Aibu upset sil wore at our wedding

[Monkeynuts57]

We recently got married and we have just got our photos back and I felt upset and annoyed at what sil wore to our wedding and I thought it was odd but prepared to be told if I Abu , even though personally it’s not what I would choose for a wedding. it was cream basically same colour as my dress I feel upset and all photos will remind me of this.
I have attached a link of similar but not exactly the same outfit

https://m-uk.cupshe.com/products/romance-bow-one-shoulder-jumpsuit?gbraid=0AAAAABWndwb4E-ZBgd2rr4zFLwKsJ97QT&gclid=Cj0KCQjwmZejBhC_ARIsAGhCqncAdTT5MhokrQRyxiDNKHE2JbioCsaJs0hz4MFqyO60mag9C0evdEQaAqUEEALw_wcB&utm_campaign=UK-PMAX-Jumpsuits-20220921&utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&utm_term=%7B17157404823%7D_%7B%7D&variant=42306334949567

So don’t give them any attention, then …. !

Absolutely agree

Just wear any other colour to a wedding.

There are many Saturday nights down the pub you can wear your favourite white outfit.

Why?!?!!! I want to know more!!!

@MrsTerryPratchett

You said it so much better than I did.

When we tell the OP to get over it, we are trying to smooth over a conflict, not feed the conflict. Same when people tell someone planning to attend a wedding to avoid white, it is to avoid conflict and upset.

Meanwhile lots of people here are delighted to promote discord between the OP and her husband's sister. I'm sure that will give them a long and happy marriage, not.

YANBU

it is absolutely understood that you don't wear the traditional colour of the brides bridal attire at a wedding.

Guests should usually avoid white/cream/off white.

My mother fell in love with a cream suit which she asked if she could wear at my wedding. I had to say yes.

I dressed her in the bloody thing for her funeral.

Nobody on my wedding day judged me as the bride but lots of people, male, female young and old asked me if I was okay with the fact she wore a cream suit.

It said more about her than it did about me.

This. She WBU and would obviously have thought about the potential faux pas, then decided she didn't give a shit. So YANBU to be pissed off, but "upset" every time you see the photos ... why do you give her that power?

She looks like an attention-grabbing idiot, and I'm sure most of your guests would've seen it that way too.

The (probable) Other Woman wore a long white dress to my wedding 😂 Everybody thought she was being a dick.

Just read this review of the jumpsuit 🤣aybe it's the sister in law

Yes. I truly had no idea about the colour thing until I read it on Mumsnet in my mid-30s (which is years ago now).

I'd just never been especially interested in weddings, wedding culture, etc. I'd been to lots of weddings as a guest and even been a maid of honour once, all of which was perfectly OK but I just never happened to hear anyone observe that this colour issue would matter.

It would never have crossed my mind independently because if I'd been getting married myself, I wouldn't have cared what other people wore.

So in my ignorance I did once go to a wedding in an off-white shift dress, partly hidden under a pale green cardigan. It was the late Nineties. No idea whether anyone took umbrage.

If that upsets you so much you can ask photographer to edit pictures and tint her outfit the other color (pink, mint, etc) during post-processing :)

This would annoy me too. Out of order to wear white/cream at a wedding if you're not the bride

It would have been better for her not to have worn it but now it’s fine, just move on. It is so unimportant compared to the (hopefully) good relationship you’ll develop over the years.
Nobody ever told me not to wear white to a wedding and unfortunately the first two uni friends who got married were really posh and had big fancy weddings where it probably stood out. It was also before I ever read mumsnet! I am sure their mothers were appalled and shocked at my rudeness but honestly nobody ever told me. 😳

I think it’s fine. It’s a jumpsuit

The probable other woman? Hell that’s a story that need elaboration (if you don’t mind)

Well, she shouldn’t have done it and when the photos have two splashed of white / cream she should feel embarrassed.

But in the end, did you have a lovely day? A marriage is more than the photos, and years ahead as an extended family are more important than one day and a badly chosen outfit.

If it was a jumpsuit, I know it's flowy, but doesn't look like something the bride would wear. Did she want to look like a part of the bridal party?

I wore a similar outfit for Sil's wedding. I wasn't allowed to be in the wedding photos.

I now really like that jumpsuit and I wish it came in a different colour for my friends wedding! I would never wear it as it is.

That’s insane.

Not allowed in photos? Who made that decision. It’s extremely petty

Nothing wrong with it, I hope there was no tantrums?

My friend wore a white dress to our wedding it was nice but hardly stole the show. It didn't bother me at all

It's a jumpsuit not a wedding dress not sure what your problem is?

Your sister is either ignorant/thick as shit or an attention seeking cunt.
only you know which one!

I’ve been to loads of weddings and I’m never seen anyone in head to toe white or cream apart from the bride or tiny children.

I'd have let you stand at the back with just your head showing.

Seriously though I didn't notice what my guests wore but I'm pretty sure non of my gorgeous friends would have wore white anyway.