Do you think you are attractive?

[noddyholder]

I ahev just moved and met the only neighbour i think who isn't about 100!She is about 35 boden-y with kids and seemsnice but we were chatting about annie lennox as she had a paper with her picture on it and she was saying how it is harder for women who are attractive to accept aging and she was dreading it as she had spent her life getting what she wanted because of her looks!I was speechless for once and said little back but i would never say that although I am not what I was at 42 I was ok in my youth but it just shocked me So come on do you think you're gorge and has it helped or hindered you?

just what i was thinking doodle but didnt want to say

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Ive put a pic of me and DP on just for a bit.

Its about 3 years old now though.

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is now!

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fred you are very kind
but remember the pic you saw was a) from tumpty-tum years ago b) pre-kids and c) didn't actually show my face...

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yes, until I see photos of myself

me?

nope not name ching.

when i click on my name i can see my profile & pics

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I am NOT pretty.
That's o.k..
I am fine with that.
I am comfortable with who I am and I have always been, even pre teens.
I have the greatest boobs.

Mrs B, but I also saw you loking slim and trin whilst preggers!!! And i know from yor style that you're attractive...

Oooh. Depends.

Nice legs - that's a constant . Nice eyes (shame about the rings under them). But I am rarely happy about my figure as I actually have to admit I want to be too skinny and I never will be. Having been so tall and large-framed I have always felt big even when at my slimmest. I have awful skin - spots when I was younger and now quite lined for 42. Nice shaped teeth but not very white so I am self-conscious of smiling.

But at times, when I'm eating well and excersising and getting reasonable amts of sleep I do feel quite attractive. Mostly it's confidence. And there are times when I know that people notice me - favourably. At other times I want to walk around with a bag on my head

Attractiveness or the lack of it comes from the head.

no. i do not think i am attractive.
i know i am attractive.

whilst i wouldnt say what noddy's neighbour did to a random stranger, because i am not that conceited, i do understand what her neighbour is on about.

don't think I am pretty

but I can look nice if I am not feeling too tired and I know I look much better when I'm feeling happy and smiley

am too lazy to make much of an effort with hair and hardly wear make-up so I could probably look a bit better than I do most of the time, but I tend to save that for special occasions

and I practically live in jeans which is very dull

I don't think my look have been either a help or a hindrance in my life

I honestly have no idea. I think I'm striking but that's not a good thing when I'm strikingly bad (1st thing in the morning).

A couple of years ago a woman at work told me I was 'stunning'. A day or two later I was on my way home from the swimming pool, with wet hair and red eyes, and a passing child said to his mother 'why's that man wearing tights?'

So I try not to pay too much attention to any of it.

I have been thinking about this since yesterday.

When I was young (till 25) I was tall, blonde, slim (size 10-12), modest norkage. Pretty. I admit this when I look at pictures of myself, I did not think I was pretty back then (like in Oenophile's post).

It is hard coming to terms with weight gain when you have spent your entire childhood, teen age years and young womanhood as a slim person.

It might be equally hard for somebody who has been beautiful all her life to "lose her looks".

But I think this is much connected not just to your own vanity or lack thereof, but also your own perception of beauty. Beauty is not only reserved for youth. Some women age extremely gracefully, and you can see that they have been, and still are beautiful. Glenn Close in my opinion is one of them. Sharon Stone another. If you think that only youth, or youthfullness is beautiful, you might have a hard time adapting and finding beauty in the looks of an aging person. Or indeed you may mourn the loss of your own beauty.

Why do some think George Clooney, or Sean Connery look even better now? Ralph Fiennes? (It is easier to see beauty in a male aging face than a female, so apologies if I cannot think of that many old beautiful women!)

There is beauty in maturity, beauty in life experiences, beauty in a weather beaten mature face.

I thinkk Joanna Lumley is far more beautiful now than she was 30 years ago.She was always pretty, but now her face and features have depth.

depends which mirror I look in.

Shower room mirror I am drop dead gorgeous.
Bthroom mirror I look like a fat hag.

I never look in the bathroom mirror,so am always gorgeous

In some ways I feel more attractive as I age. I've lost weight and I now have cheekbones whereas before I had rounded youthful curves. I am no longer self-conscious of my height - in fact I like it. I am finally aware, thanks to starting to suffer from aches and pains as I reach my 40's, of just how f*ing amazing it is to have a body that moves, breathes and functions - it really is - and now I enjoy the feeling of that body working properly. I love running and it gives me a huge boost.
And also I care less what people think. So it that sense I suppose I am more attractive to myself inspite of the lines, the rings under my eyes, the less than sparkling teeth.

yes

because the self-confidence has been drummed in to me all my life (I'm a first child, first grnadchild ) and despite the fact that I am probably nothing special I allow myself to carry myself as if I am attractive! I've posted on the other thread (LilRed's one) that it's how you carry yourself that counts, not what you've got. Everyone is beautiful. Believe in it and you look more beautiful.

oh, and I've seen a photo of Lissie and I think she is attractive, in a very elegant lady kind of way. Bit of Nicole Kidman going there I reckon