What's it like to be beautiful?

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Just that really. Idly looking through some online gossip pages (I know) and seen a pic of David Beckham for example, and Helena Christensen. What's it like to go through life being very attractive? Any beauties out there want to share?

Never failing to 'pull' in a nightclub been ages since I last went clubbing but always got the guys I realise I'm boasting btw but it's true.

I was just thinking of a school that I worked in, in Spain. All of the teachers were English. There was one teacher that was ten times better looking, and nicer than the other teachers. The other teacher's were AWFUL to her. They constantly bitched about her to new teachers, they blamed her for all the mistakes, they gave her the most badly behaved students. Women can be really shocking to each other.

I was never cruel to her. And I will be able to look back at the end of my life , and be proud of myself that I wasn't cruel to some one, and made their life hell, due to sheer jealousy.

Please stop and think before you say something nasty to a pretty woman.

I think I was always the sort of person who people might look at and think - she'd be beautiful if she lost a bit of weight, made more of an effort with clothes, make up etc. Well when I was about 22/23 I did lose weight, wear better clothes, start putting make up on & I got a brief insight into what it's like. I met a man who was stop you in your tracks gorgeous and charming and funny with it (but not in an arrogant way). I was besotted but thought I never stood a chance. Well we crossed paths again at a party and got together and I just couldn't believe it. It was just a fling that lasted about a month but it did feel like I was living someone else's life. Anyway then something bad happened and I stopped looking so good and 15 years later I am perfectly plain.

Lauren Paul - the wife of Aaron Paul in breaking bad, is another woman that waa bullied for her looks. Google her - she is beautiful.

She was bullied so badly that she atempted suicide.

This IS a big problem amongst women. And we need to change it.

Are men like this to good looking men

If my husband is representative of 'men', they have no clue whether other men are good looking or not.

I think, in general, women are not as supportive to each other, as men are to men.

I am thinking of my ex boyfreind slapping his friend on the back , telling him that he loved him so much, that he was his bro for life, and he would do anything for him.

My male friend agrees with me on this, he thinks that women are awful to other women.

I have a theory on this. Now, and in recent history, women have been the ones with less power.

And if you take power from people - they start turning on each other.

So - women giving each other more support - will actually bring more power to women, all around the world

I know a girl who equates people talking/looking at her lip injections as bullying because of how attractive she is. I'm not envious in the slightest but her lips look bad & it's quite distracting when you talk to her.

@snottysystem ok but what about girls who are bullied at school because of their looks. Google Lauren Paul. I am sure everyone will think that she is incredibly attractive. And she was bullied so badly at school that she tried to kill herself.

There seem to be women on here who say that it just doesn't happen - that women get bullied because of being pretty.

Some of the posts on here are yet another example of women being vicious and unsympathetic to each other.

How, as women, can we be nicer to each other?

I get stared at a lot. Asked out a lot. I do have problems with insecurity from my male friends' or male colleagues' wives or partners (I should point out I have my own very lovely DH).

Learned at an early age to avoid the rich twats who only wanted eye candy.

I also work in a supremely dull bit of the financial services field (though I love it) and my looks definitely make me stand out. I happily also have degrees and qualifications coming out of my ears but I do wonder whether I get taken less seriously because (or am just paranoid): red curly hair, green eyes, hourglass figure. So if I am not careful I can veer towards wearing a lot of dark colours, glasses, flats, fitted shapes but very covered up. Whereas my natural style personality is more dramatic and colourful.

My friends are all gorgeous and I have never really struggled making friends as an adult but I do go out of my way to be nice to women.

I definitely see the privilege/ease of life that is attached to being beautiful: people give you things for free, you get the best tables in restaurants, the best service, you get incredible work opportunities (cover of industry magazines, media interviews etc).

How, as women, can we be nicer to each other?How, as women, can we be nicer to each other?

Perhaps by not making vast, negative generalisations about women, as you and some of your fellow self-described 'beauties' have been doing?

Well my brother is 6ft 2 and very very good looking. Other girls would try to befriend me just to have a chance with him. But he never had problems with men. Although all his friends were equally good looking and often tried to chat up me up, much to my embarrassment

I think men are entitled, feeling as though they can have an opinion on women's faces and bodies, that they own us and the space we occupy, and unfortunately some women have lapped it up, trying to make up for their own shattered confidence by wanting to bring all other women down. I was once told that I should find a way to 'level the playing field' by my own sister.

@IcedPurple you are perfectly illustrating my point, with your nasty words to the women who have said that they are good looking on this thread.

