better! If you like it, buy it!

If you like it, wear it. Try not to care what anyone else thinks, it's you that needs to be happy.
I am 37 and would definitely wear it.

Its not my style/colours but I don’t think it’s immature, so if it’s you then go for it. I know the feeling of not knowing yourself after a relationship break up.

If you have the means, how about treating yourself to a colour/shape analysis with one of the online consultants, eg Style Me Happy? Lots of them have online groups where women support each other finding their style.

The Trinny and Susannah books and TV shows used to be good for this too but they are a bit dated now, but it’s so confidence building to find yourself again. Good luck OP 🌺

In defence of those saying buy one colour and neutral like I did earlier, it’s because the OP said she was looking for something to see her through the summer. I took it as meaning she needed one item that matches almost everything. The cardigan she linked to doesn’t do that. It won’t match a patterned outfit and the colours will clash or look bust with most things. Buying it as single item to wear with jeans and plain top would be fine

I agree. It's nothing to do with age. A neutral colour that will go with anything is just a much more practical choice if you're going to be wearing it daily.

Buy it and love it

You can wear patterns over patterns. Saying you can't, isn't helping confidence building.

Immature? I was expecting something with Thomas the Tank Engine on! For the record, I like it and would wear it. But, more importantly, you like it and the colours suit you. Buy it and enjoy wearing the cardigan.

I think it's lovely

Life is too short to worry. Be you. Enjoy your choices in clothes. With your colouring you will look lovely anyway. I would definitely wear it and I'm 40. I'm loving the descriptions of outfits on here. I wear very bright prints, the brighter the better. I was told not everyone likes to go out shopping with a 70s feature wall but who cares. I like it and that's fine. Enjoy your cardigan.

It's not to my taste, but I wouldn't say it is particularly "young".

Definitely not too young for you, it's more towards the other end of the spectrum. If you like it, you wear it.

I can’t believe how people are reacting to this. Is no one paying attention to OP’s link to the original jumper? It’s £34.99. So we have recommendations from posters for a cardigan that’s £129 and a wrap that’s £117. Oh and someone recommended Sezane, which is generally £80-100+. In addition, it’s part of Yours’ Curve range, so sizes 14+. I’m not sure I’ve seen anything recommended that comes in that size. Even the Boohoo link, which I thought was fun, only had six left, and they’re all in size S. If you’re going to recommend something, perhaps at least pay attention to the OP’s comments? Also, I do think it’s a bit nasty to start commenting on other aspects of the cardigan that OP didn’t ask for. She asked if it would be too young. So you could give your opinion on that, or if you feel it’s too old, or perhaps be helpful and recommend something in the same size and price range (I do think the poster with the Boohoo link tried). But these comments, good lord. Is this normal for S&B? I don’t spend a lot of time here but telling a woman who says she doesn’t trust her own judgment because she’s been in an abusive relationship that you think it’s “vile” and “so would [your] 90-year-old mother” and then saying your mother “still loves beautiful clothes” and linking a sweater that doesn’t fit the OP and that she can’t afford… I mean, I do think that’s pretty dreadful behavior. I’d feel like shite after reading that, and I haven’t even had my judgment torn down by abuse for years.

You can wear some patterns over patterns. Not all. Personally I would not wear it with a pattern but I am not the OP.

Blinding saying ‘yes if you love buy it’ to the OP isn’t helping confidence either.

@5YearsLeft many of the suggestions were in response to just a picture of the cardigan so no-one would know the budget or the size. The link didn’t come until later.

Wear what you like. The end.