Fancy being a Goddess for 2020?

[Pinkarsedfly]

Bear with me. I’m 45, size 14, about as far from a Goddess as you could possibly imagine.

But...I read a comment from a MNer on one of these boards a few months back, I think it was on a thread about stopping overeating, and it’s really stuck with me. The OP was asking how she could stop bingeing on crap, and a pp said something like, ‘Eating good food in the right amount is more goddess-like. Treat yourself like a Goddess.’

I really liked that. It stuck with me. I like the idea of channelling an innner goddess much more than princessing. So I thought I’d start a thread of ideas about how to be a goddess for 2020.

So far I’ve thought of:

Take regular exercise - not in a sweaty gym, but running outside, yoga, stretching etc. Good for the mind as well as the body.

Eat well, and not too much. There’s not much goddess-like about shoving your hand down a tube of Pringles and getting crumbs down your front.

Drink more water.

Looking after skin, maybe use natural products?

Be creative and try to use more positive self-talk?

I don’t know if I’m barking up the wrong tree, but I’m feeling my way towards treating myself better and hoping it has a knock-on effect.

Any other potential goddesses out there with more ideas?

MIND

Try to reduce phone time, especially just before bed.

Make time to do things you really want to do. Write that book, read, knit, draw, even watch TV programmes you really enjoy - but do it 100%, instead of with one eye on the phone/ironing/etc.

Take time for your relationship, if you have one. Communicate. Try being affectionate or having more sex. It puts a spring in your step!

Positive self-talk. Talk to yourself with love and respect, and others will follow suit.

Your comment about perfume, jewellery and bath products is so true. I save everything for best but there never seems a best and I'm missing out on feeling good on a day to day basis. By the time I use my bath stuff it's gone off, my jewellery tarnished and perfume, stale.

SPIRIT

Hmm...I’m not sure how to separate this off from the other two - they kind of feed in don’t they?

Perhaps...

Think more, say less.

Take time to do things that will help soothe anxiety - meditate or do whatever has a similar effect on you.

Keep your journal so you can watch your Goddess Progression, and set yourself goals.

Im definitely in need of some goddessing here,nearly 50 and overweight... loving this thread.

Went to the coast ,

With no make up on , however I did have earrings , perfume and about 3 layers of day cream with SPF 15 . Also , a small pack of tissues in my bag ✅I like that idea

13,000 steps today , and loads of water drunk

Not a very goddess dinner planned , we have a mountain of cheese left from NYE , so that’s an easy dinner 👍

Following with considerable interest.

The only advice I have is treat every day as a special day. Don't keep things 'for best', as that day may never come.

(When my DGM died we all helped to sort out her flat. She had drawers full of cashmere knitwear, silk scarves etc still in wrapping paper that she'd received but never wore as it was 'for best.' That struck a chord with me...)

Ooh can I join?!
This is the year of the big 5-0 so I definitely could do with the boost of being more goddess-like.
I've been doing Yoga With Adrienne since last summer but just picking them at random which has made me favour the easy ones so I've committed to follow her new 30 day home. Can hardly move after day 3 today but hope that means it's doing something.
Love the journal ideas on here. I got the '90 day gratitude journal' for Christmas and it's really good at prompting you to really think about what you are grateful for.
Also love the idea of a good sashay

Goddess Day 1: started pretty well with Yoga with Adrianne. Wasn't going anywhere, but got properly dressed, rather than swears and put on a little make up. Definitely felt better for it.

Well, the Goddessy things I did today were...

Made a vegan chilli and brown rice for tea (DS is vegan) and it was very nice.

Practised guitar.

Started a new knitting project, and learned a new way of casting on. Took three attempts, but I was patient and got there in the end.

Now having a nice bubble bath and reading The Kindness Method as recommended upthread.

Will go for a run in the morning.

Day 3 with Adriene done.
Stomach muscles hurt. Nice to know they're there.
Having 1 glass of wine before bed.
Lovely food for tea.
Being very nice to my DH and kids. Life is just nicer when you're nice.

Glad to see so many of us joining the grace
My Goddess things for the day
I did a (short) run this morning and a yoga workout to fix my back / shoulder this evening.
Drank lots of water and herbal tea.
And, a big deal for me, got through the day without sugar! Really pleased with that one. Long may it continue!

