Fancy being a Goddess for 2020?

[Pinkarsedfly]

Bear with me. I’m 45, size 14, about as far from a Goddess as you could possibly imagine.

But...I read a comment from a MNer on one of these boards a few months back, I think it was on a thread about stopping overeating, and it’s really stuck with me. The OP was asking how she could stop bingeing on crap, and a pp said something like, ‘Eating good food in the right amount is more goddess-like. Treat yourself like a Goddess.’

I really liked that. It stuck with me. I like the idea of channelling an innner goddess much more than princessing. So I thought I’d start a thread of ideas about how to be a goddess for 2020.

So far I’ve thought of:

Take regular exercise - not in a sweaty gym, but running outside, yoga, stretching etc. Good for the mind as well as the body.

Eat well, and not too much. There’s not much goddess-like about shoving your hand down a tube of Pringles and getting crumbs down your front.

Drink more water.

Looking after skin, maybe use natural products?

Be creative and try to use more positive self-talk?

I don’t know if I’m barking up the wrong tree, but I’m feeling my way towards treating myself better and hoping it has a knock-on effect.

Any other potential goddesses out there with more ideas?

Thank you, Bagatha.

I spent yesterday looking after my spirit, and I feel better for it. No booze. Baked a healthy version of banana bread. Played my guitar and knitted. Watched a lot of episodes of The IT Crowd, because I needed to laugh and Moss always does the trick

The best thing I did, though, was read The Untethered Soul. Oh my goodness, what a brilliant book. I think it might be life-changing. Has any one of you Goddesses read it?

Posted too soon - Bagatha, reading that book will tell you how to shut those nagging voices up, for good.

Morning Goddesses

I am rebooting today, so this is my New Year Part 2 – last week I got back into routine of going to work, but I wasn’t very well over the weekend so spent a lot of time embracing the Goddess of Sleep and stayed in bed for most of it. Feel brighter today, back at work and wearing my “good” sweater – I need to stop saving stuff. It is such a waste. Who cares if I wear my nice clothes and they get worn out – that is the whole point of clothes! I have also meal planned for the week, and I am considering starting some exercise – this is a Big Move for me, because I am a lumpy Goddess who doesn’t exert herself at all.

I read your posts about posture- I am quite slouchy too. I remember hearing that we should wear our ears over our shoulders – so I try to do that. If I straighten up so my ears are in line with my shoulders, I am much more upright! Part of my slouchiness is because I am big of nork, and when I put my shoulders back I feel my chest sticks out half a mile in front of me, in a very matronly bosomy way. I need to embrace the matron – she ain’t going anywhere.

I'm behind on my yoga so doing loads of that tonight when I get home,
Bedroom is also a pit where I've pinched loads of jeans off my sis which all need trying on rather than just putting away to make sure I don't keep any which I won't wear.

On the plus side I am being a lot more positive about things.
Have a teeny weeny more money left this month than I thought - which obviously means I've forgotten to pay something!

@Pinkarsedfly I've bought this book now in the hope it will do for me what it's done for you!

Had a good day yesterday , managed to get a nice walk in before the heavens opened 😀
Loads of veg with a stir fry for dinner , and I managed a Sunday night with no wine
Slept really badly though

Had to be up early this morning to take DD and a friend to catch the coach to the AirPort for a flight to Glasgow ... which has landed in Edinburgh.. haven’t heard from her , and I don’t want to message her as she’s a bit scared of flying , and I think the plane will be taking off again soon to fly to Glasgow ... I’m sure she’ll be fine

Back on the low carb Bootcamp , so even though it’s raining , windy and very cold I had tuna salad for lunch , and some turkey steak with lots of green veg and some mushrooms for dinner , my eat more colour is a bit green today !

Caught up at yoga.
2/3 of tidying done.
Time for a cuppa and tele with kids.

Good evening Goddesses!

I’ve had a good day today. I took the dogs for a long walk before the rain and wind arrived, then I got on the treadmill and ran 5k.

DH cooked a healthy stir fry for dinner, and I’ve been drinking tons of water.

My delivery of Three Spirit arrived today. I thought I’d give them a try as an alternative to gin and tonic. They’re a plant-based spirit which contain herbs to give you a lift, chill you out or keep you floating somewhere in between. I’ve only tried one so far, and it was really nice - a grown-up tasting soft drink. I’m not too keen on overly sweet drinks, so I’m happy with these.

