Would you judge a mother of the bride or groom for wearing black?

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Or is it now completely acceptable? The dress is floor length and fabulous and my future in law is ok with it but I would hate to think anyone would think I was being funereal because I love them!

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OP - I think there is a difference between a stylish black dress, and a black mourning sack

I wouldn’t even notice. I do t know why people say to avoid black, I bet half the men will be in black suits.

I would assume that she did not approve of the union, but wouldn't attempt to work out or judge her reasons for doing do.

I pretty much only wear black, so have always done so to any wedding I've attended. I'd feel like a right twat in a not black dress.

Oh yes, sorry, speed reading. Definitely wear it if it’s been ok’d.

I wouldn't judge at all. I can't stand all these made up rules about what one should or shouldn't wear.

Totally agree! Poor bride 😞

My mum wore a gorgeous black and cream set to my wedding. It didn’t even occur to me about these connotations.

Green is unlucky at Irish weddings

It's supposed to attract fairies and little people who bring mischief

But there are always ‘made up rules’ about what to wear. I’ve never gone to an interview for an office job in a jogging suit for example. Most people manage to fully comply with the unspoken rules on appropriate clothing in every other walk of life. I don’t understand why it’s suddenly impossible / unreasonable at a wedding.

I wouldn’t.

I would say the 'rules' around suitable attire for interview are also entirely dependent on the sector. I work at a very senior position in a creative field on a salary of over 70k & I have never worn the sort of outfit that is spouted as absolute on here.

I've also never been unsuccessful in an interview & I'm now in my 50s.

People carry on as if there are hard & faet 'rules' when the reality is there isn't!

I reckon I could stye a jogging bottom & wear it to an interview successfully. I probably wouldn't as its not actually my style but it's not impossible - again so dependent on the sector you work in.

We're not all solicitors or in financial services!

It's not 'unspoken' to know what appropriate interview clothes are, it's well known and spoken about.

The 'rules' about wedding attire are usually based on superstition and tradition. Not everyone believes in those things and don't want their attire dictated by some arbitrary beliefs.

What is tradition anyway? To me it just means lots of people have done something before you and you're just doing it because they did.
Brides wearing white has only happened since Queen Victoria wore white, it wasn't the done thing before then. People would wear something smart or their 'Sunday best'.

I admit I would ask the bride if I was going to wear or thinking about wearing certain clothes. I can remember when women had to keep shoulders and arms covered in church. I would not wear green, as I said mum was superstitious in that. Her family were Irish and did believe it to be unlucky. I would not want to spoil the day or cause upset.

Why would they want to? It is a very odd choice for a wedding from any guest let alone the mother of the bride.

Unless it is part of the colour scheme of the bridal party and they'd been requested to, of course.

Ffs, it’s 2023, of course it’s fine. Black is stylish and if someone wants to wear it, they should go for it. There are no ‘rules’ - I have worn black and indeed white to weddings in the past and I have seen many black and/or white outfits on others - the sky didn’t fall in! This was in Scotland - maybe we are less rigid up here? Dunno.

I really think it depends on the dress, the season, how formal the wedding is and what the bridesmaids are wearing. I wouldn't automatically think you didn't approve of the wedding at all, that comes with attitude.

I wouldn’t fine it odd at all. My sister and I both wore all black to her wedding. I’ve seen 2 weddings where the bridesmaids wore black. I understand the barrier on white/cream, and have heard red is hard to photograph but never heard of not wearing green to a wedding per pp. My sister wore jade green to her son’s wedding with a fabulous hat with peacock feathers.

Couldn’t agree more.

I'd be surprised if I noticed and I certainly wouldn't care

Oh my god! My mother would have had a fit about the peacock feathers too!

I'm irish & have never in my life heard anything about not wearing green! That's certainly not a blanket 'rule' here!

I know a bride who wore green & my bridesmaid wore a fabulous green dress

I was also taught that green is bad luck at weddings, and also yellow. Never heard anything about red being off limits.

I think black depends entirely on the occasion; a winter or evening wedding - fine, an outdoor wedding on a summer day - bit odd.

Red was reserved for fallen women at one point. There really are lots of superstitions, a lot are rarely thought of today, but some people still would not be happy. As I said, I would ask the bride because you just don't know.