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Would you judge a mother of the bride or groom for wearing black?

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EconomyClassRockstar · 01/05/2023 02:35

Or is it now completely acceptable? The dress is floor length and fabulous and my future in law is ok with it but I would hate to think anyone would think I was being funereal because I love them!

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Billyhargrovesmullet · 31/10/2023 07:59

My ex mil wore black for our wedding and looked lovely, I wear mostly black anyway though so it’s normal to me

AuntieMarys · 31/10/2023 08:16

Gingernaut · 01/05/2023 04:19

Guests are supposed to avoid black, red, green and white

Anyone who wears black to a wedding is either completely tone deaf, trying to style out showing up to the wrong occasion or has serious issues with the marriage

Says who?? I have worn black , red AND green to weddings. I would laugh at anyone who said anything.

Motnight · 31/10/2023 08:17

AuntieMarys · 31/10/2023 08:16

Says who?? I have worn black , red AND green to weddings. I would laugh at anyone who said anything.

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I got married in black. I looked good.

AuntieMarys · 31/10/2023 08:18

EconomyClassRockstar · 31/10/2023 00:54

Just to come back and update. The wedding was the other day and I looked awesome but nowhere near as AMAZING as my now daughter in law looked. It was a great success and my black dress rocked.

Good for you!!!

IncompleteSenten · 31/10/2023 08:20

Glad it went well but you know you're going to get lots of replies from people who haven't read your update, saying you're awful, everyone will think you've got some sort of Jocasta thing going on etc etc don't you?

My grandma wore black and sat at the back of the church with a face like a slapped arse at my uncles wedding. Now that's someone sending a message!

Icopewhenihope · 31/10/2023 08:25

I’d wear black if I liked the dress. So many fuddy duddy, outdated ideas on this thread!

AuntieMarys · 31/10/2023 08:31

Motnight · 31/10/2023 08:17

I got married in black. I looked good.

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I married in red.

Anotherdayanotherdramaa · 31/10/2023 16:28

I wouldn't judge, but I would assume that you were against the wedding. I'm in a few wedding planning groups on social media and wearing all black is still seen as making a statement that you're in mourning and not supporting the wedding.

nofusspot · 31/10/2023 16:34

EconomyClassRockstar · 31/10/2023 00:54

Just to come back and update. The wedding was the other day and I looked awesome but nowhere near as AMAZING as my now daughter in law looked. It was a great success and my black dress rocked.

That's nice. It would have gone well whatever you wore. The day wasn't about you. Who knows what the other guests were thinking and the photos are going to look odd.

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EconomyClassRockstar · 31/10/2023 23:32

nofusspot · 31/10/2023 16:34

That's nice. It would have gone well whatever you wore. The day wasn't about you. Who knows what the other guests were thinking and the photos are going to look odd.

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It was a black tie wedding so I’m going to politely disagree with you while I flip you the bird

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Falzarega · 01/11/2023 00:03

Yes. It’s attention-seeking behaviour, distracts from the bride, makes you not her the talking point of the wedding and to guests it will look like you’re trying to send a message that you disapprove of the marriage.

Unless it’s a goth wedding of course.

But yes if I saw a mother of the groom/bride wearing this I’d think she was a right dick who couldn’t stand not being the centre of attention for the day.

Icopewhenihope · 01/11/2023 00:16

Falzarega · 01/11/2023 00:03

Yes. It’s attention-seeking behaviour, distracts from the bride, makes you not her the talking point of the wedding and to guests it will look like you’re trying to send a message that you disapprove of the marriage.

Unless it’s a goth wedding of course.

But yes if I saw a mother of the groom/bride wearing this I’d think she was a right dick who couldn’t stand not being the centre of attention for the day.

Absolutely ridiculous take on it.

sunshinesupermum · 01/11/2023 01:09

DDs wedding 14 years ago had a black and white theme. I wore a black Ghost evening dress and no one batted an eye. Go for it!

IAmtheVampiresWife · 01/11/2023 02:59

HerRoyalNotness · 01/05/2023 03:49

I went to the wedding in a well of family and MOB wore this amazing formal black dress, she got a round of applause as she came down the aisle. She looked stunning

and that is not really appropriate is it if she is taking away from the bride on the day?

IAmtheVampiresWife · 01/11/2023 03:01

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DreamTheMoors · 01/11/2023 03:19

EconomyClassRockstar · 31/10/2023 23:32

It was a black tie wedding so I’m going to politely disagree with you while I flip you the bird

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Aren’t you pleasant.

Lizzieregina · 01/11/2023 03:27

Where I live, it’d be normal. Everyone wears black to weddings (except me!). I showed my DD’s wedding pics to someone today (a young American woman) and DD was married in Ireland and my American friend loved all the colourful dresses, because she’s never seen those at a wedding here!

WandaWonder · 01/11/2023 03:27

I don't see an issue men wear black, including grooms although I am surprised the grooms turn up seems they don't seem relevant to weddings

nofusspot · 01/11/2023 03:31

EconomyClassRockstar · 31/10/2023 23:32

It was a black tie wedding so I’m going to politely disagree with you while I flip you the bird

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😄 fair enough! (Hopefully you didn't do that in the photos or that WOULD cause a stir!)

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EconomyClassRockstar · 01/11/2023 21:55

nofusspot · 01/11/2023 03:31

😄 fair enough! (Hopefully you didn't do that in the photos or that WOULD cause a stir!)

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😁

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