Enquiring on behalf of a lesbian friend who's doing my head in. In three weeks time she's attending a formal traditional wedding where most women will be doing the frock and fascinator number.
She's 5'1" and a size 6-8. She's very androgynous looking and won't wear a skirt or heels. Very pale skin and white-blonde hair in a pixie cut. She doesn't do wide trousers, patterns, animal prints, pussy bows or anything that hints at girliness. Likes fitted and sharp. She will wear pink and bright colours. The plan was to find a sharp ankle-grazing suit and wear a plain whit t-shirt and tennis shoes with it.
I'd thought that Hobbes or Whistles or any number of other places would have a neat little fitted trouser suit, or Chanel-style jacket, which she'd look fab in, but they only seem to do them in black, grey and navy for workwear. The current fashion is for long, wide-cut jackets. She's tried a couple in the high street stores and even their petite sizes drown her.
Any thoughts? Max budget is £200.
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Pluvia · 02/08/2022 20:52
Pluvia · 02/08/2022 21:17
Thanks to those who offered links to help: much appreciated. The wedding is in Scotland and I'm not sure a shorts suit, even in August, is advisable. Plus she's in her 50s...
For all those making fun of me, being a butch lesbian trying to blend in at a loved-one's smart and carefully curated wedding can be very challenging. When you live your life in jeans, walking boots and boy shirts, trying to fathom the niceties of wedding attire is a minefield.
Pluvia · 02/08/2022 21:17
Thanks to those who offered links to help: much appreciated. The wedding is in Scotland and I'm not sure a shorts suit, even in August, is advisable. Plus she's in her 50s...
For all those making fun of me, being a butch lesbian trying to blend in at a loved-one's smart and carefully curated wedding can be very challenging. When you live your life in jeans, walking boots and boy shirts, trying to fathom the niceties of wedding attire is a minefield.
SnowdropsInSpring · 02/08/2022 21:20
But what has this to do with being a lesbian? It’s all about style and what you are comfortable with. Strange thread.
Pluvia · 02/08/2022 21:17
Thanks to those who offered links to help: much appreciated. The wedding is in Scotland and I'm not sure a shorts suit, even in August, is advisable. Plus she's in her 50s...
For all those making fun of me, being a butch lesbian trying to blend in at a loved-one's smart and carefully curated wedding can be very challenging. When you live your life in jeans, walking boots and boy shirts, trying to fathom the niceties of wedding attire is a minefield.
Kanaloa · 02/08/2022 21:12
Well what did you wear? Since you’re a lesbian anything you wore to the last wedding you went to will surely be fine for this lesbian to wear.
I think the problem here is you’ve phrased it oddly. She knows what SHE wants to wear to the wedding - a sharp suit in a nice colour with a white t-shirt and trainers. You’ve said so in the op. So what does it matter what other lesbians may have worn to a wedding? What you need to know is where sells sharp petite suits in nice colours.
Pluvia · 02/08/2022 21:06
Yes, I know that. I'm a lesbian too. Are you a lesbian? If so, what did you wear to the last traditional straight wedding you went to.
SarahAndQuack · 02/08/2022 22:33
DP is a butch(ish) lesbian; the last wedding we went to she wore a pair of smart tailored trousers and a nice shirt from Desiguel. Not super formal but she was breastfeeding so we had to take that into account.
With your friend's measurements I would look at the children's section for boys' suits - I've done this myself, and she's tiny! Often they are more traditional in cut, too. I also rate Ted Baker for slim-cut men's suits that can work on women. It might well be easier to get a man's waistcoat tailored to fit, than to get a woman's suit that works? And in this heat, you really only need the waistcoat tailored - the suit jacket will look fine loose, I think?
I totally get why it's an issue.
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knackeredagain · 02/08/2022 22:12
This suit is fab and comes in every size from 4 up. It’s about right for budget. She’d need a shirt/tie/shoes too, but wouldn’t look out of place, I don’t think. It’s ideal for a wedding.
www.etsy.com/uk/listing/1247709669/blue-3-piece-womens-tweed-suit
Pluvia · 02/08/2022 22:43
Whew, thank you. I had no idea that straight people thought that things like traditional weddings were easy for butch lesbians.
SarahAndQuack · 02/08/2022 22:33
DP is a butch(ish) lesbian; the last wedding we went to she wore a pair of smart tailored trousers and a nice shirt from Desiguel. Not super formal but she was breastfeeding so we had to take that into account.
With your friend's measurements I would look at the children's section for boys' suits - I've done this myself, and she's tiny! Often they are more traditional in cut, too. I also rate Ted Baker for slim-cut men's suits that can work on women. It might well be easier to get a man's waistcoat tailored to fit, than to get a woman's suit that works? And in this heat, you really only need the waistcoat tailored - the suit jacket will look fine loose, I think?
I totally get why it's an issue.
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