Aibu upset sil wore at our wedding

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We recently got married and we have just got our photos back and I felt upset and annoyed at what sil wore to our wedding and I thought it was odd but prepared to be told if I Abu , even though personally it’s not what I would choose for a wedding. it was cream basically same colour as my dress I feel upset and all photos will remind me of this.
I have attached a link of similar but not exactly the same outfit

https://m-uk.cupshe.com/products/romance-bow-one-shoulder-jumpsuit?gbraid=0AAAAABWndwb4E-ZBgd2rr4zFLwKsJ97QT&gclid=Cj0KCQjwmZejBhC_ARIsAGhCqncAdTT5MhokrQRyxiDNKHE2JbioCsaJs0hz4MFqyO60mag9C0evdEQaAqUEEALw_wcB&utm_campaign=UK-PMAX-Jumpsuits-20220921&utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&utm_term=%7B17157404823%7D_%7B%7D&variant=42306334949567

Simple rule, it’s well known. Don’t wear white or cream to a wedding

No it’s Simply not a universal rule,it’s a preference some have not a mandatory rule

Of course YANBU. You never wear all white or cream to a wedding. And that includes jumpsuits. Im amazed so many people don’t see the issue.

It sounds like the jumpsuit and your dress will look similar in the photos. The suggestion to colour her jumpsuit is a very good idea. Remember that this upset will one day fade and you have the rest of you life to have a lovely marriage.

I’m bemused so many are determined to make this a major issue,a faux pas, breach of rules and inciting vogue as the arbiters. Vogue probably still parrots never brown in town as an attire rule, vogue is hardly a definitive or in touch source of women attire.

I didn’t quote vogue.

Are you joking? Because it clearly means the women in their new H’s families didn’t like them. I can’t really believe I needed to spell that out for you.

But you’ve clearly chosen your stance on this and won’t be deviated. Bride = wrong for <insert literally anything here>

Come on people. We all know that this is a big no no. OP has a right to feel annoyed.

There is absolutely no reason to wear white or cream as a wedding guest. I am far from traditional but I think it just shows a lack of respect for the bride to do this.

I wouldn’t let it bother me, it certainly wouldn’t spoil my wedding.
However, wearing white at a wedding is contentious.. and unless you know the bride very well (and now she’ll feel one way of another) you really need to err on the side of caution.
If someone choose to wear white over all the other colours available, I’d question their motives.

You've really never heard this is a thing ?

Oh that's lovely

I like it

I think wearing white to someone's wedding makes a statement that you were most likely aware you weren't really supposed to wear white, given that's what the bride wears, yet you chose to wear it anyway... it's an odd choice.

My guess is your SIL is a bit out of touch, or someone who doesn't think things through very much. I would've thought she'd not thought it through very much, but totally annoying!

You are being very bloody unreasonable. You must really hate her to begin with

Get your photographer to photoshop her outfit in a different colour

Definitely get it photoshopped to a dirty beige or grey colour

I’d never heard of this etiquette until a few years ago, way after I wore a cream skirt suit to a friends wedding.

It shouldn’t bother you, it’s a jumpsuit not a dress or suit (like me). That’s unless you have an issue with the said sister in law ? I have one that goes out of her way to spite me, evil woman, hardly any of the family speak to her.

😆

Do it!

It's so not a MN-only thing.

Here is French Elle on the question, for example.

If someone posted a link to this jumpsuit saying is this ok to wear to a wedding,I can guarantee that they would be torn apart in the comments

YABU, it’s a jumpsuit, nothing remotely resembling a wedding dress. I don’t understand this rule about only the bride being able to wear white or cream though.

In Canada I think you are supposed to wear white, in the uk very very definitely not.

Nice outfit but she shouldn’t have worn that colour!
not an ice thing to do - everyone knows or should do if they have any manners/common sense not to wear white or cream - it’s the Bride’s outfit colour traditionally

The women at the weddings you went to ‘looked mental’, was a sloppy drunk’, ‘flirting with other people’s partners/husbands’.

You say yourself: ‘the brides were both affected by their attempts to make them look foolish. Even though they didn’t’.

Of course the brides didn’t look foolish! That’s my entire point. The only person who looked foolish was the ‘mental, sloppy, drunk, flirting’ mad women. Or the attention seeking MIL (pro tip, which the bride was obviously well aware of: if you think someone’s attention seeking - don’t give them any attention!).

But by all means, continue helping the OP to feel wronged and aggrieved.

Instead of pointing out that the ONLY person anyone will be judging is the person who made the faux pas. Not her.

I don’t get this “don’t wear white/cream” rule, I think it’s ridiculous.

At my wedding my mother and mother-in-law wore cream. Both looked fabulous. Oddly enough, nobody mistook them for the bride.

The photos look great too - the colour of their outfits isn’t an issue at all.

OP I suspect you don’t like your SIL v much. I can’t see any problem with her outfit