Fancy being a Goddess for 2020?

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Bear with me. I’m 45, size 14, about as far from a Goddess as you could possibly imagine.

But...I read a comment from a MNer on one of these boards a few months back, I think it was on a thread about stopping overeating, and it’s really stuck with me. The OP was asking how she could stop bingeing on crap, and a pp said something like, ‘Eating good food in the right amount is more goddess-like. Treat yourself like a Goddess.’

I really liked that. It stuck with me. I like the idea of channelling an innner goddess much more than princessing. So I thought I’d start a thread of ideas about how to be a goddess for 2020.

So far I’ve thought of:

Take regular exercise - not in a sweaty gym, but running outside, yoga, stretching etc. Good for the mind as well as the body.

Eat well, and not too much. There’s not much goddess-like about shoving your hand down a tube of Pringles and getting crumbs down your front.

Drink more water.

Looking after skin, maybe use natural products?

Be creative and try to use more positive self-talk?

I don’t know if I’m barking up the wrong tree, but I’m feeling my way towards treating myself better and hoping it has a knock-on effect.

Any other potential goddesses out there with more ideas?

If anyone’s got any more ideas let’s have them, and I’ll make a list a bit later.

A Goddess Manifesto, if you will.

Dolores that list is brilliant. Definitely going to borrow your ideas. You’re my goddess role-model.

Pink I forgot one of my biggies that I changed. A proper skincare routine using actives. I joined the Caroline Hirons skincare group on FB, LIFE CHANGING, well for me it was anyway.

I was in a bit of a bad mood this morning, kids being cheeky, feeling unappreciated. DH took them to the park as they needed exercising! I went for a run, they got back shortly after me with a bunch of flowers. DH has done this about 6 times in a decade and a half! Think like a goddess and it will happen!

I like that, Love51

We should note when we’ve been treated like Goddesses, so we can see it working...

I can see the sense in taking proper care of skin (and hair) Dolores.

I aim to rely less on makeup and aim for more natural beauty.

This is my list....

Get more sleep. Go to bed earlier and read a physical book to help me fall asleep.

Write and follow daily routines to improve efficiency, so I have more time to leave the house serenely (and not a sweaty mess!)

Get ready and dressed with makeup everyday by 9am, even if I don’t leave the house.

Restrict time spent online and read instead. Don’t mindlessly watch TV and films. I can watch and enjoy cheesy stuff, but I need to actively enjoy them (rather than passively watch mediocre tv just cause it’s on).

Religiously follow a skincare routine day and night. No excuses. I’ve been doing this for 3 weeks and I feel so much better. Wear 50 SPF everyday (Frezyderm is amazing!)

Wear perfume everyday.

Act with kindness, avoid critical or negative comments and thoughts wherever possible. Put a shield up to the negativity of others.

Don’t offer unsolicited advice. Keep my powder dry more than I do. Say fewer, but more considered words.

Keep on top of my good haircut and threaded eyebrows.

Try to wear less synthetic clothing.

And the biggie 🤣 Lose weight

I’m joining , if I may
Turning the big 60 this year , and need to change my lifestyle , now
I was given a book ‘ the kindness method ‘ by Sharoo Izadi (sp) and I think it is along the same lines

I like the idea of a goddess journal. I got a week by week diary for Christmas so have found its use!

Will look up the tea thank you. I think 3 things a day is a great idea so today it's:

Making and eating a lovely festive fruit salad (ie has pomegranate in it - very goddess like)

Using my lovely new skincare

Relaxing as much as possible as today is my last day of holiday, I have an evil cold and feel tired and chesty. Not being lazy, helping myself get better

Some brilliant ideas on this thread.

Welcome new Goddesses!

My three things for today:

Played my guitar unselfconsciously and mastered three new chords.

Went for a long walk with two of my dogs.

Cooking a big roast with lots of veggies to see in the new year. I think that counts?

Funnily enough DH told me I look nice (I haven’t washed my hair for two days and am wearing minimal makeup) and told me I was playing guitar really well (he’s an expert, I’m a beginner so I’m usually a bit shy of playing in front of him).

It seems to work!

Oh wow this is the thread I need. I’m 47 and had a few awful, stressful years and am in a fug and need to ‘find’ myself and sone purpose again.

I had joined a weight loss one under a different name but although my weight is a big problem I need to tackle in 2020 for health reasons (am 5 stone overweight), I know that the solution is holistic and resides mostly in my head. I use food as an emotional crux and always have done. I was a skinny child but had abusive parents who were neurotic about me not becoming far to the point they were very controlling and deliberately underfed me. So any type of denial in a diet makes me anxious and crave the forbidden fruit. I treat myself with food for everything, and need to get to a point where I intrinsically understand that ‘treating’ myself so much equals self-harm. It’s an attitude I have in other areas too.

When the parental voice you grew up with was more loathing than loving, there’s no model for treating yourself (or others tbh) with respect and forgiveness.

