Mother of the groom- can I wear this???

[Kenworthington]

Before you all say don’t be ridiculous, you’ll look like the bride- there is no bride- it’s a gay wedding. I love this. lOVE it. Could get the floral one but of COURSE I want the cream one. Can I???????

www.needleandthread.com/products/genevieve-ruffle-gown-champagne

For a gay wedding I'd absolutely go for it. It's a completely different dynamic than if there was a bride.

I think you could get away with the pastel blue! Still very flamboyant but as a colour a lot more understated than cream or red.

I had a nosey on the phase eight website as my mum was looking for her mother of the bride dress recently- I loved the 'mother of the bride' dresses on there! I'm early 30s and I would wear them. I also love a lot of the needle and thread dresses- not really into frills myself but love all the embroidery they do.

To whoever suggested looking at Phase Eight...just no unless you want to look like a dowdy 90s reject.

It's beautiful OP, it's always so lovely to see all the beautiful outfits at weddings, any colour would work but I do like the floral. Perhaps with an electric blue shoe. Please do not wear a hat or spray your hair too much, it will look ethereal and I hope the other guests make the same effort!

Couldn't see the floral one when I followed the link- but I'm sure its beautiful. You sound like you wear fun clothes most of the time so wouldn't be strange to wear something flamboyant to your sons wedding.

Phase eight???? Seriously?? I’m 30 and wouldn’t dream of it. My grandmother had a phase eight dress for my wedding in 2015. She was 84 😂

Has it arrived yet???

I’m so excited to see it, I really wish I had more people like you in my life OP, some of the replies you’ve had are really sad and I feel so sorry for the posters behind them. Don’t ever change.

Hell no

I've read all the thread & some people have been pretty brutal . You sound amazing & I so admire you . As someone who at 60 has never had the confidence to dress any way other than safe I salute you . Inside I'm a goth , outside I'm Theresa May . Had my first very visible tattoo done 3 weeks ago & I love it . I've had a few negative comments but I'm brushing it off . By the time I hit 70 I'm hoping to be full on visible .
Wear the dress & have a fab wedding xx

Kenworthington
Oh my god I wrote a REALLY long reply and it’s gone gahhhhhhh ok essentially it was this….

Thank you to my ‘crew’, you know who you are 😘

Ok so yes, some people are rude, judgemental and sound tbh frankly boring and dull. So dragged down by what they think they ought to do or thing or feel or whatever. Think for yourselves! You don’t have to squeeze yourself into that mold that you think has been created for you.

For me, and my son and his partner and the whole family-
The wedding , in fact any wedding, is a party. A big expensive fancy party. Yes it’s in celebration of the marrying couple but it’s fun, joyous, celebratory, where you get everyone you love and who loves you to get pissed and dance and laugh and have fun together. I’m dressing up because it’s the biggest and best party I’ve ever been to. And you wear what makes you happy to a party!

As has been pointed out, some people have been HORRIBLE on here, really really unkind. This is Style and Beauty FGS not AIBU.
Now I’m going to be a bitch and right now I don’t care too much-*
If you don’t understand the dress, if you think I should be stuffing myself into a dress and matching jacket combo with a hat and matching court shoes, if you can’t be bothered to even rtf Fucking t , this thread is not for you. Style and Beauty is not for you. You may not wear the dress but it IS cool, it looks designer. It is fucking FABULOUS. Yes I wanted it in cream. Not because I want to be a bride. Because I LOVeD the bloody frock. It’s nicest in the cream. It’s cool and stylish in the cream. I’m not wearing it with a veil or a bloody tiara. I’ll prob wear it with dms or trainers tbh. And I’ll be so HAPPY because I will be able to dance, and drink, and eat and all the loveliest things without worrying about being uncomfortable or in pain or feeling like someone else on what’s the happiest day of my boys life. And I Am so happy for him and so proud of him. And I am going to wear the frock that he loves too, and I am going to dance with him and kiss his lovely face in all the photos and all anyone will thing is there’s ken with her lovely son and don’t they have the most wonderful relationship because we do.

OMG OP I just read that and you made me cry. I really need to find people like you to be in my life.

I’ve room for more @Theblacksheepandme you’re welcome in my life

I hope you find the flamboyant frock of your wedding party dreams OP, you sound wonderful and have taken way too much flak on this thread. You dont need to explain yourself but your last long post did so very well.

This really resonated with me @ShowOfHands I wear what I wear because it fits who I am. It makes me happy. I'd prefer you didn't look at me tbh but that's your behaviour, not mine as I go through my 40s I am settling in to my style and realising I will never have a capsule wardrobe, whatever ‘curated earrings’ are or a finger on the fashion pulse. But I wont judge those who have any/all of the above.

