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MintyFinty · 2022-09-08T20:47:01+00:00

I work in a fairly traditional environment. Not sure if I should wear black tomorrow or not? What's everyone else doing?

GettingStuffed · 09/09/2022 10:08

Nope, I'm wearing cream and navy culottes and a navy t-shirt. I'm going home from MiL's for a couple of days and had already chosen this outfit.

WeRateSquirrels · 09/09/2022 11:12

No - I don't own any black clothes and it wouldn't have occurred to me anyway.

TakeTheOffPisteRoute · 09/09/2022 12:45

@saraclara

Seriously, in what way is it showing respect to wear black to work, or on the school run? The person who's died can't see you. Who is it that you think is looking at you and what do you expect them to get from you wearing it? Who is it that you are showing your respect to? It makes no sense.

Tell me, do you wear a poppy, or ever make a donation to a charity in honour of someone's passing? (I'm assuming yes, as most decent people do).

If so, (using your logic) why do you bother? The soldiers are dead already as is the person you're donating on behalf of?

Also: have you ever paused to think that you're showing respect for the person, not to the person. So to answer your question (which shouldn't warrant as answer as it's obvious but you seem to need help understanding the obvious): who are you showing respect to? Their loved ones, society,.....

saraclara · 09/09/2022 13:04

TakeTheOffPisteRoute · 09/09/2022 12:45

@saraclara

Seriously, in what way is it showing respect to wear black to work, or on the school run? The person who's died can't see you. Who is it that you think is looking at you and what do you expect them to get from you wearing it? Who is it that you are showing your respect to? It makes no sense.

Tell me, do you wear a poppy, or ever make a donation to a charity in honour of someone's passing? (I'm assuming yes, as most decent people do).

If so, (using your logic) why do you bother? The soldiers are dead already as is the person you're donating on behalf of?

Also: have you ever paused to think that you're showing respect for the person, not to the person. So to answer your question (which shouldn't warrant as answer as it's obvious but you seem to need help understanding the obvious): who are you showing respect to? Their loved ones, society,.....

No, I don't wear a poppy. I give a donation to the charity as it does good work, but don't take the poppy. I don't do that kind of displaying, for the same reason as I'm not wearing black today.

I give to charities when someone I know and like dies. Because flowers don't last, and their loved ones appreciate that kind of gesture.

I didn't know the Queen. Her family don't know me and won't see me, so won't appreciate me wearing black today. So it's pointless. My wearing black would only be a display to others. It's almost a 'look at me' gesture, unless one's employer has requested it.

saraclara · 09/09/2022 13:07

Anyway, I've been out and about for the last few hours and I've not seen any sign of people dressing any differently from usual. So I'm clearly not the only one who finds it unnecessary to wear black to respect the Queen.

torquewench · 09/09/2022 13:09

A Royal Mail employee just turned up with our mail wearing hi viz which I've never seen them wearing before, so ... 🤔

LadyPoison · 09/09/2022 13:11

No

I am wearing what I would usually wear. I am not in mourning.

HarleySq · 09/09/2022 13:17

This is about respect and tradition. It is about the Queen being the Head of State. This is an unrivalled event in our history.

JOFFCV · 09/09/2022 13:32

I borrowed a black t-shirt from work to go to Tesco at lunch. There were hardly any people wearing black.

angeIica · 09/09/2022 13:36

"Tell me, do you wear a poppy, or ever make a donation to a charity in honour of someone's passing? (I'm assuming yes, as most decent people do).

If so, (using your logic) why do you bother? The soldiers are dead already as is the person you're donating on behalf of?"

I wear a poppy as a symbol of remembrance and respect and for victims (civilians and armed forces) of all wars, including those still being fought. The white poppy particularly is not just about remembrance, but it's to show that you're against war and the causes of war.

JaceLancs · 09/09/2022 13:44

I’m not wearing black but am in a public facing role so will be dressing as normal but in one of my less bright outfits!

TheEggChair · 09/09/2022 16:17

I'm wearing my usual office attire of black trousers/skirt with a white blouse which I think is respectful enough.

TheChosenTwo · 09/09/2022 17:58

I just wore my normal clothes today, didn’t realise people would be dressing for the ‘occasion’ as it were.

SommerTen · 09/09/2022 19:51

I wore my normal HCA uniform today which is pale blue. Then my gym gear which is grey & pink.

This thread reminds me of my late Nan Rita who was a year older than the Queen.
In 1940 her Dad died so my then 15 year old Nan who was living in Salford had to wear full mourning (all black clothes) for months, even when she went dancing, then just as she was looking forward to colourful clothes again her grandmother in Brighton went and died.
I think my Nan was more upset about spending the rest of the year in black than about her grandmother's death!!

I did wear black to my Nan's funeral in 2017, she was 91. I did 'sexy black' with a lace dress and long boots, she would've liked that!

I'm sad that the Queen has died as it brings back memories of my Nans death really, but I won't be wearing black specially. The Queen loved to wear bright colours anyway!