I’ve also been binge-watching series 3 of This Is Us. Even goddesses need to veg out sometimes

Ooh, and I also cleaned my bedroom and bathroom so I have a lovely space now! Feeling very productive!

Good Morning all

I was proud of myself last night. got in late after a long drive and normally that would be my "stuff my face" excuse. But instead I decided I would have the starchy comfort food I wanted (ghnocci) but in a correct protion. So I had a small amount - enjoyed every biute. Slept well as I wasn't suffering from heartburn and feel a lot better for it.

Trying to work on my style a bit as feel I always wear the same things despite a bulging wardrobe. So after a huge clearout last week I ordered a couple of style books as recommended on MN and last night started reading "the little black book of style" While I own't follow books like that religiously the principles etc do inspire me a bit to make myself more presentable and feel more confident in what I am wearing and I made a small list of essential items I would like to purchase :)

Morning!

Well done, itallwentwrong! I love it when a good choice has a knock-on effect. I was making breakfast wondering why I was feeling so good this morning, then I realised. No booze for two days. It makes it easier to make Goddess-like decisions when you feel benefits rather than just feeling deprived.

Update from me...I’ve been spending less time online in my quest to be more productive and engaged in the real world. I’m on my first childfree day - it’s amazing to actually have 5 minutes uninterrupted so I can complete a task! Shame I can’t continue with child free days when I go back to work!

Skincare- all going well. Have added in Timeless vitamin c which is a dupe for skinceuticals and pretty good (keep in your fridge). Still need a serum for night but I’m liking the Cerave PM moisturiser- I switch up with a Dr Dennis Gross Exfoliating moisturiser (not keen to use acids everyday). I’m using up a very expensive sample serum from space nk I won’t be repurchasing as I am sure there are cheaper alternatives. I’m double cleansing at night (oil, then Cerave hydrating cleanser) and being strict about SPF (thanks to my Frezyderm discovery on the skincare thread). Joining the skincare thread made me realise how much money and time I’d wasted on mediocre products flogged by infuencers like CH SH AMR. And that simplicity of ingredients is key.

I’m glowing like a goddess. And wearing less makeup

The castor oil doesn’t seem to be doing anything but it’s early days. You need to be ready for sleep as it blurs the vision!

I’m progressing well with life planning. Thinking very deeply and setting proper smart goals.

Also having massive clear out/ life admin drive. I’m trying out the Pomodoro method. Will report on success (there are many apps including forest one already mentioned).

I don’t think goddesses fall down internet rabbit holes do they?? I’ve been thinking about how to tackle the bad habit of finding myself on Wikipedia looking up random facts or famous people when I should be Sleeping. I’m naturally very curious so I need to restrict temptation. Along with the forest app I’m going to sign up to a weekly news bulletin to avoid click bait. Also setting goals around internet use and time. Anyone have recommendations for quality news bulletins?

Books,...

I’ve ordered the Kindness Method which looks like it might help me break some bad habits. It’s backed up by some pretty good psych research so I’m hoping it helps me with eating, sleeping and productivity.

I really liked the Badass book ... it’s simple and I can see why some might find it too spiritual or OTT. But it helped me a few years ago when I was stuck in a rut and didn’t believe in myself. The way it’s written - quite direct - helped me have a personal wake up call. I wasn’t making the most of my opportunities and suffered from self doubt. I wouldn’t recommend for people with mental health concerns, it’s more for people who are stuck and want to move forward. I didn’t change direction for the person that asked, just changed up a few gears and now feeling more fulfilled, happy and importantly have gained more respect from others. of course I picked up the book- so it spoke to me. But I do credit it for precipitating a change in my mindset. I’ve never said that about a book before! But I must have been in the right frame of mind anyway. It isn’t a practical book though in that it gave me solutions... I had to find these solutions myself. But it helped me develop the self belief I needed to identify and make changes.

@itallwentwrongat30 what are the titles of the style books recommended?

There are a couple mentioned on this thread which I have ordered

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/style_and_beauty/3788758-Style-beauty-books

I also have the Nina Garcia ones (little black book of style and one other the title of which I can't remember)

Good afternoon Goddesses
I'm trying to get some work done so haven't been on here. Though failing at not going on the Internet much...