If you were my mum I would want you to be yourself and wear the dress you wanted.
The first few dresses you picked were gorgeous and that’s what I would want you to wear.
I would never force someone into a boring outfit to fit into my wedding. If I was getting married right now I would invite you to mine. You sound like the life and soul of the party

For all those people who are terrified of women, particularly older women daring to dress in a way which is liberating. Perhaps makes people, shock horror, look at you, you might want to work out why that is.
It screams of being kept in ‘your place’ and making sure everyone else keeps in line.
That’s an ugly look.

Its not my cup of tea and if I had to choose would go for the red but i think you absolutely should wear the cream if you love it that much! If your son is flamboyant you can wear pretty much anything :) i think you should enjoy your son's wedding and that includes loving your dress. There is no bride to be upset about xyz so go for it

I honestly can’t believe this isn’t a joke? It’s not your wedding!! This would be seen as an absolute attempt to upstage the happy couple. I’m all for self expression/ feeling and looking good but this is totally over the top and inappropriate.

@busymomtoone

I honestly can’t believe this isn’t a joke? It’s not your wedding!! This would be seen as an absolute attempt to upstage the happy couple. I’m all for self expression/ feeling and looking good but this is totally over the top and inappropriate.

Except you're not at all about 'self expression/ feeling and looking good' if you felt the need to comment like you have.

@Theblacksheepandme

Kenworthington Oh my god I wrote a REALLY long reply and it’s gone gahhhhhhh ok essentially it was this….

Thank you to my ‘crew’, you know who you are 😘

Ok so yes, some people are rude, judgemental and sound tbh frankly boring and dull. So dragged down by what they think they ought to do or thing or feel or whatever. Think for yourselves! You don’t have to squeeze yourself into that mold that you think has been created for you.

For me, and my son and his partner and the whole family-
The wedding , in fact any wedding, is a party. A big expensive fancy party. Yes it’s in celebration of the marrying couple but it’s fun, joyous, celebratory, where you get everyone you love and who loves you to get pissed and dance and laugh and have fun together. I’m dressing up because it’s the biggest and best party I’ve ever been to. And you wear what makes you happy to a party!

As has been pointed out, some people have been HORRIBLE on here, really really unkind. This is Style and Beauty FGS not AIBU.
Now I’m going to be a bitch and right now I don’t care too much-*
If you don’t understand the dress, if you think I should be stuffing myself into a dress and matching jacket combo with a hat and matching court shoes, if you can’t be bothered to even rtf Fucking t , this thread is not for you. Style and Beauty is not for you. You may not wear the dress but it IS cool, it looks designer. It is fucking FABULOUS. Yes I wanted it in cream. Not because I want to be a bride. Because I LOVeD the bloody frock. It’s nicest in the cream. It’s cool and stylish in the cream. I’m not wearing it with a veil or a bloody tiara. I’ll prob wear it with dms or trainers tbh. And I’ll be so HAPPY because I will be able to dance, and drink, and eat and all the loveliest things without worrying about being uncomfortable or in pain or feeling like someone else on what’s the happiest day of my boys life. And I Am so happy for him and so proud of him. And I am going to wear the frock that he loves too, and I am going to dance with him and kiss his lovely face in all the photos and all anyone will thing is there’s ken with her lovely son and don’t they have the most wonderful relationship because we do.

OMG OP I just read that and you made me cry. I really need to find people like you to be in my life.

Wow! You sound such fun and so liberating to be with!

@busymomtoone

I honestly can’t believe this isn’t a joke? It’s not your wedding!! This would be seen as an absolute attempt to upstage the happy couple. I’m all for self expression/ feeling and looking good but this is totally over the top and inappropriate.

Says who?

You mean in your opinion? The OPs son - you know the person who’s wedding it is loves it as much as the OP so really, no other opinion matters does it?

@Intothevoid3

For all those people who are terrified of women, particularly older women daring to dress in a way which is liberating. Perhaps makes people, shock horror, look at you, you might want to work out why that is. It screams of being kept in ‘your place’ and making sure everyone else keeps in line. That’s an ugly look.

AMEN sister!!

I imagine all those that are shocked/astonished/flabbergasted to all look like the same, boring carbon copies of each other and it’s all based on how other people might perceive them. It’s really sad.

The dress is gorgeous - the floral version in particular. Go for it!

The dress is stunning, and you will be too!

I hope your son and his partner and all of your family have the most fabulous day ever

I really like the cream, but LOVE it in the floral pattern. So I reckon buying the floral was the right choice! Not me wearing it though (sadly!). It looks very celebratory.

@busymomtoone you’re all for self expression so long as it confirms to societies expectation of what is acceptable.

Corrected that for you.

*conforms

Your DIL wil be absolutely livid when she sees that dress.

If you ABSOLUTELY must, check with your son first and order the floral one, NOT the ivory one.

Then cancel the cheque

Can’t wait to see the pics.