Fancy being a Goddess for 2020?

[Pinkarsedfly]

Bear with me. I’m 45, size 14, about as far from a Goddess as you could possibly imagine.

But...I read a comment from a MNer on one of these boards a few months back, I think it was on a thread about stopping overeating, and it’s really stuck with me. The OP was asking how she could stop bingeing on crap, and a pp said something like, ‘Eating good food in the right amount is more goddess-like. Treat yourself like a Goddess.’

I really liked that. It stuck with me. I like the idea of channelling an innner goddess much more than princessing. So I thought I’d start a thread of ideas about how to be a goddess for 2020.

So far I’ve thought of:

Take regular exercise - not in a sweaty gym, but running outside, yoga, stretching etc. Good for the mind as well as the body.

Eat well, and not too much. There’s not much goddess-like about shoving your hand down a tube of Pringles and getting crumbs down your front.

Drink more water.

Looking after skin, maybe use natural products?

Be creative and try to use more positive self-talk?

I don’t know if I’m barking up the wrong tree, but I’m feeling my way towards treating myself better and hoping it has a knock-on effect.

Any other potential goddesses out there with more ideas?

Welcome to the Grace, RosiePosie!

I completely get what everyone’s saying about posture! For a while I kept noticing I was walking hunched forward, like I was carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders. Now i consciously make an effort to pull my shoulders back, and it’s amazing how that can give you a psychological lift. Makes you look slimmer too.

I had a yoga class last night, which was lovely. When I got back DH had run me a nice bath, so I went to bed lovely and relaxed.

Those of you who are reading The Kindness Method - what do you think? I’m finding it astounding. I haven’t had an alcoholic drink for three nights and it’s so weird - it’s like a switch has gone off in my head.

Speaking of non-alcoholic drinks - I’ve just bought a pack of something called Three Spirit - has anyone tried them?

Finally, just a thought. Finding your inner Goddess is just that. Holding yourself in grace, treating yourself with awe, respect and love, and letting the effects of that shine through.

It’s not about holding yourself up to a higher standard and then berating yourself when you don’t achieve it.

If you are tired and need an energy boost, eat the damn cookies. But sit down, enjoy them - hell, put them on a pretty plate if you have the time.

Goddessing isn’t about not eating the cookies. It’s about not shoving them into your face while guiltily hanging over the sink to catch the crumbs while you wait for the kettle to boil.

Worship yourselves.

@RosieposiePuddingandPi I hear you on the parenting. We started the week well my yesterday and this morning I could feel myself getting grumpy when trying to get everyone out the door on time.

@Pinkarsedfly I think that was a the problem, I didn't really enjoy anything as I was scoffing them at my desk whilst working.

I know I'm rather late to the party but may I join too?

I'm 29, 30 this year and would like to enter my 30s a lot healthier in body and mind than I did my 20s (which tbh wouldn't be difficult. My mh was in a right state).

I really like the idea of 'goddessing' much more than princessing.

There's a certain power to it.

Goddesses have the power to change their worlds, though it doesn't happen in it's own they do still have to make it happen. That's a good allegory I think. Princess don't really have the same kind of control over their lives.

Have taken this week to reset a bit after Christmas now ds is back in school, and feeling more ready to tackle what needs to be tackled now a routine is back in order.

I'm starting small with a bit of yoga, some herbal tea (too bloody cold for water) and a shower with my posh smellies from Christmas.

Dp and I are both trying to get a bit fitter and healthier because we're going on holiday this year for the first time in years. Making cottage pie tonight which from scratch is pretty balanced. Going to have it with lots of lovely veg, maybe carrots and broccoli. There's already lots of veggies in the mince in the recipe I use and we have potatoes that need using up. Goddesses are not needlessly wasteful of their bounties! . I will be a benevolent goddess of hearth and home.

Hmmm, I've just realised that whilst I'm eating a delicious healthy meal, doing it sat on my derriere in front of the telly and spilling bits down my front is not so goddess-like!
I shall finish now I've started, but intend to do better tomorrow.
However - I did a half hour brisk walk, took my vitamins and continued my being presentable in public project.
This evening, I plan to polish my boots that I'm mostly living in

Hello my Grace!
I'm continuing with vitamins / skincare / limiting sugar / attitude. I have stacked on the weight over the last couple of years. I've been trying to organise my clothes so I'm wearing stuff that fits rather than stuff that used to fit. I noticed today that I actually look a lot better and not fat in the right size clothes. Which seems obvious, but it took me a while to catch on. So, goddesses, don't be afraid to wear the right size clothes, they hang way better than a size to small!
#goddessofthebleedinobvious

Good evening goddesses!