Thanks for the book rec Pinkarsedfly it looks v good. It's exhausting having this nagging, negative voice harping on. As I went to the gym yesterday the voice was saying how indulgent it was, then I had to list all the positives. Exhausting I tell ya 😂

I am planning to buy it next month - Goddesses practice mindful spending and I have already treated myself this month.

Tomorrow I plan to get up early and smash this piece of work, then read The Four Pillar Plan I bought with an Xmas voucher and fill in my journal.

Good Evening Grace,
I’ve been MIA from this thread ... which is good because I really was “in action”. I’ve been focusing on clearing my backlog to-do list by finally doing important paperwork stuff that I’ve been procrastinating on.

I’ve been getting up at 7 every morning (a huge step forward for me!) and taking my dog for a walk, doing 10k steps every day and cleansing and moistening religiously. I also bought a load of new clothes including a pair of limited edition Grenson Nanette boots.

So all going well. But last night I came down with the flu and I’ve been in bed all day. Feel horrendous. Feel angry at myself for having had a lazy day in bed looking at MN because it makes me feel back in the place I was in before goddessing and when my mental health wasn’t good.

But I’m telling myself that as I’m legitimately ill, I owe it to my body to rest. Goddesses look after themselves.

Werking you’ve been doing brilliantly!

Of course Goddesses must rest if they’re ill. Number One Rule Of Goddessing is that we have to take care of ourselves - whether that be through exercise, eating well or rest.

Get well soon

Evening everyone 😊
I've finally caught up with the thread, the weekend was a bit rough and I haven't felt particular goddessy tbh.
I did however manage to take both DC to a birthday party at soft play (hell!) and had a lovely time with friends there which brought my mood up significantly.

I've come down with yet another cold virus and both DC are having a bad time with it so I've worked hard today to get through as many jobs as possible and had a nice walk outside before the storm hit and then spent this evening painting my nails a coral pink and relaxing on the sofa. The balance has done me the world of good 😊

I definitely agree with you @Werking, you can't pour from an empty cup and you obviously needed some down time to rest and recover. I hope you start feeling better soon.

Thank you both
Goddesses produce lots of snot, right?

Oh, lots, Werking. Usually glittery 😉

@Werking that just made me do a very ungainly snort 😁

Greetings Goddesses! Sorry I've been AWOL- life's been busy & I just haven't had chance until tonight's to properly catch up. Lovely to read how well everyone's doing.

I felt terrible last night when I got in from work so I 'goddessed' and had a lovely bath & a really early night- I needed it & didn't feel guilty. DH did all the chores & roped the teenage DCs in - not a grumble from either of them!

I had a declutter at the weekend of all my clothes & was actually surprised a time how little crap I had, I'd bought less Primark & fast fashion over the past year than I'd thought, most of what I got rid of was properly worn out stuff. Not buying anything new for a while, might look out for a goddess style dress!

Skincare & beauty routines going well, I'm getting into a good habit of slathering myself with lovely stuff! This has got to continue.

I'm off to try a new yoga class tomorrow night, which I'm really looking forward to, I'm just a bit nervous as I normally go with my lovely friend to another one but she can't go for a few months & I'll feel like billy-no-mates!

Good morning Goddesses
I feel like death warmed up as I have an awful ear ache and sore throat , have quite a deep voice ( I quite like that part )
I’m dosing myself up on paracetamol, lots of water and squeezing some oranges for my breakfast juice

That at least is a good start to my eating more colour 🍊

I’ve finished my day cream , so will have a look in my stash , ( advent calendar and Christmas presents ) and see what I can use next

Hope you’re feeling better now @Werking

@MinnieLatte I’m going to spend half an hour this morning sorting out my bedroom and putting all my clothes away , and my shoes ( which are lined up neatly along the wall ) in the shoe store

Morning Goddesses!

I’ve had quite a good week of Goddessing this week, as I’ve not been so busy with work.

I had a lovely little rummage around TK Maxx’s cosmetic department yesterday, and found an Eve Lom sheet mask, some This Works scented candles, which are honestly the nicest I’ve found (Neroli and Sweet Orange) and I also treated myself to some pretty knickers, as most of my grundies were less than Goddess-like.

Well, the sheet mask was amazing! My skin looks really smooth and even. Highly recommended!

Yoga tonight, which I really need as I’m still stiff from Monday’s run