Aibu upset sil wore at our wedding

[Monkeynuts57]

We recently got married and we have just got our photos back and I felt upset and annoyed at what sil wore to our wedding and I thought it was odd but prepared to be told if I Abu , even though personally it’s not what I would choose for a wedding. it was cream basically same colour as my dress I feel upset and all photos will remind me of this.
I have attached a link of similar but not exactly the same outfit

https://m-uk.cupshe.com/products/romance-bow-one-shoulder-jumpsuit?gbraid=0AAAAABWndwb4E-ZBgd2rr4zFLwKsJ97QT&gclid=Cj0KCQjwmZejBhC_ARIsAGhCqncAdTT5MhokrQRyxiDNKHE2JbioCsaJs0hz4MFqyO60mag9C0evdEQaAqUEEALw_wcB&utm_campaign=UK-PMAX-Jumpsuits-20220921&utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&utm_term=%7B17157404823%7D_%7B%7D&variant=42306334949567

That’s simply not true. Wearing white as a guest isn’t a universal no no
Most folk can differentiate who is the bride and aren’t confused when another guest wear white

That's just nuts.

No it’s not a universal thing

removed by whom?the jumpsuit police? Phil Mitchell having a whisper..Oi no.
Fucking ridiculous comment

No SIL did 🙄

It definitely is a traditional UK wedding thing.

I know nothing about fashion or wedding but even I know you don’t wear white to a wedding. She either doesn’t care about your feelings at all or did it on purpose.

Agreed.

She had to have known.

Yes it's a jumpsuit but standing still out could look like a long dress.

YANBU at all! She should not have worn that. Try not to dwell on it though. I'm sure on the day people thought it was bad form. Well they did with something similar at a wedding I attended.

I think it's funny, people saying YABU. Whenever any one post on MN about wearing something even slighly white to a wedding every says not to.

It’s a traditional U.K. thing (for weddings where white/cream is the norm for brides.)

Never encountered it in UK
I have lived and worked in multiple Uk regions and never heard of it
Mn is full of daft rules,affectations and misplaced etiquette

YANBU, but she is the one who has made herself look stupid and attention seeking.

Try not to give it another thought.

Way too bridal.
some rare brides do wear jumpsuits so wearing a white jumpsuit is really not ok

It’s not a MN thing. It’s a life thing. It doesn’t need pointing out because everyone understands it.

Very peculiar for any wedding guest to wear an all white outfit. I'd have a hard time believing she didn't do it for attention.

But of course lots of MNers will claim that it's a completely normal thing for a woman to wear to someone else's wedding.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it, it's a jumpsuit. Clearly not a wedding dress.

Tbh unless someone turned up in an honest-to-God white gown I really don't see the problem - everyone there knows you're the bride otherwise why were they invited?

All the 'it takes attention away' reasoning against it is weird, too - are your guests especially easily confused by the colour white? Why would a wedding guest see someone who isn't the bride wearing a white jumpsuit and go "Oh, I must spend all my time and attention on this person now even though they're not the bride because they're wearing The Wedding Colour"...

Interesting fact: bridesmaid dresses used to be white traditionally.

It’s a dick move.

It’s v much a mn thing. A parallel word of perceived slights,rules and a quagmire of must do
Fortunately in real life most people,are more sensible

I mean, how can anyone not know this? It's been a thing for decades! It's not so much the outfit but the shade, traditionally it should only be the bride wearing white/ivory. Not a tough concept.

You've never encountered the tradition of the bride being the only one to wear white to her wedding.

I can only assume you've spent your entire life in an underground bunker?

I never understood this. In our culture, you are encouraged to wear your wedding dress again to a close family members wedding!

Hmm, I always thought totally white / cream was a no no as a wedding guest, regardless of whether a dress or jumpsuit. That said, try not to let it bother you, I’m sure in time it will bother you less. She’s just made herself look a bit daft.

My SIL got upset I didn’t ask her to be a bridesmaid at my wedding and I’m not even particularly close!

That's really poor etiquette. But it makes her look a fool as a result.

Why does it matter? Genuine question. You’re the bride! I bet you looked incredible. I wouldn’t bat an eyelid at someone wearing this at my wedding.