Rude man made me hate an outfit I was proud of

[NancyIris]

Bit crap with clothes, generally in running kit or jeans and shirt (wfh fulltime). Today taking Dd 13 Christmas shopping I thought I would dress up (for me) so wore white shirt with frilly collar, red cord dungarees www.newlook.com/uk/womens/clothing/playsuits-jumpsuits/burgundy-cord-dungaree-crop-jumpsuit/p/802092667 and boots.
Having lunch I got up and walked past a table where a man said ‘Excuse me, you’ve got a tag hanging down the back of your dress’. Me (mortified) ‘Oh how embarrassing! Thanks for telling me!’ Pull off tag ASAP and shove in bin. Man: ‘It is embarrassing to have paid that much for that dress.’
Just walked away but felt shit all day. Was it a terrible outfit? FWIW I am a size 10 and flat chested.

What a nasty man

Before I clicked I thought these might be awful but they are fab. They look great. Ignore him, he’s not worse your headspace. You have great taste.

You were unlucky to have met this stranger. (Do think about why he approached you. It wasn't because of the label. There was no good reason for him to comment on your appearance at all. He must have been trying to make you feel bad... you looked good and happy so he was negging. Perhaps you didn't pay attention to him? Please don't let him win.)

You are lucky to be able to wear such lovely clothes! Your figure sounds perfect for them.

Arsehole. Don’t give it a seconds thought

I really like the outfit. There are some weird people out there. It has nothing to do with what you were wearing and everything to do with some unknown issue that he had.

Firstly he is so fashion savvy ( not ) he thinks dungarees are a dress and secondly he thinks spending £28 is a lot of money for a "dress".
So not someone whose opinions are valid.
Don't waste another second thinking about him.

Ignore him, he’s a stranger so it means nothing. I love the red dungarees, I wear dungarees a lot and get lots of nice comments from other women and a couple men. Most men know f&ck all about women’s clothes, I think he was just trying to be sarcastic and make a joke about you leaving the tag on, but really, don’t let it get to you, I’m sure you looked great.

The dungas are fab…I wear similar myself and rock them…I too am size 8/10 and flat chested. I feel great in them.

The man was being an arsehole…probably hates women, especially those who haven’t made themselves sexually alluring for him. Forget the idiot.

Love those dungarees! Just bought a pair myself after seeing your post. Got a pair of DM's that will go great with them!

I learned early on to never listen to a man for fashion advice. You'll end up buying stuff you hate.
The man in your situation had crap taste and an even crappier attitude. Enjoy your outfit. What does he know anyway? I'll bet he is still salty from the fact that his wife left him for being a dick.

They have almost sold out now online😭. Are they roomy enough that one could buy a size smaller? Asking for a friend!

Sleep well at night knowing that this man was an asshole and probably has very few people in his life that actually like him. It must be terrible being him.. can you imagine being so terrible and unhappy that you say this to someone?

No one likable would say this to anyone.

Imagine being married to that prick!

@Cattitudes

They have almost sold out now online😭. Are they roomy enough that one could buy a size smaller? Asking for a friend!

I've gone up a size as I find courdroy a bit restrictive compared to other fabrics. Hoping that works out! 😆

Those dungarees are beautiful, and the shirt looks great with them. Please don’t sell them! Stupid prick, who does he think he is? Bet he was alone.

Pathetic man putting you down to make himself feel big.

I love those dungerees. What would people wear over them outside, out of interest? I'm the type of person who always needs to wear a coat but I have no sense of what would go!

It's a lovely outfit! With my hourglass figure I'd look all round in it like an oompah loompah so I'm jealous. Ignore him, I honestly love it.

They’re lovely, please don’t throw your outfit away..

And anyone who thinks £28 is too much for those is living in a really strange world. What was he dressed in? Clingfilm?

You know the outfit wasn't terrible and the man was an idiot. Thise dungarees are amazing and I'd be very tempted if I hadn't bought three other pairs already this year. Ignore him, and enjoy your clothes!

@MurderBot

Pathetic man putting you down to make himself feel big.

I love those dungerees. What would people wear over them outside, out of interest? I'm the type of person who always needs to wear a coat but I have no sense of what would go!

I wear mine with big slouchy cardigans or shackets, or for coats I find they need to be cropped/boxy or midi to maxi length. I think the main thing to avoid is fingertip length.

Vile man. Ignore him, what kind of loser makes comments like that, bet you looked fab!

I think he was just responding and got it wrong. I do this, I don't know what to say feel the need to respond and then sound rude! I work out the right thing to say when I'm well away from the situation.

@Grida

I really like the outfit. There are some weird people out there. It has nothing to do with what you were wearing and everything to do with some unknown issue that he had.

Some men seem to be offended when we dress for us ms not for the male gaze. I’ve only ever had men comment on my clothes when I’m wearing something that isn’t deemed to be for their eyes , if that makes sense

Ignore him

I find the best retort for insults of that nature is:

“Why on earth would I care what someone like you thinks”.

Psychologically “Someone like you” is always interpreted as whatever their wildest insecurity is so it does maximum damage without you actually having to be in anyway rude.

I’ve also been in a scenario where a man ranted at me and his wife was nodding along and I looked at her and said it must be awful being married to such a bully. Surprisingly they both looked a bit chastened by that.

Really don't think I'd take fashion advice from someone who can't tell the difference between dungarees and a dress...

I think its nice. If I didn't have such massive hips, I'd wear it.