Today I've had some self care in the form of having my eyebrows threaded. Makes such a big difference.

Also drunk 2l of water, eaten five portions of fruit and veg. Completed MUTU core, MUTU intensive and been for a run.

Started reading 'How to be a badass' yesterday after it was recommended on here. If you read it, did you find your calling?

Well lovely grace I'm definitely reaping the benefits of being more Goddess-y - I've lost 8lbs in the last 10 days doing Fast800, I've been accepted into 2 programmes I applied for and have a gorgeous new hair cut. I've also been doing yoga everyday & my posture has definitely improved! Feeling very swishy & goddessy indeed!

Oh and @Pinkarsedfly I'm reading the Kindness Method too - what are your thoughts?

Morning all!
Thanks for the welcome

I had a lovely goddessy day yesterday - a healthy, tasty lunch, a walk in the fresh air and a nice early bedtime. I actually found that keeping in mind the spirit of this thread helped me keep good posture so my back felt less awful and trying to be a bit more graceful made me move a bit slower which sounds counterintuitive but it meant I was less flustered all day. Definitely something to continue!

Unfortunately I am definitely not feeling goddess like this morning as DH is away and both DC were up all night in shifts so I've had about 3 hours sleep and feel cranky and awful. I'm hoping drinking all the water will help me wake up a bit

PhoenixMama I think it’s excellent. I’m working my way through the maps and I’ve already learned some things about myself that I know will be really helpful.

I love the tone of it, too.

What an inspiring thread. I'm going to join you in becoming more goddess like if that's ok!
I'm 46, overweight (but trying to do something about that) I've got menopause symptoms and have a really stressful job.

I love the comment about hand down a pringles tube not being goddess behaviour! that needs to be my mantra!

So, I'm doing lots of weight loss stuff, going to the gym etc but I'm also planning on looking after myself more- I have to be well to work and mange everything so I need to invest the time in myself- God that sounds cringey!

I'm using my Clarins stuff everyday, today I'm going to go through my wardrobe and get rid of tatty stuff and I'm going to have a bit of a declutter- will report back later!

MinnieLatte welcome to the Grace!

And investing time in yourself doesn’t sound ‘cringey’; it sounds sensible. Essential, actually.

My copy of the kindness method arrived today and so far I'm very intrigued. Time will tell if it can break my many self destructive and non goddess like habits!

No yoga today as was in work and walk around 6/7 miles in my job. Will definitely be doing some tomorrow as it's really helping with my tight shoulders and calves.

Had an absolute nightmare day in work today , in that we were so quiet , the weather has been awful , and I’ve done less than 6000 steps
Hoping to get some fresh air tomorrow
However , my hair has been styled , earrings are in , make up has been applied and perfume has been dabbed
Hoping for an early night and some ( hemm hemm ) quality time with DH

I have decided that, for the moment at least, I am going to concentrate not so much no trying to lose weight (although I will be delighted if I do, & it remains a long term goal); instead I am focusing on sorting out my diet. Specifically, stopping eating all the crap that's making my migraines, IBS, & general tiredness worse. Some of it's unavoidable, but relying so heavily on convenience crap to save time is counterproductive. So no more. Home cooked food, fruit, yoghurt, lots of foods with probiotics in. Will be making more effort to "meal prep" (cringe) on my good days. If I feel better, I will be able to do more. I have enough stress at the moment as it is, TBH.

Have had a good start so far. Overnight oats for breakfast (big batch in the fridge) to have with fruit, Chocolate chia pudding for after dinner cravings. Lovely chicken, spinach & sweet potato curry with lots of turmeric tonight, some left over so will freeze it.

Had a bath yesterday, used my Korean Italy towels. It remains a matter of equal fascination & horror how much dead skin comes off...

I really struggle with drinking enough water. Before I got PG with DD, I always used to have a big drink of water just before bed, at least half a pint. I usually slept well & rarely woke needing the loo (& if I did, I drank another massive glassful), instead I just woke feeling refreshed. These days, I'm constantly exhausted & really struggling with insomnia at present. I'm going to try to get back into the bedtime water habit again. I think, as long as it doesn't further harm my sleep, it can't hurt me if I'm well hydrated while I'm asleep.