Why so bitter?

@IcedPurple you are perfectly illustrating my point, with your nasty words to the women who have said that they are good looking on this thread

I would say you are proving my point actually.

All I'm saying is that several - not all - of the self-proclaimed 'beauties' have been posting extremely negative comments about women - all women, except perhaps their fellow 'beauties' - for quite some time now. That's just a fact. Read back through your own posts for some examples. Not sure what that has to do with female solidarity.

@icedpurple. I wasn't talking about myself with regards to bullying. I used two examples of other beautiful women being bullied. One woman - who I worked with - and I saw her life being made hell.

Another - a celebrity - who tried to kill herself, after being bullied for her looks.

I do think that it is a big problem, and needs to change

@IcedPurple and why are you saying "beauties" in inverted commas.

What is wrong with someone saying that they are attractive?

I knew a guy who you would describe as beautiful - hes very good looking and done modelling. I've heard other (straight) men describe him as such. I was slightly in awe when i first saw him but the more i got to know him and find out what he was like, (as a general acquaintance, never in a romantic way) i found he came across as self centred and quite selfish....and somehow that made him less attractive.

No, you've been making huge, negative generalisations about all women and then complaining that women aren't 'supportive' of one another. Men, of course, are just fine.

The world you're describing is alien to me. Not saying women never get bullied out of jealousy (though personally I've not witnessed it) and if it does then that's obviously wrong. But I simply do not believe that most women are horrible to other women just because they are good-looking. In fact, most women admire other good-looking women and there is plenty of evidence that shows that good-looking people - both men and women - do better than their plainer peers.

why are you saying "beauties" in inverted commas.a

Because I have absolutely no way of knowing what these women look like. I only have their own description of themselves to go by. Maybe they are indeed ravishing beauties, inspiring venemous jealousy everywhere they go. Or maybe they're not. It's hardly unknown for people to overestimate their own beauty. Whether that's true in any or all of the above cases, I cannot know. Hence the " ".

I was considered attractive and got told that a lot but to be honest the look I went for when younger was very little clothing and lots of make up so that got alot of attention. I always got attention of men it wasnt always nice attention. I was usually told by women I made friends with they didnt like me at first, thought I was a bitch , stuck up ect they never told me why this was and I didn't do anything to them and we did become friends so I dont really know why that was. I also had women I didnt know call me a slag ect but I think that was probably more the way I dressed than my looks. Men often thought I was flirting with them when I was just being friendly and most of my Male friends made a pass at me at some point. I'm in my 30s now and dont really get attention now I'm usually in jeans, trainers ect and feel the response I usually get from both men and women is different now so I do think my personal style at the time had slot to do with my experience I was never beautiful though.

One from the other side of the gender divide: I had a boyfriend once who was so beautiful all the women in a room used to stop what they were doing and turn around when he walked in. He was very alternative but tbh the long hair etc just made him look even more Jesus/Khal Drogo like. Although he liked the ease with which he could get with women he was a serial monogamist at heart and quite untrusting, I think because he was seen as a fantasy rather than a real person. He wasn’t very macho but he looked it and he was under constant pressure to live up to that, which he hated.

I thought I was considered very good looking when I was younger....but maybe reading this thread not because I haven't really experienced other women being horrible to me! (Yes to women in nightclubs....but nowhere else)

@angell84 I just googled her & whilst I think she is pretty, she's not my idea of beautiful, like say Christy Turlington.

Im just saying I question how much vitriol one receives that is based on looks alone & not attitude for example. Samantha Brick says women hate her.
Beauty is subjective, plenty of women think Poldark is gorgeous I don't see it but think Tom Hardy is beautiful which others don't see.
If you look at successful singers, models & actresses many of them are beautiful. They would encounter other women in many areas of their work, so if all these hateful women were sabotaging their careers they must have had other women who supported them. When I was modelling & working in fashion in an industry that is 90% women I was incredibly supported by other women.

I just don't buy the trope that all average looking women hate beautiful women.

So basically, according to iced, you're damned either way. Beautiful of not.

Fuck me

*So basically, according to iced, you're damned either way. Beautiful of not.

Fuck me*

As you wish.

But you've essentially attributed a view to me which has nothing whatsoever to do with anything I've actually said.

You see a lot of women are beautiful but it doesn't mean that they are universally attractive to all men. I can objectively say that Brad Pitt is very beautiful as is David Bekham, but I don't fancy them. So I don't see why it matters which woman is objectively beautiful and which is not. I'm pretty certain that not all men like the same features. The world is a much more interesting place than that.