Would you judge a mother of the bride or groom for wearing black?

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Or is it now completely acceptable? The dress is floor length and fabulous and my future in law is ok with it but I would hate to think anyone would think I was being funereal because I love them!

My mum wore black with a white jacket and red accessories. She looked absolutely lovely.

I got married in black velvet.

Your other "rules" are nonsense too.

Yes, I think I would. I'd think they were unhappy about the wedding.

Oh god I would find it awful if mu MIL wore black to my wedding, people would definitely talk and it'd be attention grabbing also so I'd be angry

And wearing a smart outfit for a job interview is of course exactly the same as not wearing green to a wedding in case it annoys malevolent fairies.

This thread is highly amusing me! My mother wore black, my sister wore green & my MIL wore red to our wedding & noone batted an eyelid. And they all were fully in support of the wedding & we're happily married a long time now

The only situation I raise an eyebrow is a guest wearing a full white or cream outfit. Black or indeed green or red I wouldn’t think twice about.

Check out the black and green outfit worn by Maria Teresa of Luxembourg at her daughter Alexandra's wedding a few days ago.
It's certainly something different for a MotB ensemble!

All of these rules are ridiculous. Here's Queen Elizabeth at Kate and William's wedding.

(And Victoria Beckham in a dress so dark navy it might be black)

@NatashaDancing that's clearly navy. Navy is fine.

My MIL wore black and she was definitely sending a message. Tbh it looked like a funeral dress 😂😱

Here's Naomi Campbell at Eugenie's wedding. Admittedly she's not the M of B but that's a black dress.

My MIL wore a cream lace two piece and her hat had a tiny veil on it, I was with her when she bought the outfit and tbh I was relieved that she had finally found something. I never felt upset or upstaged as no one was going to confuse us. If the wedding party doesn’t object I wouldn’t worry in the slightest about any other opinions.

Since she’s a well known attention seeker with a proven history of violent assault on at least one employee (and claims of several more), the fact she’s happy to wear black at a wedding only convinces me it shouldn’t be done.

Raquel Welch did the same at her son’s traditional English country wedding wedding (plus cut out cleavage) and somehow ended up front and centre in every photograph the press printed. Again, I’d see this as a warning not an example to follow.

As long as its a wedding/party glamorous kind of dress its fine.

I'd internally judge if it was a boring sombre black funeral type outfit!

Nope I wouldn't bat an eyelid nor should I be jumping to warped conclusions about you "sending a message". If the bride is fine with it then wear the dress.

It is defintely NOT a funeral type outfit. I'd look a right tool wearing it to a funeral! 😂

Photo wise I think it will work as all the male wedding party are wearing black tie and the bridesmaids are wearing ivory. Thanks for all the input. I will ponder totally keep shopping some more.

My mum wore a long black dress from Coast with some beading and lace and looked amazing. She had gold shoes, a kind of gauzy gold wrap and simple jewelry. Looked amazing in photos and not out of place at all. People are weird with their rules about what you can and can't wear! If you love the outfit, go for it!!

I'd think you were trying to signal something, avoid black.

Both the bride’s mother and I wore black (with white and turquoise respectively) at DS’s wedding. We had both asked permission beforehand. Nobody gave two hoots, but there was a bit of a rock/goth vibe going on.

Haha! I may be more found listening to Taylor Swift than The Cure nowadays but once you've been a teenage Goth, the love of black clothes runs deep!

I would not “judge”. But I would notice and think it (very) odd. There are so many lovely dresses. Wear a different colour.

Nope, not at all.

Black tie changes it- I retract my earlier comment! I was making assumptions about summer weddings and a lot of light bright clothes and pale suits. it might stand out in any women only photos but that's not the main phot- it's probably fine!

Don’t do it. Absolutely not acceptable as mother of bride or groom.