Goddess things I did today:

A 45 minute walk/play with my puppy.

Went our for a nice dinner to celebrate a family birthday and resisted the Goblin of Gluttony by saying no to a starter as I didn’t want one and asking and having a bit of DH’s I stead.

Sent an enquiry about joining a course on physically releasing trauma from my body. I ‘carry’ a big blockage of anxiety in my chest and I want to remove it finally.

I’ve applied/worn skincare, jewellery, perfume & makeup (minimal - but lipstick helps me feel polished as does one coat of mascara) so I’ve felt more groomed.

I’ve had a huge think about what I need to change to move forward and achieve my goals.

Consistency, routine and self-discipline are my buzzwords. I work from home and have ADHD and huge stress and trauma over the last few years have had me alternating between blitzing stuff and pulling all-nighters and achieving a lot, and then complete inertia. (Much more of the latter, although some of this has been necessary recover).

I’m determined to get myself into a routine and consistently keep showing up for things. I need to be very strict with myself and make and stick to this routine. Gonna be a Goddess on the Go. But in a focused direction, not flitting about leaving a trail of half-finished projects, broken promises to myself, forgotten friendships and a growing to-do-list in my wake.

My mantra is this year is: more building, less breaking/braking.

I’ve just made that up and am rather pleased with it No pausing or giving up on my goals!

I’ve decided that I’m going to commit to being accountable to this thread for the whole year, even if I end up being the only one posting.

Werking you had a brilliant day. More building less br(e)aking is a fab mantra.

I’m going to try to do better on the food and exercise front today. Let’s just say I enjoyed the Christmas food to the full and then some and now I’m feeling very well insulated.

So it’s off for a run I go. Wish me luck, Goddesses, it’s been a while!

Argh. DH ended up being in charge of dinner last night, as I was unwell. Predictably, he ordered takeaway. Although he can cook, & is a fairly decent cook, he just CBA. Especially if it's something healthy - he doesn't mind if it's of the variety that includes lots of melted cheese though. I ate it, didn't enjoy it, or finish it, & told him that after we move house I'm going to sort out a couple of batches of things for the freezer, for me to eat for when he wants takeaway. I'm fed up of having no choice.

Today we are going to PILs house for dinner. They basically live off beige food - various bread & pastry items, & fried potato products. Scarcely a vegetable in sight. I'm taking my own & they can lump it, & if they object they can do better next time. I'm so fed up with being forced to eat unhealthily (in part) because I'm not allowed to make my own food choices.

My weight has rocketed over the past few months because I've not been able to cook much, & it shows.

I have also decided, I'm not going to worry about eating white rice. It's much cheaper than brown, quicker to cook, the protein & fibre difference is negligible in the context of a meal, as is the GI when eaten with other food. The only real difference is the mineral content, which isn't an issue if you eat a good variety of fruit & veg, which I (ordinarily) do. So bollocks to it. I like brown, I like white, I'll eat whichever I fancy.

Oh, good luck, Pinkarsedfly!

Please can I join?

I'm really struggling after having DS2, since I stopped bf 10 weeks ago my skin has been awful, huge spots along jawline/right of chin and my breasts have completely disappeared, can't even fill an A cup which has me feeling so unfeminine.

I want us to eat better as a family and I need to exercise more. Have restarted the mutu program and want to start running again, it's just finding time to run.

My mental health isn't great and I think the clutter in the house is having an affect. It's everywhere and makes it difficult to stay on top of the housework. I'm doing a 52 week declutter challenge. Mini purge of the play room and a cupboard yesterday.

well, I got the tissues very goddess like ones from M&S, proberbly could have got 3 times as many in B&M but hey, I am a goddess right?

just a few thoughts, white rice/brown rice, a little of what you fancy does you good, eat what you like, just not too much, yesterday I had a very small pizza while out with dh and our dgs, was very nice, and a few cheese and biscuits about 6pm with some wine, again just not too much.
@2020nymph, please dont think large breasts equal feminine, they equal large bras with huge difficulty finding pretty ones, shoulder grooves, horrid drooping with age and a bloody pita when trying to wear clothes, have a look at all the top models, they all have tiny boobs and look fantastic in clothes, I for one would prefer a small bust but here I am stuck with droopy old lady tits , I wont do anything surgery wise as I think menopausal women with 20 year old boobs look most peculiar.