In a nutshell, I have to replace the inner Goblin voice I still have with one of a Goddess and stop hindering myself in all ways.

So to start:

• Using my awesome 2020 planner every day to plot and track goals and then actually do what I set out to do. This is instead of procrastinating until things become urgent and stressful or my goals never get achieved and year after year rolls by.... sigh

• Do a 30 min walk each day with my dog (will build on this)

• Drink a litre of water a day (again will build on this)

• Write my novel every day

• Track my food

• ‘Treat’ myself every day by using/wearing the nice cosmetics skincare jewellery and clothes I have.

• Speak kindly to myself and others, including not shouting at the kids.

• Smile more.

• Be on time to everything!!

Welcome to the thread, Werking!

Your list is excellent - and I love the idea of replacing the Goblin with your Goddess. I think a lot of us can probably relate to that.

@Werking I really recommend this book on reclaiming your inner child www.amazon.co.uk/Home-Coming-Reclaiming-Championing-Inner/dp/0749910542?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

It was really life-changing for me to counteract my abusive childhood. From the sounds of it, it sounds idea for you.

Ideal

Okay I’ve done my first journal entry. I got carried away and put nine things on it

It helps to record the little wins though.

I’m in!

I’m too old to be a princess these days.
I also want to feel sexier and I can’t think of princesses being sexy...

Love this thread . So positive and some great ideas . I've also been trying to add more colour into my wardrobe to boost myself a bit . Will be taking some more of these ideas on .

I think one of mine is to have an enjoyable breakfast each day . I have tendency to just grab what I can but think I would benefit from being more organised and having some thing other than a slice of toast !

Love this

Love that it is it really about looks, but about how you feel

I have been making it a habit to have a very positive internal monologue, counting the positives, cutting myself slack all the time...

It really helps

@Werking which planner do you have?

I like this idea! Marking my place to read when feeding the baby in a few hours time!

Some really good ideas on this thread. I'm late 30s, disabled (neuro/pain), am 10st 11 at 5'3" which puts my BMI at 27. Feel very flabby. Before chronic illness, I was fairly fit, & really slim.

I already have a good skincare routine - when I feel well enough to do it - about 80% of the time. Including SPF. And hats! My one skincare tip, that takes no time at all each morning, & works out cheaper per use than anything else, is buy a good, wide brimmed straw hat for the summer. Not paper straw, but real straw from a field. Very elegant. Hides bad hair days.
I don't drink caffeine, much alcohol, eat any sugary crap or artificial sweeteners. Need to drink more water, herbal tea etc.
I am fortunate to genuinely enjoy "healthy" food - almost all fruit & veg, quinoa, fish, etc. Don't like fast food, sweets etc. But I have little energy for food preparation, & batch cooking when I'm well enough is the only way it's viable for me. DH would literally live on takeaway & crisps...
I already don't wear much by way of artificial fibres - I weeded it out of my wardrobe gradually. What I have now, though, is mostly cheap, 2nd hand, & wearing out. I refuse to buy new things & acknowledge that I am still going to be this weight long enough to need them.

Wearing perfume every day is a lovely idea, I'm definitely doing that.
I need more sleep. I have no resistance to the really rubbishy, nutritionally void carbs when I'm sleep deprived (hello, fancy chocolate spread in the supermarket, which mysteriously disappears in record time...)
I need to avoid wheat as much as possible. Most bread gives me heartburn, & it almost all gives me bellyache. Not easy when I've so many other foods I have to avoid because they trigger my condition.

I'd love to join in!

Since a pregnancy that was particularly hard on my body a couple of years ago and a few personal issues since then causing low moods and stress, I feel like I've aged a decade.

I'm going to try to improve my posture (walking like a goddess!) - maybe regular yoga to help?

I think a lifestyle that focuses on enjoying the good things without excess is an excellent mindset.

Here’s my list
Inner Goddess
1 use all the nice skincare products that I have
2 write journal each night
3 water , water , water
4 no iPad or phone after 9pm
5 eat more colour

I need / want to lose about 8lb , so cutting out all the beige food will help , I’m doing dry January ( which might carry on to February and March)

We already like going out for a good walk , ( and live in Wales , so don’t have to go far to find somewhere interesting)
Feeling positive 🍎🍊🍋🥬🥑🥦🥕

Oh please let me join!!!!! I am going to
Exercise 3 times a week
More sex
Start using skincare

WRT eating - I did 5:2 after my youngest and one of the people on the thread said to me that I am not my family’s dustbin and I am worth more than just eating their leftovers so they aren’t wasted. This has stuck with me and I now make and eat reasonable meals for myself, even if I am eating alone. It has helped me as well let go of a lot of the guilt I used to carry around regarding food - now if I eat loads of ice cream I just think “well, that’s what my body was wanting” and I fast the next day. It has helped me feel so much more in control.

I love this idea.