Skin is looking noticeably better since I've been making more effort. Have done a couple of face masks too.

DH bought me some chocolate, though. It is quite nice stuff, suppose I can probably manage a square or two...

Mixed day today, I didn't get as much done in the house as the youngest is teething and clingy but managed to sneak out for a run and drink lots of water/eat five portions of fruit and veg.

MUTU core was interrupted a lot by DH asking lots of questions that he could have worked out the answers for himself. 😡

@AwdBovril my nan used to say 'a little bit of what you fancy does you good' if that is some delicious chocolate then so be it!

morning all goddesses, had a very good day yesterday, got some jobs done, spent time with dh and the dgs then cooked a new recipie, only for mushrooms on toast but very tasty, fairly cheap and quite low in cals for a main meal, I am determined to cook new things this year, I feel stuck in rut of the same old same old everyday, I enjoy cooking but I think I have lost my mojo with it over the last couple of years, it does not help that i'm fairly restricted in what i can eat (have uc) so, more goddess like food is coming my way

Morning Goddesses...

Not had a very Goddess-like weekend. It’s been rather tough, what with one thing and another, and I’m feeling quite emotionally bruised today.

I’ve decided the most Goddess-like thing I can do today is be very gentle with myself. Read healing books, cook some wholesome food, rest up and get ready for the week ahead.

One thing I have learned this week is that wine is not my friend. I haven’t overdone it - just shared a bottle with DH over dinner on Friday and Saturday night, but on the heels of an alcohol-free week the difference in the way I felt, slept, looked and ate was marked.

Could I join... really as much to be able to find the thread, and be inspired by others...
I think this is what I want for 2020 -
less focus on superficial things and more on what really matters. Feeling better inside because I’m valuing myself and family more - and slowing down

Now in early retirement - but still have teenagers/ young adults who have health problems they need support with.

I tend to put everyone else first - and go for the quick fix of clothes shopping or wine to help me ‘enjoy’ life. I think there’s more to life!

Going to do the usual mundane housework and be available to my family (even DH has suddenly developed health issues - how much bad luck can there be?)

But take time for learning piano, practising art, reading, improving my cooking, learning a language. I do do yoga regularly- it does help with mindfulness and it stretches my body, which I love (cheaper than a massage).

Great thread x

Great thread! Loved reading all the suggestions. I think aiming to be a goddess is much more inspiring and empowering than being an insipid princess who always needs rescuing.

Another book recommendation -
"Why French Women don't Get Fat"
It's written by the CEO of Veuve Cliquot, a french woman living in New York. Very balanced. Lots of goddess-y type advice on losing weight and looking good whilst being kind to yourself and others. Her mantra is to not deprive yourself but to eat sensuously and sensibly. Unsurprisingly she doesn't recommend cutting out wine or champagne!
Eating sensuously and making a ritual of food to enjoy of every moment of an indulgent but small portion sounds very goddess-y. She definitely would not consider hand down a pringle packet goddess or french behaviour!

Goddess weekend here. Have been following my goddess rule that everything I do has to be useful or pleasurable (or both). This outlaws procrastination by playing with my phone so I have got so much tidying and sorting done! Have very goddess like kitchen. No exercise as recovering from v bad cold but have eaten well and started reading the kindness method as recommended up thread.

Have been thinking a lot about 'goddesses don't self sabotage'. Realised for me a key thing is not faffing in the morning so I can get to work on time which means I can finish earlier.

Thanks goddesses

Checking in for inspiration. Still getting over a nasty bug so have missed my yoga for a week. Tried today and found it so hard as still burning up and snotty. Sorted some bits for a job interview though, made overnight oats for breakfasts and will lay out work clothes before bed.

Morning Goddesses.

Pinkarsedfly sorry to hear about your tough weekend. I think this is when Goddess thinking helps but I always find it easier to do when things are going well.

I am off early to the gym, and will then be studying like mad as have missed a major deadline by a country mile. But as a Goddess I will shut up the Naggess in my head. She whispers horrible negative stuff about how stupid I am. My new incarnation as a Goddess will sort her out hopefully.

Hope you all have a good day!