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Aibu upset sil wore at our wedding

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Monkeynuts57 · 18/05/2023 19:54

We recently got married and we have just got our photos back and I felt upset and annoyed at what sil wore to our wedding and I thought it was odd but prepared to be told if I Abu , even though personally it’s not what I would choose for a wedding. it was cream basically same colour as my dress I feel upset and all photos will remind me of this.
I have attached a link of similar but not exactly the same outfit

https://m-uk.cupshe.com/products/romance-bow-one-shoulder-jumpsuit?gbraid=0AAAAABWndwb4E-ZBgd2rr4zFLwKsJ97QT&gclid=Cj0KCQjwmZejBhC_ARIsAGhCqncAdTT5MhokrQRyxiDNKHE2JbioCsaJs0hz4MFqyO60mag9C0evdEQaAqUEEALw_wcB&utm_campaign=UK-PMAX-Jumpsuits-20220921&utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&utm_term=%7B17157404823%7D_%7B%7D&variant=42306334949567

X Madison Romance Bow One-Shoulder Jumpsuit

X Madison Romance Bow One-Shoulder Jumpsuit

https://m-uk.cupshe.com/products/romance-bow-one-shoulder-jumpsuit?gbraid=0AAAAABWndwb4E-ZBgd2rr4zFLwKsJ97QT&gclid=Cj0KCQjwmZejBhC_ARIsAGhCqncAdTT5MhokrQRyxiDNKHE2JbioCsaJs0hz4MFqyO60mag9C0evdEQaAqUEEALw_wcB&utm_campaign=UK-PMAX-Jumpsuits-20220921&utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&utm_term=%7B17157404823%7D_%7B%7D&variant=42306334949567

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bluebeck · 18/05/2023 20:23

YANBU

Nobody wears white or cream to a wedding without knowing it’s rude.

Don’t say anything. If she mentions it, trying to push your buttons, just say “oh I didn’t notice your outfit at all on the day, but you wouldn’t want to hear what a lot of the other guests have said about it since.”

RosaMoline · 18/05/2023 20:23

I know it’s over 30 years since my wedding day (now divorced) but I wouldn’t have given a flying fuck about what people wore on my wedding day…Jesus, it’s hardly anything to get upset about in the grand scheme of things is it?! Talk about first world problems.

Fandabedodgy · 18/05/2023 20:24

It doesn't look at all bridal.

I'm sure your dress was lovely and very different

HeddaGarbled · 18/05/2023 20:24

Yeah, she knew exactly what she was doing: plausible deniability as proven by some of the responses here.

Pinkflamingopants · 18/05/2023 20:24

Oh come on you lot, if someone posted that jumpsuit on here and said "is this OK to wear to a wedding?" You'd tear them a new one.

Northernparent68 · 18/05/2023 20:24

I think your sister in law was being passive aggressive when she wore this

LampHat · 18/05/2023 20:25

Floor length white outfit to a wedding?! YANBU. If you had posted asking if it was ok to wear you would have got a resounding chorus of “No”s. It would totally look like a dress if you stood still in it. Hope you had a great day regardless!

Azealeasinbloom · 18/05/2023 20:25

I get that the colour is an ‘off’ choice for a wedding, but to be honest, when I got married, admittedly in the dark ages, I was thrilled that people came, and I cannot honestly say I noticed much as I was very much on a ‘wave’ of wedding joy.

I am sure everyone thought you were a beautiful bride OP, and if they noticed SIL, it would very much be with the idea that her choice may be a tad wrong, but not hugely so.

ShinyShite · 18/05/2023 20:26

Nobody in the real world cares what guests wear to a wedding. 🤷🏻‍♀️

SaveTheDeal · 18/05/2023 20:27

My SIL wore a literal white wedding dress to my wedding.

Didn’t upset me. She looked ridiculous.

SmirnoffIceIsNice · 18/05/2023 20:27

My MIL wore a dress and hat this colour to my wedding. I was shocked when I first saw her, but everyone was whispering and giving her the side eye. It did bother me for a while but I've long since put it aside.