Good morning Goddesses!
@PinkArsedFly this really is a great thread, so lovely reading people's positive messages
@2020nymph exactly the same happened to me after DC2! Wasn't exactly Dolly Parton before kids but completely disappeared after them. Twenty plus years on and they never came back but as pp said you grow to learn to love what you've got, it's a part of what makes you you.
My Goddess day so far has seen me do Day 4 of Yoga with Adrienne and put on a rather flattering new lipgloss...small steps
Have a great day everyone!

Loving this thread everyone.

I like your commitment, werking
I hope your run went well pink. I'm not really a runner but it is such a good exercise to fit into your day - I love swimming but have to adhere to session times.
Spirit - could this part be something to do with being benevolent Goddesses who do stuff for other people (those who worship at our temple)? Or how we interact with others (clear boundaries!)

Well, I managed my run. I set myself the target of running for 30 minutes, and actually did 34 and a bit. Happy with that.

Re: boobs after childbirth. Goddesses, our bodies are meant to look that way. We’ve made, birthed and fed human beings with them. Our shapes reflect our strength. I have stretch marks, a c-section pouch, one boob still a bit bigger than the other - but there are two men walking around the world who wouldn’t be if it wasn’t for me, so I’ll wear my Goddess-marks with pride.

(I used to hate my tummy and was so shy of showing DH, who is not the boys’ dad. He said ‘it’s just a gorgeous soft tummy with some stretchmarks’ and I’ve thought of it like that ever since. Reframing is key).

I honestly love this thread so much - I actually started a Pinterest board on being more goddess last year, so it’s clearly lurking in me!

I have however had a mixed goddess day as the cat has diarrhoea and a shitty bum..... chasing a Pooey cat around the house is not how I envision the rest of my year going, so I am putting this down to a blip!

I’ve signed up for a gym challenge and a running club so I’m hoping that sorts out the 3 stone over weight I am. I am currently blitzing the house and making it fit for a goddess. I think today is more of a prepping for the real stuff to start tomorrow!

This is a very inspiring thread. I have now done yoga for the past three mornings and am hoping to continue at 7am on workdays and eat breakfast later at work. I also went for an hour's walk yesterday instead of binge watching tv and crocheting all afternoon . I am using some of the fancier skincare from my holland and barrett calender. I was a bit scared of the acid face stuff but skin feels nice today. Food wise I have been pretty good although 2 chocs sneaked through as partner placed them next to me and i truffled them up in an ungoddess like manner. I hope i can keep it all up as back to work tommorow but i cwn say that i feel better in mind, spirit snd body as it feels like taking control back.

@Pinkarsedfly well done on your run and thanks for the encouragement and great thread
At the risk of looking like a NetHun, I’m going to temporarily put my mantra on my posts on this thread as a ‘footer’ to remind myself. Don’t worry I won’t be doing ticker tape

@2020nymph a lot of your post resonates with me. I have a very big clutter problem at the moment and it’s one of my focuses for 2020. To be blunt, I can’t move freely round my bedroom because of piles of clothes and stuff and all my bedside/chest of drawers/dressing table surfaces are overflowing.

Posted too soon ...

My clutter problem is probably a hoarding problem and very embarrassing to admit, I’ve only admitted it to you. I have piles of clothes that are too small. It absolutely stems from MH problems over the past few years and a chronic health problem that’s restricted my movement. DH has partially sorted it at times but its quickly gone downhill again so he’s given up. The downstairs of the house and communal areas are fine, but to my shame my children are getting as bad as me and when I pointed out to my teenager that their room was tip, they retorted that line was messier So I have to get that under control. One of my January goals is to sort my bedroom.

I purchased the Mutu system years ago but never got round to doing it, mostly because my health problem flared up badly and I couldn’t walk for a while. I have a v large distasis recti that depresses me and which I’ve been meaning to get sorted.

Gosh sorry for going deep again but the root of what I want to change, is that these issues have, well, roots, and I need to dig ‘em out.

2020 Mantra: building not br(e)aking