Opinions on this dress for a wedding guest

[Howmanyroses]

Just that really, what do you think? Obviously looks much better on a model in the picture. Thank you!

I think it might be because it is giving me 11 year old girl energy idk!

It struck me as a bit bridesmaid like, but it doesn't seem as anyone else has said that so maybe I'm on my own with that one. The most stylish wedding guest I've seen in a long time had on wide leg trousers, a silk cami and a ginormous hat. She looked absolutely amazing and not like anyone else there. She didn't look like she'd tried too hard either - just like she was naturally stylish. Anyway, that's not what you're asking.

The close up of the dress definitely looked nicer and no one would object to you attending their wedding in it. Its respectful and appropriate.

Where and when is the wedding @Howmanyroses? That might help people with suggestions of other things you could wear!

I really like it in the higher res photos you subsequently posted, it looks very pretty. The black one is lovely, I prefer the shape of that.

I'm 65 and wouldn't wear that Phase 8 dress. Or a bolero.

@Shellingbynight no one apart from little girls should be wearing boleros nowadays - so dated!

I take it this is missing the sarcasm emoji?

I'm really fed up of this notion that a dress posters personally don't like will be ok for someone over 50 or 60 or a 103

It's obviously fine not to like a dress but it's really ageist to assume, well some older woman who doesn't care can wear it.

If anything I might when I was younger and had less confidence have worn something as safe and non eye catching as the Phase Eight dress - now, not a chance

The wedding is in July in a stately home, grade 1 listed

I am perfectly able to give my personal opinion that I would not wear that at my current age.

That's too short for wedding,no?

I dunno, it looks kinda cheap as well.

Really like the dress. Some of the responses scream of bullyish jump on the bandwagon attitude. I wish S&B went back to being nice as before...

It's a dress, not a person. If op had posted a pic of herself and people had said she looked awful, that might be bullying. Someone asking for opinions on a dress which she hasn't even bought yet (and is only considering because it's £15 secondhand and she doesn't want to spend too much - totally understandable btw) and people giving their opinions on it, is not bullying, even when using the Olympic levels of hyperbole you often find online.

What's the required length for a wedding? below the knee?? Where is this written? Are les obscene? It's hardly just below the bum is it? it's just above the knee on a probably tall model...🙄

I look terrible with knee length or below the knee dresses / skirts, has to be maxi or mini. Never been an issue before... Does it have to be flowery as well? 😒

I think it's pretty, good colour for some (would be too pale on me) and the length is fine.

How can it be too short for a wedding? I wasn't aware there was a skirt length code? I've seen people in minis, short dressed, bandage dresses, all kinds, young people wear their own clothes to weddings, they don't dress like Kate Middleton!

I don't know about the quality or fit or anything, but it looks entirely wedding friendly to me.

Disagree, it's comments on the poster's choice. No need for the extreme adjectives. And she has bought it

Saying it looks like a dishrag is stupid. It looks fine, quite delicate. If in-person it looked tatty, that's different, but I'm also tired of people jumping on perfectly normal ordinary clothing and mocking it.

Op has said she is petite and it’s knee length on her.

"...can't decide whether it looks pretty and delicate or just a bit messy, especially from a distance".

I think the problem is that both of these things are true, depending upon the eye of the beholder.

I think the dress is lovely, it's a nice colour, it's a good length on you, it would be appropriate for a July wedding and it's an absolute bargain!

BUT I am wondering whether, in contrast with a Grade 1 listed setting, the pretty-little-girlish Boho feel of it might veer more toward the 'bit messy'? Might something more classically elegant made with a more luxurious fabric do you more justice?

Oh sorry, yes she has bought it!

Well we will have to agree to disagree really. I wouldn't use some of the pejorative language on here either, but don't think it amounts to bullying. That's a massive exaggeration imo

I like it OP. If you like it and feel good in it I say go for it.

can't decide whether it looks pretty and delicate or just a bit messy, especially from a distance".

I don't see what's wrong with being pretty and delicate and a bit messy. And a Grade 1 listed setting doesn't preclude boho. I think it is slightly messy, which for me is a plus compared to the too safe Phase Eight dress.

I don't like it for various reasons, but I don't think it breaches any of the wedding etiquette that gets discussed here (some of which I do agree with).

So if you like it and feel good i it, definitely wear it .

It's lovely for a young person, very delicate and pretty

@Howmanyroses in that case i think it is also too casual for that sort of venue. You need something fancier looking. This is very “posh bbq”

What a very odd looking dress.