Aibu upset sil wore at our wedding

[Monkeynuts57]

We recently got married and we have just got our photos back and I felt upset and annoyed at what sil wore to our wedding and I thought it was odd but prepared to be told if I Abu , even though personally it’s not what I would choose for a wedding. it was cream basically same colour as my dress I feel upset and all photos will remind me of this.
I have attached a link of similar but not exactly the same outfit

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It’s bad form to wear white or cream to a wedding if you’re not the bride but you’re being petty to let it spoil your memories of the day.

I don’t think you’re unreasonable. Everyone knows that you don’t wear anything approaching white to someone else’s wedding.

Don’t let it spoil your memories though, you got married to the love of your life (hopefully!) and that’s the important thing.

Kate Middleton had worn her outfit before, a deliberate choice so she wouldn't pull focus.

I would not wear it to a wedding, but neither would I be bothered if someone wore it to mine.

YANBU
Wearing shiny white on someone else's wedding is disrespectful decision.

I think it looks really nice. I'm sure your dress would have looked much different.? If she had worn a bridal dress then I would have been very pissed off. Otherwise no.

Definitely a thing on a website dedicated to making weddings stressful & fraught with helpful suggestions

You’ve worn white to a wedding as a guest haven’t you!

I'd never heard of not wearing white or cream to a wedding before Mumsnet and I'm in my fifties. My MiL wore a white dress with a print and a white jacket to our wedding, didn't occur to me that it was a problem.

Hell yes and I wasn’t the only one

I wounding be upset. Just confused

It's a tradition that's been around for many years that you didn't know about. This doesn't mean it's not a thing

Next time you attend a wedding or see a wedding on TV note how many other women are wearing white or cream.

Wete you all sat together giggling?

No I will refrain from noting other women attire as I don’t actually care

Giggling?Yes is bonhomie banned at weddings in case someone thinks we were the bride

You’re not going to accept everyone saying it’s not ok, you’re not going to accept any source we link to, so you obviously enjoy being that woman.

YANBU.
The specifics vary but everyone is upset by bad manners/disrespect.

This. I have and would wear a white or cream to a wedding, guests at my wedding wore those colours too. As long as not bridal looking I really cant see the problem and that stance is not going to change. Same with black, People get hung up the wrong things.

I think it's poor to wear plain white or cream to a wedding. Obviously you're not going to be mistaken for the bride but it's just etiquette here isn't it. I wouldn't mind about white-with-print stuff though.

I like the jumpsuit but I do know brides who got married in white jumpsuits. So I would raise my eyebrows but wouldn't let it spoil my day. Probably all the other women thought she was being rude anyway and only showed herself up.

YABU- If you had time to focus on that at your wedding. Maybe there are bigger issues.

I've seen loads of people in white/cream at weddings so i don't think everyone follows it and no one's cares. Even the mother of the bride 🤷🏻‍♀️ not a thing in my circle.

An all white outfit, as in the OP. You've heard of that I presume? No one cares that Auntie Janet wore a white blazer with her frock.

I wouldn’t wear white or cream to wedding as I know how ridiculously precious - and, frankly, insecure - some people are about it.

But I wouldn’t have even noticed if someone had worn white to my wedding. Probably someone did.

Why would you care? It’s your day, everyone’s there to celebrate your wedding, to the love of your life - and you’re focused on what some guest is wearing?? How does it even occur to you to care?

Have a bit of confidence in yourself - honestly there is something unbearably cringy about thinking about being outshone on your wedding day by a guest. It’s even more cringey to need to outshine anyone, and be all <sad face> because someone is wearing white.

Focus on what actually matters about the event and the day.

That woman? What does that even mean?Are you seriously going to guess behaviour & traits based on attire to a wedding
Most peculiar but delightfully random that you believe you have such enhanced social foresight

Attention seeking.