Nobody likes my greying hair!

[Sidebeforeself]

Decided to embrace my natural grey ( for many reasons!) Im entering that really tricky stage where I have a big stripe so feeling self conscious but know I have to grin and bear it. But what’s not helping is how many negative comments Im getting from friends and family. Things like Im too young to do it (54) , it’s not professional for work etc. I know DH not keen .

I realise other opinions don’t matter but when I m feeling self conscious it would be nice to get a bit of support. Did anyone else experience this?

It's a signifier for age
I will.always dye my hair

With age comes wisdom and strength, but, whatever.

This is interesting. I've always been a silver jewelry wearer, just thought that it was much nicer on me than gold. I have a very pale Scottish complexion, and my hair was brown with a hint of red when I was young. Recently my husband bought me jewelry for a significant birthday, and both he and the lady in the shop said gold was much better with my skin tone. They were right. Hoping this means I have a warm skin tone to go with my rapidly greying hair! I've stopped dyeing it.

Bit weird to resuscitate an old thread when ruminating on age.

I will always refute that grey hair automatically ages a woman. It's lies sold by the patriarchy.

You don't have to like the way I look, or even agree with me, BUT I absolutely reject the idea that grey hair looks anything more than, grey hair.

It's not the hair that ages us, it's life that ages us. We age.

The centre never holds. Things fall apart.

And that's ok.

But it's not the colour of our hair that does these things to us.

And I don't care what you do with your hair, dye it, don't dye it, personal choice is powerful.

But do make sure it's your choice, not society's.

Your hair suits you but it wouldn’t suit me. I don’t do block colour anymore but have scattered low lights and have gone a bit lighter so greys blend between root touch ups at the salon, it’s a subject where we have to agree to disagree. I don’t feel good when I can see greys and I’ll use a root retouch up spray as it makes me feel better. I do think some women look great all grey / silver but it’s not for me.

Nothing wrong with grey hair on anyone. That alone doesn't age a person. We all age. It's a lie that dyeing your hair makes you look younger - it's an association we make because we've been sold colouring as normal by the hairdressing and cosmetic industries for so long. If colouring your hair makes you feel better about yourself then that's fine.