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Would you judge a mother of the bride or groom for wearing black?

170 replies

EconomyClassRockstar · 01/05/2023 02:35

Or is it now completely acceptable? The dress is floor length and fabulous and my future in law is ok with it but I would hate to think anyone would think I was being funereal because I love them!

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comfyshoes2022 · 01/05/2023 02:45

I would not judge it per se, but to be completely honest, I would notice and I might wonder for a second if you were trying to send a message.

Creepycrawler · 01/05/2023 02:45

I wouldn't judge them but would think it very odd.

toucaninjapan · 01/05/2023 02:56

I would find it strange tbh

ShandaLear · 01/05/2023 03:16

It would suggest to me that you did not approve of the marriage if you just wore solid black, but if you wore it with a coloured jacket and bag the I wouldn’t try inf anything of it.

Pot8ohs · 01/05/2023 03:32

I would wonder at the very least. There are so many colours and dress choices, I just think there must be something other than black (or white) you could wear so, yes I would wonder.

Commonsensitivity · 01/05/2023 03:45

Personally it would send a subliminal message. It's the one occasion I would totally avoid black. Do you want everyone to be looking at you? Don't do it

frazzledasarock · 01/05/2023 03:46

Will you pair it with a black lace mantilla and sob hysterically through the ceremony?

HerRoyalNotness · 01/05/2023 03:49

I went to the wedding in a well of family and MOB wore this amazing formal black dress, she got a round of applause as she came down the aisle. She looked stunning

DifficultBloodyWoman · 01/05/2023 03:55

Yes.

MrsDrSpencerReid · 01/05/2023 04:04

I wouldn’t judge you at all, wouldn’t even cross my mind!

Gingernaut · 01/05/2023 04:19

Guests are supposed to avoid black, red, green and white

Anyone who wears black to a wedding is either completely tone deaf, trying to style out showing up to the wrong occasion or has serious issues with the marriage

FortofPud · 01/05/2023 04:36

My MIL (who didn't approve of the wedding in the slightest!) wore total black to mine. It was a lovely dress but has always left me wondering if she meant anything by it. It certainly didnt spoil anything for me though, its just a dress after all, so I don't think it matters all that much really. I would say do be prepared that some people might notice and read between the lines in ways you don't want them to.

Thisbastardcomputer · 01/05/2023 04:39

I wore black at my sons wedding, accessorised with cream

WandaWonder · 01/05/2023 04:39

My mum wore her best most comfortable outfit it was black, she did ask me and I was absolutely fine with it

There was no weird message thing happening it was her favourite outfit and she looked great

I did say 'turn up in a orange tutu for all I care just be there'

Same for all guests, shock horror there may have been jeans

I didn't give two hoots about being the centre of attention

Mummyoflittledragon · 01/05/2023 04:45

Is it a black tie wedding? Black isn’t really the done colour for a normal wedding, black tie, you can get away with it.

Can you wear a colourful jacket and hat?

OldFan · 01/05/2023 05:10

I'd think it was a bit odd. Are you that unhappy about the wedding? 🙂

EndsandBegins · 01/05/2023 05:14

A friend told me her mother-in-law had turned up to her wedding dressed completely in black including a big black hat. I didn’t take much notice but when she showed me the photos, I was shocked at how much she stood out and she did look like she was at a funeral.

Hairday · 01/05/2023 05:19

Why though?

winelove · 01/05/2023 05:34

Can you team it with hot pink shoes and accessories?

DontGetEvenGetEverything · 01/05/2023 05:38

HerRoyalNotness · 01/05/2023 03:49

I went to the wedding in a well of family and MOB wore this amazing formal black dress, she got a round of applause as she came down the aisle. She looked stunning

Similar experience I've had, though I only saw photos. MoG wore black skirt and top with bit of gold brocade. She is quite overweight but my goodness she looked stunning. Completely changed my attitude to black on mums at weddings. She also looked great alongside the bridal party, which is rare when MoB or G wears something bright.

GoodChat · 01/05/2023 05:39

I think it completely depends on the style of dress

msmatcha · 01/05/2023 05:45

I would think it strange... save the dress for another occasion.

IfYouDontAsk · 01/05/2023 05:59

My MIL wore a black dress to my wedding. It did not sit well with me. It’s traditionally a funereal colour and felt like a pointed choice, which didn’t feel great on the day.

loislovesstewie · 01/05/2023 06:08

I wouldn't as it's funereal, neither would I wear green. Where I'm from that is seen very unlucky.

nofusspot · 01/05/2023 06:16

You can't.

  1. It's black - even if you and in law are ok with it people will think you are not happy with the wedding.
  2. You'll look odd in the photos. - it's the same as with white. The idea is you can't upstage the bride and groom in photos.