Kink/fetish/paraphilias are all associated with each other. These can be relatively unproblematic, or they can be serious issues that interfere with a person's life and/or cross into illegal non-consensual activities.
We've seen a lot of talk over hte past couple of decades about kink-shaming, and 'pride' wrt fetishes, kink, etc. If within a safe/sane/consensual framework, some kinks/paraphilias can be contained and harm nobody.
However, there is a LOT of naivety about things like BDSM and kink, the idea that it is ALWAYS harmless is obviously fallacious. Predators and damaged and vulnerable people will all be attracted to this type of activity.
Of course, with sexual attraction to non-consensual activity, always going to be a drive to push boundaries and test limits. 'Queering' in recent years has come to mean deliberately removing and destabilising 'norms' and/or boundaries, which equates exactly to removing safeguarding and social conventions which tend to protect more vulnerable people.
When people are consistently attacked for asking questions, raising concerns, describing their own discomfort or anxiety, it's a good indication that we are in a dangerous place.
Within the BDSM scene there was a long tradition of respect for consent. This seems to be being eroded. This is dangerous.
This isn't to say that any one person wearing unicorn dungarees and cuddling soft toys is necessarily dangerous. But it's sensible to observe societal movements and tendencies and notice red flags. The red flags here aren't even the bloke in the romper. They're the people slagging off women for calling the alarm. And those people themselves aren't necessarily doing it deliberately or consciously.
But they are providing a useful service for people like Stephonknee Wolscht (take care if you google said person's name/website), just as Aimee Challenor provides a useful service for people like Aimee's husband.