Aibu upset sil wore at our wedding

[Monkeynuts57]

We recently got married and we have just got our photos back and I felt upset and annoyed at what sil wore to our wedding and I thought it was odd but prepared to be told if I Abu , even though personally it’s not what I would choose for a wedding. it was cream basically same colour as my dress I feel upset and all photos will remind me of this.
I have attached a link of similar but not exactly the same outfit

https://m-uk.cupshe.com/products/romance-bow-one-shoulder-jumpsuit?gbraid=0AAAAABWndwb4E-ZBgd2rr4zFLwKsJ97QT&gclid=Cj0KCQjwmZejBhC_ARIsAGhCqncAdTT5MhokrQRyxiDNKHE2JbioCsaJs0hz4MFqyO60mag9C0evdEQaAqUEEALw_wcB&utm_campaign=UK-PMAX-Jumpsuits-20220921&utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&utm_term=%7B17157404823%7D_%7B%7D&variant=42306334949567

I think it is a nice jumpsuit but I follow the rule of not wearing white/cream etc to weddings.

You don't wear white or cream to a wedding. You especially don't to a relatives without running it passed them. Do you have a MIL? Did she seem surprised at it?

YABU. It doesn't look bridal at all.

It’s a very written rule not to wear white to a wedding. Etiquette 101.

it’s rude. It says more about her though. Ignore it and don’t let it get to you.

there's a train of thought on MN that says it's acceptable to wear white if it doesn't appear bridal - which this isn't. Maybe I run in different circles but I always thought white/cream was unacceptable regardless of the cut of the garment. I think it's fair enough to be disappointed OP.

I dunno. Is it a big thing? She looked nice. You looked nicer. No one will have confused you or even compared you. Why would you let it ruin a lovely day? No one else will even have remembered and she'll have moved on. But you're still stewing over it. I get your irritation but you're just hurting yourself.

I just always thought the unwritten rule of attending a wedding was not to wear white or cream! I wouldn’t
and if it had been anyone else, I’d still have had the same thoughts, however more so if they were to be in all the photos family ones etc
just found it a bit strange Choice and perhaps if it had been shorter maybe not as long flowing and dressy like I’d probably not be as bothered.
Also I did like her but not so sure now (few other reasons among this year)

She should have got it in a colour. Is she usually attention seeking?

If I do marry this is probably the sort of thing I'd wear. Something white /pale cream but not bridal.

So yes I'd not wear that colour in anything to a wedding. Just bear to avoid!

Weddings, and the fact there are certain rules and they are pretty much all the same, are stupid and weird in my opinion, so given that I think yabu.

I can see how it wouldn't look like a jumpsuit in photos. It will look like a long dress in them I imagine. Was yours a flowy, lacy, ethereal dress with lots of detail? If it was that would mean a tiny bit U but if you wore a satin column dress or off the shoulder A Line you woukd be less unreasonable. It's an attention seeking choice whatever the circs though.

It's inappropriate to wear all white / cream to a wedding. Just like it would be inappropriate to wear...I dunno... sparkly hot pants to a funeral. Or a ball gown to the office.

White with other colours is fine. That jumpsuit isn't. Yanbu

YABU - and so are all the ridiculous posters who make something like this into an issue. All these pathetic "rules" - it's like we've wound the clock back many decades.

Totally agree.

If you had posted in S&B I think more people would agree with you OP.

This is exactly what people irl will be thinking of the SIL, that she’s a Dick.

Only on MN would people say they wouldn’t mind if someone did this at their wedding.

Thanks what is s&b

I didn’t even know “no cream” was a rule … I didn’t really care what anyone wore to my wedding, I was just happy to have them there.

My MIL wore a creamy/white dress to my wedding. My dress was cream, she knew the colour, she made my dress. Did I care?? No, I think this sort of thing is beyond childish and pathetic.

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I’m with you I’d be annoyed, everyone knows don’t wear bridal colours to a wedding. However the guests/my bridesmaids would have talked about it at breakfast the next day to make me feel better about it. The dirty looks they would get would mean it would end up just being a story we add to our long list of stories about the in laws.

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No, not only on MN - and I would think the OP is a dick, not the SIL, and would feel sorry for whoever she married, if this is the sort of thing which "upsets" her. Like a pp I would just be happy someone attended my wedding, and couldn't care less what they wore.

It's what the butch bride would wear at a lesbian wedding.

Everyone I know wouldn't wear white/cream to a wedding so if you are planning to do it then be prepared to be talked about.

Can't believe all the people saying YABU.

I think it's absolutely ridiculous to have worn that and you're not being unreasonable.

I think the jumpsuit gives off pyjama/karate vibes so she wouldn't have upstaged you though!