Which top?

[OldGrannyish]

Friend's 50th birthday. DH doesn't like one because it's too grannyish and MIL says that one is better (but then, she is a granny!)
Which is better? I prefer one over the other, but my fashion sense is questionable

Black jeans and probably a dark blue (or black?) cardigan with it

Yes I agree. Needs buttons which can be unbuttoned. Love the colour though

Not this one

You're so right. Blazers are so naff.

OP. Do either of your options bring you joy when you wear it? Wear that one.

Blazers are definitely having a moment but it's not the blazer of ten plus years ago, it seems generally longer and more oversized. I haven't seen one I like yet. The Bash jacket is lovely, Massimo Dutti have some boucle jackets for a more reasonable price, but still nowhere near cheap for what it is.

Realistically I'll be wearing either a black or cream softshell 😮🙄to travel there and back so I don't think a blazer is necessary. Or my raincoat if the weather is bad. So I'll need a jumper or something for the (2hrbus/train) trip home. I doubt it will be warm enough for just a denim jacket.

No that's just a t-shirt. Which of your two options did you like best?

Blazers are definitely a thing right now.

The silk t-shirt you suggested is lovely. Go for that one, in which ever color you fancy.
The purple blazer is dreadful - 1990s catalogue model wear. Wear whatever coat you have and take it off when you get there.
Bootleg cut jeans don't go with Doc Martens. Do you have another shoe style, if you are set on the jeans?

Yes, blazers are cool. But it has to be the right cut to look current. Hush usually have really fashionable looking ones and manage to not make them look workified or officey.

I saw a group of 40/50 year old women yesterday heading out into town in the evening. Each was wearing black trousers, a bright top and a fitted blazer- big overdone hair, lots of make-up and high heels. They all looked terrible!

I saw a lot of nice navy and cream boucle jackets in Mango and Zara. I think they would look better than a blazer.

I like the 2nd one. I would wear it and I'm 39 🤷‍♀️

Op! You're 42 and size 8-10?

Youd look good in anything but those tops are depressingly grannified

What did you wear when you were 30? Surely you can remember

This 💯

By the way they look, definitely the 2nd, but I'd always pick based on what felt better when I had it on! Which is comfier, which one could you dance in?

OP, im a pear shape too (and a size bigger) and i always wear dresses

Google styles to suit pears

@sofamarathon didn't go out in my 30's

Is ‘something new’ compulsory? Why?

I think a plan black silk shirt would look nice with black jeans & your DMs
Not bootcut though you need a straight leg or slim leg for DM's
Keep it simple and you won't feel uncomfortable

@Tuskanini none of my pre-Dc clothes fit me.

No cardigan. NO NO NO. why agonise over which top to wear then spoil the effect by putting a cardigan over it? Ridiculous!

Dull and forgettable, unless you're a dazzling blonde or redhead, in which case you could get away with dull colours.
If you wear either of those with black jeans or any jeans and DMs, it will look as if you haven't bothered. Who wears DMs on a party night...unless you're 25?
If you want to look forgettable, wear either...or both. Can't you buy some decent going out trousers? Reiss have smart trousers which could possibly be worn to work. H&M and M&S have a good selection too. Buy a top which you wouldn't normally consider, not too outré but outside your dull choices.
I think the emerald green silk shirt M&S sell would be great with a pair of black trousers and black shoes (not DMs) and some nice jewellery, a modern fine chain necklace or three from Marks or H&M.

I think both are a bit unremarkable really. I’m 46, same size as you and have bought some lovely tops from M&S. singe colour is smarter more party ish. If you like them then it doesn’t matter what anyone else things and the one on the right is nicer imo

Remember when cardies were trendy and called pashminas?