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Do you think you are attractive?

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noddyholder · 16/09/2007 13:48

I ahev just moved and met the only neighbour i think who isn't about 100!She is about 35 boden-y with kids and seemsnice but we were chatting about annie lennox as she had a paper with her picture on it and she was saying how it is harder for women who are attractive to accept aging and she was dreading it as she had spent her life getting what she wanted because of her looks!I was speechless for once and said little back but i would never say that although I am not what I was at 42 I was ok in my youth but it just shocked me So come on do you think you're gorge and has it helped or hindered you?

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lissielou · 16/09/2007 13:51

really dont think of myself as attractive. i have been found attractive but one mans trash is another mans treasure, so to speak.

MABS · 16/09/2007 13:52

oooh, Noddy a v controversial thread, i do have lots of opinions on this, an a non-gorgeous one, but don't think i should really post em here!

DarrellRivers · 16/09/2007 13:53

I'm quite impressed by her honesty.
And at least she has insight.
I feel more attractive the older I get,and the happier that I am, and all those things that come with knowing who you are and what you want.
I try to dress well, and I like my dress sense so that helps but I have never been someone who has had things done for her becasue of the way she looks (just not drop dead gorgeous enough)
However I think I am not an onslaught on the eye.
Takes all types of skills to get on,like being entertaining etc but being attractive helps

LadyVictoriaOfCake · 16/09/2007 13:53

def not gorge at all. lol.

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 16/09/2007 13:56

There are days when I scrub up well. There are days when I scare the horses.

Swings and roundabouts.

WotsZePoint · 16/09/2007 13:56

lol - lissielou, I may just have to put that in quote of the week!

I have to fight admirers off with a big stick, it can be a cruse at times.

lissielou · 16/09/2007 13:58

pmsl

ImBarryScott · 16/09/2007 13:59

ha! I am the youngest of three sisters. My lovely older siblings are rather easy on the eye, so when I was growing up I got used to people saying "now you much be the clever one!".

At least I'll still be able to finish the crossword when they are bemoaning their wrinkles.

newlifenewname · 16/09/2007 14:00

I feel very unattractive but try to convince myself i am or I'd just cave in.

I used to imagine that my mum and dad had the most beautiful baby ever to have existed and that they had to tell everybody not to tell me because I'd get big headed and that was why sometimes Russell Potten didn't want to play kiss chase with me as much as he did with my friend Kelly.

That's a bit schizotypal actually.

ImBarryScott · 16/09/2007 14:00

must be

don't look like the clever one now .

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noddyholder · 16/09/2007 14:01

Do you think its controversial mabs?You are bloody gorgeous though so sod off!

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WotsZePoint · 16/09/2007 14:02

lol @ ImBarryScott

My older sis was called the pretty one, I was called the attractive one. WHAT - Men are called attractive, so FFS what does that mean?

Flamesparrow · 16/09/2007 14:02

No. I don't think I am. I don't think I am hideous either though, but def not attractive.

Awww NLNN @ you n russell potten!

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noddyholder · 16/09/2007 14:03

She was being honest but I was taken aback as she was quite plain but maybe I just couldn't see past the highlights and boden yumminess!

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JeremyVile · 16/09/2007 14:04

People can definitely be deluded though.

I used to work with a girl who constantly linked everything in her life to her looks - if something went wel its because of her looks (she got a job cos the boss fancied her) if things went bad it was because of her looks (when she got sacked it was because the bosses wife was jealous and insisted).

Thing is, she was not great to look at. Under normal circumstances I would just take her as she was and not think anything negative about her physical appearance, but cos she constantly drew attention yo it I found myself staring at her wonky yellow teeth and greasy hair and terrible posture and thinking "You. Utter. Loon."

As for me, I'm bloody gorgeous!
OK I have the potential to be alright but its shocking how i've deteriorated since becoming a mother (I feel like a depreciating Nissan). Nothing major, just something missing.
I've seen a boot camp round here somewhere....

lulumama · 16/09/2007 14:04

i think i am average, with a nice personality, and seem to have got through life quite nicely, being neither stunningly attractive, nor amazingly clever, but by being sort of average and kind of nice.

would be gutted , but gutted , if my daugher ( or my son! ) ever said anything like the woman quoted in the OP

newlifenewname · 16/09/2007 14:05

Ex dp said I need a nose job, a boob job and lipo.

Oenophile · 16/09/2007 14:05

I read something once - that however awful you think today's photograph of you is, if you look at it in ten years time you will think 'my, I was stunning then!' (compared to now) which is either depressing or reassuring...

And that's true for my part. I never realised I was attractive when younger, but I'm 49 now and realise something's missing nowadays - I've become completely invisible. No-one notices me any more, I never catch any man looking with that certain interest, I just don't register on their radar.

So I suppose that once I must have been attractive-ISH - and am no longer - and it does bother me a tiny bit at times - but not much.

DarrellRivers · 16/09/2007 14:08

Once you have children, if they are with you or if you ahve a buggy you do become invisible to men.
It must be an evolutionary thing
Or otherwise, you can fight this invisibilty thing by going around topless, that seems to counter it

DumbledoresGirl · 16/09/2007 14:08

No I do not consider myself to be at all attractive, but I am beginning to reap the benefits of not being an oil painting now that I am 42. What you didn't have, you don't miss and all that.

motherinferior · 16/09/2007 14:10

I vary.

I strongly suspect that much of the attractiveness occasionally attributed to me is the result of big norks .

DarrellRivers · 16/09/2007 14:15

MI, i agree
I had v big norks when younger,would be whistled at, peered at , etc etc, now I am smaller,as a result of BF and nada.
Although not sure whether this is also effect of having |DC with me most the time , or looking older, and therfore less nubile.

Cammelia · 16/09/2007 14:16

Oenophile, I've become invisible now except to occasionally being chatted up by oap's and the semi-flirted with by teenage cashiers beacsue I obv remind them of their grandmother

I did used to be attractive though and was treated strangely because of it sometimes

EscapeFrom · 16/09/2007 14:17

Girls who were chunky teenagers deal with being chunky adults a whole lot better than girls who were sylph like and beautiful.

Amongst women of my age, amongst the ones who are now porky (my sort of porky) are some who hate themselves for it, and whine constantly. They were invariably thin and beautiful teenagers.

The ones who were average or porky as teenagers seem to accept it better, and have other resources to pull on should things not be going their way.

Who needs to learn how to use eye contact and humour when you look like a young Cindy crawford?

We'll be laughing when we're 70, and all the ex-beautiful ones are just as raddled as us, but we are still good at dealing with people

motherinferior · 16/09/2007 14:20

Oooooooooooohyes. I considered myself rather chunky as a teenager/young woman, and although I think I did get it out of proportion, I certainly wasn't a size 8. Now, at 44, I'm much the same size...and guess what, rather small as I'm a size 10-12 (remember sizing has increased over those decades, though). While the size 8s of my yoof have definitely expanded more than just to a present-day 10.