LampHat · 18/05/2023 20:27

Not bridal my arse.

Aibu upset sil wore at our wedding
Alwayswonderedwhy · 18/05/2023 20:27

I really don't understand the issue with people wearing white/cream to weddings.

MrsTerryPratchett · 18/05/2023 20:28

all photos will remind me of this.

Only if you decide to focus on it rather than your day. That's a choice. Be petty and give her headspace. Or be happy and ignore it.

OliviaFlaversham · 18/05/2023 20:29

Reiss have a few bridal jumpsuits atm and a friend wore one for her wedding not dissimilar to the one you shared.

Whilst I wasn’t too bothered what people wore, everyone knows not to wear solid white/cream/ivory. Especially not full length. Anyone who does, does so knowing it could cause offence or to be ‘look at me’.

it only reflects badly on her.

fajitaaa · 18/05/2023 20:29

Alwayswonderedwhy · 18/05/2023 20:27

I really don't understand the issue with people wearing white/cream to weddings.

It looks awful in photos the bride is wearing white. And then oh look someone 4 people to the left is also wearing white. It will catch the eye. It looks shit.

ProudToBeANorthener · 18/05/2023 20:29

To all the people saying to get over it, it is tradition not to wear white or cream at a wedding unless you are the bride. To do so is the height of bad manners and suggests that you are trying to upstage the bride. Do good manners mean nothing anymore? If you feel the need to do this at least have the courtesy to ask the bride if she minds but even that’s a bit odd in my opinion.

fluffyunicornsandrainbows · 18/05/2023 20:29

RosaMoline · 18/05/2023 20:23

I know it’s over 30 years since my wedding day (now divorced) but I wouldn’t have given a flying fuck about what people wore on my wedding day…Jesus, it’s hardly anything to get upset about in the grand scheme of things is it?! Talk about first world problems.

Same here.

intothegreek · 18/05/2023 20:29

I wore a white dress to my cousins wedding. It was knee length bodycon with lovely summery cotton daisies around it. I was about 19 at the time, I never thought a thing about it and hopefully nobody else did wither as it certainly wasn't meant to offend. It was not at all bridal and the bride was amazing, nobody would have upstaged her. I wouldn't wear it now as I now know the etiquette but I'm sure your sil wouldn't have given the colour a second thought as it's not remotely bridal. I think you're being uptight, sorry.

fajitaaa · 18/05/2023 20:29

bluebeck · 18/05/2023 20:23

YANBU

Nobody wears white or cream to a wedding without knowing it’s rude.

Don’t say anything. If she mentions it, trying to push your buttons, just say “oh I didn’t notice your outfit at all on the day, but you wouldn’t want to hear what a lot of the other guests have said about it since.”

Good shout

FloweryName · 18/05/2023 20:30

Yeah, she did that for a reason.

Spicypeanuts · 18/05/2023 20:30

It's a pretty passive aggressive choice.

OP get the photos photoshopped and have the change the colour.

Thegrandolddukeofporks · 18/05/2023 20:31

theres no way I’d wear that, everyone knows you don’t wear white. My bil gf wore a very very pale pink full length lace bridesmaids dress to a family wedding, she was not a bridesmaid! It photographed white. The brides dress was actually really similar. Everyone was talking about it. She looked like a massive twat.

SummaLuvin · 18/05/2023 20:31

Pinkflamingopants · 18/05/2023 20:24

Oh come on you lot, if someone posted that jumpsuit on here and said "is this OK to wear to a wedding?" You'd tear them a new one.

I'm not convinced. Mumsnet hate nothing more than a bride with any level of opinion or expectation. Brides should always be unruffled and above it all, so caught up on the day they they wouldn't notice a pigeon pooing on their head....

Americano75 · 18/05/2023 20:31

Lovely outfit. Fine in any other colour for a wedding. I mean, it's not hard to avoid white, is it?