Aibu upset sil wore at our wedding

[Monkeynuts57]

We recently got married and we have just got our photos back and I felt upset and annoyed at what sil wore to our wedding and I thought it was odd but prepared to be told if I Abu , even though personally it’s not what I would choose for a wedding. it was cream basically same colour as my dress I feel upset and all photos will remind me of this.
I have attached a link of similar but not exactly the same outfit

https://m-uk.cupshe.com/products/romance-bow-one-shoulder-jumpsuit?gbraid=0AAAAABWndwb4E-ZBgd2rr4zFLwKsJ97QT&gclid=Cj0KCQjwmZejBhC_ARIsAGhCqncAdTT5MhokrQRyxiDNKHE2JbioCsaJs0hz4MFqyO60mag9C0evdEQaAqUEEALw_wcB&utm_campaign=UK-PMAX-Jumpsuits-20220921&utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&utm_term=%7B17157404823%7D_%7B%7D&variant=42306334949567

Heh, I'd love to oblige but the story's just as you will have imagined! The wedding day was long and glorious; the marriage short and dismal.

Guest: Seen what Mandy's wearing? Is she trying to make a point?
Me: No doubt.
Chorus: What a prat.

(This works great if you read it like a Gilbert & Sullivan musical)

This. Honestly, in a few years' time, this won't matter. Try not to let it spoil your memories of the day.

She is a dick, though.

I read that in contralto

It wasn’t yellow it was cream - many many different pictures from different outlets all the same colour. She also wore it to a christening.

You don't wear white or cream to a wedding, whether the outfit style is bridal or not. I suspect she was aiming for a Pippa Middleton moment.

I would ask the photographer if they could tint the dress a different colour in the photos then just say you have no idea why it looks that colour.

It’s ridiculous that this would ruin your memories of your wedding day. It’s also ridiculous that people don’t like people wearing white or cream to a wedding. It’s not like she’s worn any form of dress, let alone one that could be mistaken for a bridal dress.

The bride I presume.

It's a jump suit though, looks nice 🤷‍♀️. I couldn't have cared less what people wore to my wedding, I was the bride and looked fabulous 😆. Unless your dress was a bit naff and didn't screm bride I doubt anyone thought the woman in the white jumpsuit was the bride.

I actually thought this was a troll at first looking for bait. But on the off chance you are being serious please in the nicest possible intention, get a grip. It’s a jumpsuit. So clearly not a bridal outfit.

I think YABU but I think it's your insecurities. All my guests wore white/cream at my wedding (nicer look on photos) and no one was mistaken as to who I was.

I wore pale pink and I couldn't have given a fuck what anyone else wore!!

I know several brides who have worn jumpsuits! While it’s definitely common it’s hardly unheard of. Especially among LGBT people.

YANBU to be upset OP. No point being upset now though, it’s past! Know she’s a dick and move on.

Ah. I get it, OP.

Whether you agree with the ‘rule’ or not, you just don’t wear white or cream to a wedding. It’s so widely known, you just don’t do it. Choose from the plethora of other colours and patterns available.

It does often feel pointed when people do, because when I’ve witnessed it, it has been. On one occasion, it was a weirdly jealous sister and another more memorable one, the mother of the groom. 😆

There was a thread about batshit ILs a few weeks ago that had SO MANY MILs turning up in white. Absolutely insane behaviour.

I daresay it’s less about her ‘memories’ and more that it was the day she realised her SIL was a bit of a twat.

HRTFT but I would be annoyed if someone wore this to my wedding. It's just rude to wear a big cream/ivory/white outfit to a wedding if you're not the bride. (Assuming a standard Western-style wedding where the bride wears those colours.) If I went to a friend's wedding and saw one of the other guests wearing this, then I would give them some serious side eye.

Usually the bride really stands out in wedding photos because of this. Having another "big white outfit" in the photos spoils this effect.

Get the photographer to tint her outfit so it looks pastel pink or blue.

And never forget the power of an accident involving a big glass of red wine if somebody is really being a cheeky fucker with their wedding guest outfit.

YANBU

I'm beginning to question if this is an age thing and I'm going to ask my younger family/friends if they knew about the tradition.

I'm pretty sure they do know though and they are very fashionable and clever.

I have never heard anyone say "I've bought this lively white/cream outfit for that wedding I'm going to".

well i know it's a rule, but it wouldn't have upset me at all if someone wore that outfit to my wedding.
Did people spend the whole wedding looking at her instead of you?

But so what, though?

If people are going to look askance at anyone, it will be the guest wearing white.

They’ll be the person people will be judging. Not the bride. So….

What would you have done if one had turned up in fluorescent green?

I don’t see why her SIL is a twat. Unless OP got married in a jumpsuit.

But again - what does it matter?

NOBODY steals focus from the bride on her wedding day. But if they do, it’s ONLY for negative reasons. 🤷🏻‍♀️

But seriously - people who need everyone to be focused on Queen Me need to grow up.

Completely rude and inappropriate of her. And this is exactly why people shouldn't wear cream or white - it might upset the bride, and the day is not all about you, it's the bride and groom's day! Not surprised you are annoyed OP but try not to let her ruin your memory of the day.